"si dian jin (四点金)"


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can pm me your lobang? yr 0.3caret diamond for $600 is gd deal. HTB got mine from SooKee and it was $1k plus bec it was brillant rose diamond but i tink v ex still. tks!
 
USD$5 for a tiny diamond? if buy about 28 pieces of 0.10caret diamond to do an eternity band, how much does your fren charge to buy? I was quoted $4.5k for it last wk when we asked ard
 
Wow that's really cheap. Just a simple question, will i be very stoopid if i wanna opt for zirconia instead of the regular diamonds? I am in the mood of preserving the world hahahaha~ But as for the 四点金, nothing beats a pair of the thick dragon and phoenix bangles. I like~
 
My wedding is on 3rd April and I can't wait for it to be over. It has been a rather difficult journey for both HTB and I due to the different expectations from our parents.

Initially my parents said there's no need for any jewellery so I told my PIL that if they want to give, they give. It is not a must. So my MIL said that she won't buy me any. If I want, I will choose from what she has. Of course, I told her never mind, I don't need any. Now, my parents said must have a pair of earrings and bangle from my HTB and we are now looking everywhere for suitable ones.

I told my HTB that I will pay for it on my own since my parents are the ones who asked for it. HTB kept saying that I am only going to wear it for a day, don't waste so much money on it. I told him these jewellery is for his parents' face but he said his family not bothered by all these.

Wedding was meant to be a happy occasion but I guess when it comes to MONEY, it's always very sticky.
 
Bought 2 sets of SiDianJing 916

1st set from Ban Cheong in AMK (ugly jewelry box), served by Helen. At first I still tot she very good but when I return home, my mom said I kena chop cos the gold workmanship price she charged is so damn expensive. I bought 1 necklace, 1 ring and 2 bangles here.

Is good to come here for rings and bangles as they have a very good variety. No point going there for necklace (their nicest of all necklace has been bought by me), or earring (very oppiang).

2nd set bought from Onn Cheong in Chinatown. Served by Wendy (best svc ever), really good, go the extra mile to find my necklace for me. The selection here is the best. I went to every gold shop in Chinatown and AMK. Onn Cheong offers the best price. Summore this time I bring my mom along, we bargain even more! LOL. And Wendy gave me alot of jewelry boxes etc. One for each items (I bought necklace, 2 rings, 2 ear rings), she also give me a big big box to fixed SiDianJing as a set. End of the day, she gave me an umbrella. LOL. Not that we 'greedy' for these items la. But compared to Ban Cheong, here is really much much better.

Here can buy anything except bangles. Their selection here not as good as Ban Cheong
 
Dinitegrity,
How much did you pay for your SDJ? I was checking the prices around and I think we need to budget about 3k.
My HTB is paying for it and we want go the the most value for money jewellery shop
 
Hi Missy,

I think your budget of $3k for one set is more than enough for 916 gold to be realistic.

If you want the most value for money, I would really only suggest Onn Cheong in Chinatown. Look for Wendy, she is really good. Tell her a lady intro u [you just have to mention i came to look for a necklace and is sold out, and Wendy (her) actually went all the way down to supplier's store to get the last piece for me].

Wendy really very good service. After she found the necklace, she called me and reserve the necklace one day for me. I went dw the next day, initiatly buy that very expensive necklace until buy so many things (as listed above). LOL

She will know what is good for you de. She know I very skinny, so she don reccomend many stuffs on me. Like a matching wristlet (as my mom wanna get a matching one for me), I don like the design on the wristlet, only like the design on my necklace, so Wendy also help to advise my mom say the wristlet really not that 'wowing' effect like the necklace. Can don buy de. She wont just try and make sale de, what she shown me and as per her svc shows me that she is out to build r/s w cust rather than just making sale.
 
Thanks Wendy! i checked online and found 2 On Cheong shop in Chinatown. One in South Bridge Road and another in New bridge Road. Will go to both of them
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Hi Missy, I am not Wendy. Wendy is the name of the SA i reccomended. Kindly read properly.

As well if you view the website, it stated clearly that one is a branch and the other is a HQ which is for those office ppl working. Not for customer.

Kind READ with care. Thanks
 
I am a Teochew bride. My MIL says that we don't have to worry about the SDJ because she has alot of gold so she will just give me from what she have.
Is this ok for Teochews? Or need new set? Please advise the tradition for Teochews.

Thanks!
 
i am a teochew too and i have heard that usually, teochew brides will have SDJ but for me, if my future PIL offer it to me, i will take a token however, if its going to come from by HTB then i might just skip everything because so far, everything is paid by him alone.
from our home to our banquet and i think he have done alot for me and our happiness is more important than SDJ really.
i dont wanna further stress him about the SDJ

many times, the SDJ is only to show others that you have married well and things like that but whether we have married well or not... time will tell. cannot be determined by gold pieces lah.

i agree that if PIL volunteer, its good because you will feel doted on. if they don't i feel its because might not have alot of money to do that.
 
