I cxl ROM due to loan shark issue before wedding but I still went thru wedding dinner with him because he promised won't gamble again.
On and off I found him join his dad for online Soccer betting, he yelled to me don't spoilt the relationship between him and his dad, coz Soccer is their only topic can talk.
Last two months I found that my money is missing, even 5dollar Ringgit he also took it for gamble. And I suddenly feel want to see my gold necklace and missing too. I call him he nvr answer so I call his dad, his dad said call me back after check with his Son. After half hour he call back and admit his Son 'Borrow' my gold for some 週轉 and he will get back to me soon, I refuse due to wedding his family not even give me any gold so my friends pity me and brought one for me. The worst is his dad yell to me and said, he is my Husband, borrow my gold a while is not big deal, they won't redeem it back for me, I have to wait his next month salary, if don't want to wait also have to wait. Until I threaten to file a police report, he got advance salary from his boss to redeem it back my gold necklace.
He blame me too harsh on him, he tot this will settle internally instead of involved both family members, and I don't give him any face, he blame me to request 1k for the Australia trip, but air tkt, hotel, ferry tkt all settled by me, I don't think there is any issue to save 1k for 4months. But he blame me he gamble is all bcoz of me. He know he owe me
Too much so must get more money to make me happy. He ask me to give him the last chance, he pass me his bank token for me to manage his salary, first month after redeem my gold I trsf 1k to his friends tat keep ask me money, end up he complaint to my family I left 400 for his whole month expenses. But his salary is redeem gold and paid his friend's debt not for me to shopping.
I found NAMS at IMH for gambling Counselling he never attend after went once. He disappeared whole month. He never find me, call me or text me unless I text him. I msg his Friend tat same workplace with him, his Friend reply sarcastic if I want back this relationship then don't mentioned loan shark, stolen case anymore. Yes he made mistake, but me as a Wife have to guide him and let him got face. Since loan shark nvr call me threaten anymore, money I can get from his pay, gold necklace alrd redeem it back, so I shouldn't mention anymore and it's past.
He not even look for me, call me and text me to make up the relationship and yet I have to find him first to give him face then he will love me more. But for me, the sadness I been through when keep rcvd loan shark calls, and found my money and gold missing, he sold my Apple Watch, the disappointed I had, he nvr do anything to ease my pain. He told me he haven't forgive himself so he can't find me, wait him forgive himself then only will look for me, I just go do whatever I like. I can get my money back from his bank account monthly. $1000. I helped his gamble debts, and wedding expenses about 50k. Will he really be will bank in his salary to same bank for 50months?
Sound like he don't want this relationship anymore. We haven't ROM, he can leave without any burden.
Now I look at the mirror, I am wasted too much time on him until 33, put on weight, unhappy face. I hardly concentrate on work or need to go toilet to cry for some time daily, but still smile happily in front of colleagues.
Pls advice me what can I do to get out from this sadness. Or any cheaper Counselling tat can intro to me, at least I can talk to someone. Is too torture to bear all sadness alone. He ask me gave up HK job tat I work for 6years and came Sg for him, but now I alone in Sg without any friends and family accompany, I really going crazy.
On and off I found him join his dad for online Soccer betting, he yelled to me don't spoilt the relationship between him and his dad, coz Soccer is their only topic can talk.
Last two months I found that my money is missing, even 5dollar Ringgit he also took it for gamble. And I suddenly feel want to see my gold necklace and missing too. I call him he nvr answer so I call his dad, his dad said call me back after check with his Son. After half hour he call back and admit his Son 'Borrow' my gold for some 週轉 and he will get back to me soon, I refuse due to wedding his family not even give me any gold so my friends pity me and brought one for me. The worst is his dad yell to me and said, he is my Husband, borrow my gold a while is not big deal, they won't redeem it back for me, I have to wait his next month salary, if don't want to wait also have to wait. Until I threaten to file a police report, he got advance salary from his boss to redeem it back my gold necklace.
He blame me too harsh on him, he tot this will settle internally instead of involved both family members, and I don't give him any face, he blame me to request 1k for the Australia trip, but air tkt, hotel, ferry tkt all settled by me, I don't think there is any issue to save 1k for 4months. But he blame me he gamble is all bcoz of me. He know he owe me
Too much so must get more money to make me happy. He ask me to give him the last chance, he pass me his bank token for me to manage his salary, first month after redeem my gold I trsf 1k to his friends tat keep ask me money, end up he complaint to my family I left 400 for his whole month expenses. But his salary is redeem gold and paid his friend's debt not for me to shopping.
I found NAMS at IMH for gambling Counselling he never attend after went once. He disappeared whole month. He never find me, call me or text me unless I text him. I msg his Friend tat same workplace with him, his Friend reply sarcastic if I want back this relationship then don't mentioned loan shark, stolen case anymore. Yes he made mistake, but me as a Wife have to guide him and let him got face. Since loan shark nvr call me threaten anymore, money I can get from his pay, gold necklace alrd redeem it back, so I shouldn't mention anymore and it's past.
He not even look for me, call me and text me to make up the relationship and yet I have to find him first to give him face then he will love me more. But for me, the sadness I been through when keep rcvd loan shark calls, and found my money and gold missing, he sold my Apple Watch, the disappointed I had, he nvr do anything to ease my pain. He told me he haven't forgive himself so he can't find me, wait him forgive himself then only will look for me, I just go do whatever I like. I can get my money back from his bank account monthly. $1000. I helped his gamble debts, and wedding expenses about 50k. Will he really be will bank in his salary to same bank for 50months?
Sound like he don't want this relationship anymore. We haven't ROM, he can leave without any burden.
Now I look at the mirror, I am wasted too much time on him until 33, put on weight, unhappy face. I hardly concentrate on work or need to go toilet to cry for some time daily, but still smile happily in front of colleagues.
Pls advice me what can I do to get out from this sadness. Or any cheaper Counselling tat can intro to me, at least I can talk to someone. Is too torture to bear all sadness alone. He ask me gave up HK job tat I work for 6years and came Sg for him, but now I alone in Sg without any friends and family accompany, I really going crazy.
this ex to be is really useless and unscrupulous. He's not even fit to be called a man. My lawyer advised me to take the deal otherwise it will drag on and add on to my legal bills. He has not only caused me so much damage in my life during marriage, he is still causing damage to me in divorce. I hope karma catches up with him and crashes his private hire car one day.