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godblessme

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recap: found out the guy I was seeing is married, he claimed he is not on good term with the wife and currently separated, and she moved out a couple of months ago which I later found out are most likely lies.

what will you do? tell the wife about what the guy was doing (claiming he was single and have been seeing me in the past a couple of months)? Or, just stay quiet?
as for the purpose, I know that the wife is my age and if I were her, I would like to know the truth. (I find it difficult to tolerate unfaithful behavior/ guys). also, hopefully, can stop him to continue appearing on dating app (to which I would assume people signed up are single and available| my assumption could be wrong/ dated) and prevent other girls from engaging him.

Yet, I concern that she might blame me for everything before hearing all the facts from me (I guess I need to take some blame as I should be more alert to all those red flags). I've never encountered such people (potentially in a happy marriage and still claimed he is single).

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godblessme said:
recap: found out the guy I was seeing is married, he claimed he is not on good term with the wife and currently separated, and she moved out a couple of months ago which I later found out are most likely lies.

what will you do? tell the wife about what the guy was doing (claiming he was single and have been seeing me in the past a couple of months)? Or, just stay quiet?
as for the purpose, I know that the wife is my age and if I were her, I would like to know the truth. (I find it difficult to tolerate unfaithful behavior/ guys). also, hopefully, can stop him to continue appearing on dating app (to which I would assume people signed up are single and available| my assumption could be wrong/ dated) and prevent other girls from engaging him.

Yet, I concern that she might blame me for everything before hearing all the facts from me (I guess I need to take some blame as I should be more alert to all those red flags). I've never encountered such people (potentially in a happy marriage and still claimed he is single).

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His wife may not believe you. It'll be hard to convince the wife as you are a stranger.
 
I would stay away from him get out of his life as much as I could. I will choose to not alert his wife. Sometimes certain things are best left unsaid for the best of everyone and of course myself. If this guy choose to be unfaithful to his wife or continue to do the same to others, there's no way you can stop him as this is just he's character and choice. I will focus on moving on in life faster and forget totally about him totally.. cauSe you Deserve better.
 
Change your contact number, block him off from all social media accounts (Instagram, Facebook, dating apps etc), keep yourself busy and move on in life.
 
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Its best to let him settle his issues first before you intend to go any further with him..at this stage.. is he heading for any divorce or is he just looking for fun outside???
 
Chocogal said:
I would stay away from him get out of his life as much as I could. I will choose to not alert his wife. Sometimes certain things are best left unsaid for the best of everyone and of course myself. If this guy choose to be unfaithful to his wife or continue to do the same to others, there's no way you can stop him as this is just he's character and choice. I will focus on moving on in life faster and forget totally about him totally.. cauSe you Deserve better.
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my initial thoughts are: I am aware that they don't have kids yet. so if the girl want to make any decision, wo kids it's much earlier. but after talking to many of my friends, I agree with you that keeping silent and staying away from him is the best.
 
Mamabear said:
Hi..
Its best to let him settle his issues first before you intend to go any further with him..at this stage.. is he heading for any divorce or is he just looking for fun outside???
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thanks for your concern. I agree that it's his job to figure out what he wants. well whether he is heading for anything or just want a break, I literally don't bother about it now.
 
godblessme said:
my initial thoughts are: I am aware that they don't have kids yet. so if the girl want to make any decision, wo kids it's much earlier. but after talking to many of my friends, I agree with you that keeping silent and staying away from him is the best.
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Probably when it just happened you want to get it back it him for all the hurt he brought you. But in months to come when you look back you will be glad and be proud of yourSelf you walk out of it bravely without causing hurt to anyone. I hope he will feel guilty for having an affair even knowing he's married. He should have respected his marriage, his wife, himself and of cause you.. first before he even wants to have an affair. The greatest victim is actually his wife.. cauSe she's kept in the dark probably I hope forever.

Jiayou godblessme, you can do it and you will be able to find someone better than that beast.
 
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