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Hi All,

I am a teochew and i am going to shop around for si dian jing. Does anyone have any recommendations on shops that sell alot of varierty for shi dian jing with pure gold and pure gold with some mixed white gold as well.
i like to go for nice nice and modern shi dian jing so that i can wear it on usual days as well.and not just buy and keep..

Thanks for help
 
Hi Chezzybear,
When you said pure gold, are you talking about 999 gold? Generally the necklaces, rings and earrings are made with 916 gold (cos’ 999 is too ‘soft’) but the ‘long feng zhuo’ (LFZ aka dragon phoenix bangle) will be mostly in 999 gold.

I guess the big name in gold jewelry will be still Poh Heng. I just got my SDJ with my FH & MIL at the IMM outlet yesterday. They have some really nice & modern designs in yellow or mixed gold. Some shops that sell yellow gold will be Chip Lee, Tian Po, Royal Dragon & Harlyn Gems (the last two can found in Jurong Point). Last month I also came across a gold jeweler in West Coast Plaza which offer some pretty nice designs too but we decided to stick with Poh Heng cos’ it’s a more trusted name in the market.

My MIL was pretty open in letting me choose my own SDJ so in end I picked a diamond WG necklace & matching diamond WG earrings, a 999 LFZ and a 916 ring. Actually my mum & FIL think I should just pick all yellow gold (cos’ of its of appreciating value while diamonds have no value). I can understand where they are coming from but I agreed with you that we should also get something we can/will wear on most days too (otherwise such a waste to just tuck in the safe & pass down to next generation which might not even like the design you choose lol). Anyway I feel SDJ is something of significant sentimental value, not something we will sell/pawn to make profit so investment in commodities should be made separately ha. That’s why I choose 2 pieces of items that I will wear and the other 2 pieces which I will keep for life. But seem like I overshot the budget & I feel kinda guilty that my MIL gotta spend $5.5k on my SDJ. My MIL said it was alright as long as I like it but I still feel guilty cos’ they are not exactly rich folks (above average but not exactly affluent). I hope my PILs wun perceive me as greedy in choosing the SDJ cos’ I honestly wanted to keep the total to 3k+ but I dun wanna force myself to choose something (cheaper) which I dun like & wun wear too..

Hey BTBs,
Is there a “market rate†on SDJ? Is $5.5k too much?
 
Another jewellery shop to add is On Cheong. At Chinatown... Quite like their designs and good service. I bought my SDJ from there. Spent about $3k+ & it's 916 gold "tinted" with some white... not sure if this is how I should describe... but it is still considered 916.
They have nice 999 jewellery set too but if for daily wear, 999 mey not be very suitable cos like what blueangel had mentioned, it's softer...

Hmm... blueangel, if u feel bad, maybe for PinJin, u return more and keep lesser if your GDL is not over yet?
 
hi, i googled and came across this post.
Im currently planning on my marriage and like what all believe that, if you MIL dotes on you, she will get you one set of SDJ but for me, i cant expect anything like that.. To put it nicely in words, my MIL-to-be have very westernise thinking... but for some stuffs only... she dont believe in that, neither did she mention anything in getting the SDJ and all.. i wont be surprise if on the day when i get married, during the tea ceremony, she only give an ang bao and tt's it... Im actually quite sad... but on the other hand, my mom have promised to give me her SDJ because she got 3 sets when she got married.. one from MIL, one from my dad and one from my mom's mom... Actually i envy how my mom was being doted.. Somehow i dont look forward to getting married at times cos i have so many unhappy abt my MIL to be.. first was banquet.. that she never intended to have.. and says that it will be very troublesome.. Tell me so many excuses which i felt unfair about. Cos your daughter can hold a wedding.. I'm also a mom's child.. esp when my dad isnt around, my mom will hope that i marry well.. and that my dad wont be worried abt me when he is looking down from above.
 
My MIL will still buy, but I suggested she get from neighourhood shops instead, just for the sake of tradition..simple simple will do, no need waste $$..
 
@ Panda – actually how much the PinJin will be returned, is really up to our parents but I guess we could try to influence their decision making? =P Yah, I have sorta hinted to my parents abt this…initially a bit hard to bring up the topic but luckily they caught my hints keke.. I am grateful that my parents that they din follow my grandmother’s tradition (of insisting 10 tables, $2,888 (never really return) PJ & SDJ). My parents are not taking any tables (cos’ I told them I am co-sharing the banquet cost with my HTB) & my PIL are not chipping in for the wedding expenses (my HTB dun want them to do so too) so I hope they will pass back any red packets (collected from their relatives) to us (since my HTB din wanna tell them to do so too).

