Honestly, the love of your life might be very different and might not turn out to be who you once love when you marry her too. Sometimes, the character compatibility, the same interests, conversation topics, phase of life and commitment was what actually bring you through. So when you are getting married, you need to know the person and look at how he/she treats him/her family and friends. Love is a process and a continuation after marriage. If you could not stand her or change her before the wedding, you will not be able to stand her more and don/t think about changing her after the wedding! So If your gut told you she was not the one, then maybe it was better to call it off. But then again, no matter you are a man or woman, you tends to think too much or question yourself when the wedding dates are close. It will be better for you to cool down and ask yourself what you love about this woman you are marrying and whether you can live with her for the rest of your life. Marriage is a lifelong friendship which stand through the test of time regardless of circumstances. You will never be "FULLY" ready, trust yourself that you will be ready when the time comes. In fact you will realized that what you have been training as a man for these many years will put you through the test in a single marriage. Being a man, being a boyfriend, being a husband, being a father, being the grandfather......till the day you die, you will learn and be a better man through the process and phase in life. Take life with a cool stride and be ready and prepared when "shit just happens".
Personal experience, I once had someone I love "the most" and always thought she was the one but found that she was not compatible with lots of character clashes with me. Some clashes just could not be resolved and we could not settle for it. We broke off and she move on to marry another person. I was hurt at first and had a few relationship after that and it did not turn up well too. I always prefer independent women but independent women tends to have strong opinions which often quarrels with me, and I being much a MCP. Then I resorted to fate, I tell myself, I will change my mindset and find a woman who understands and listen to me who are less independent but could support and compliment me. Then BINGO! I married the woman I "love less".... and not "the most" love. As we gotten to know each other and got married, we shared our lives together, she listens to my grumbles, supported me and be with me through the tough and happy times, our first child, the endless waking up at night from baby cries, the warmth she gave me when I was sick.....the process was priceless and I actually loved my wife more than I first loved her. Through marriage, you learn that it is a commitment, a process which stand through the test of time, a continual learning process, a process to better understand yourself and stretches your capabilities to the max....in the process...makes you a better man!
In fact there will always be better ones along the way, so what if your wife could also find a better one when you are married? Unfair right? Haha. What seems to you as "better" might be shallower than what it actually is and what you think. Aka the moon is always rounder at other people's place. So just stick to what you have when you gotten married and focus on that! Not to look around any more. If you still do, you probably not ready to be someones husband yet. I will still look at the better choices around me when I was married, but I know what seems to be "better" might not translate to the actual "better"! Hahaha. Pretty deep ah! Remember, marriage is only the very first step. Be prepared for what is to come. Good luck!
The 2 cents from a Daddy of 2 and a Hubby of a wonderful wife whom I grew in love day by day which teaches me how to be a real man!