@ Kah Li – dun be too upset…getting hitched is a happy occasion so be happy & dun worry too much ok…maybe yr future MIL is just really westernized in that aspect? Maybe you can share your feeling with your HTB (dun bottle things up), he may be able to tell you why his mum behaves this way (could be a intrinsic characteristic? =P). But I must confess it’s already quite stressful at times with the wedding preps & on top of that, gotta worry abt in-laws issue (& leaving our comfort zone!)...just hope our in-laws can be open-minded. Are you going to stay with her after the wedding?

@ Doris – are you choosing yourself or just let her buy & give you during GDL / Tea ceremony? I think better choose yourself (if you have the choice), else if you dun like at all, then really waste $$$ but anyway buy gold wun waste $$$, it’s an appreciating asset! Hee..
 
hi ladies.. just to share my sorrows....my AD coming soon in Dec....

MIL told FH that she wont be buying "si dian jin" for me because she say "gold prices so expensive now. waste $$$ since u young people also dont wear these days" my FH agrees with him and tell me dunwan...

But whats makes me so angry is.. MIL say she will LEND me her bracelet/Bangle to wear during the tea ceremony and show my mum that she actually buy thing for me.... FH ask me to lie to my mum say MIL got buy SDJ for me... i was so upset lo.... never give me SDJ already very wei qu me le.. still ask me to lie to my mum.... (FH super side his family de)

actually i wouldnt have mind if she's not buying anything or maybe jus a small token can le but i am super upset by the word LEND lo... i may sound super xiao qi la... but makes me feel so sad... I feel that she doesnt really dote on me this or buay gian me daughter-in-law...

super upset.
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My MIL also said she won't give me SDJ cos she's not Teochew (but I'm Teochew lor) & gold $ is expensive. To make things worse, my SIL told my HTB that SDJ is supposed to be given by BTB's parents, not MIL.

I was furious with my SIL, and chose to update my parents abt it. I was touched that my parents who were not happy about this incident chose buy me SDJ cos they worry that I'll look empty on my AD.

Somehow our own parents always loves us most.
 
It doesn’t matter if groom’s side is Teochew or not, as long if the bride is a Teochew, the MIL should give SDJ (unless both sides dun mind). Maybe your HTB can gently correct his mum & sister on their misconception. In fact, some MIL will still give SDJ to DIL even the bride may not be a Teochew. Yes, gold is very expensive & youngsters may not like wearing yellow gold but its always nice to get the future DIL (if within the MIL means) a small token…no need for extravagance…its the thoughts that count…
 
@Mimi; Its already hurting that my MIL has already said it "LOUD & CLEAR" to HTB that she isnt keen to give me SDJ. And now, my MIL tells her reilative (directly in front of me) that she's having headache that I want SDJ.

Seriously dont know why she's doing this. Its not as if I'm desperate for her SDJ.
 
Hi everyone, i am not a teochew but my HTB is. His mum says wana give SDJ but i don't really need it cuz cuz i cant wear it often.. How do I tell her I really don't want? Isn't this custom only for Teochew brides? Or as long as either side is Teochew then have to have SDJ?
 
aiya just tell them gold is very cheap loh..so much cheaper than diamond. 1 pair of earrings only 1k plus compared to my existing diamond earrings almost 4k and the gold ones are bigger!
 
Oh and on the other hand, my mum mentioned that I have to sew my dowry on a pillow or something. Who does that? I have never heard of that before..
 
sacchar1n3 : Yup. as long as either side is teochew,u will have SDJ. Unless the MIL nv give. My bf family teochew. Me hokkien. My MIL give me SDJ. For the gold price now quite exp. Me choose all small small light light de. Anyway my SA from poh heng told me per gram $68 been holding for 2 weeks le, so anytime will increase soon...
 
Min, thanks for the info! My bf thinks that SDJ has to be paid by him. But i though it should be paid by his parents?

So how much was your SDJ in total?
 
Hey babes

Just to check with y'all.

I'm a teochew however I do not want to throw any traditional wedding - tea ceremony, banquet... etc. My dad is a traditional teochew, how should I go about talking to him on it? Am i being very rude? My paternal's grandparents are still alive... How?

Btw, my HTB's mom passed away long ago and his dad remarried - not in touch anymore. His only kin is his sis.

I do not want a lavish wedding despite knowing my dad will be very sad because i'm the only child and he has a lot of biz friends, etc. How uh?
 
HI babe cheryl

think u can still throw a simple dinner .

should be possible as last week i attended a simple dinner which was held by my cousin at a hotel in corporthine king hotel recently and all tables were from the bride side and the groom's mum was present. did not see any relatives of the groom.
 
sacchar1n3: My mum just bought me å«å¦† over the weekend & she mentioned about the sewing part which surprised me too.

Back in d old days, they don't have jewelry boxes which we usually get when we buy jewelry set from jewelry shop. Even if they did, d box dont have the 'hooks' for u to hang ur necklace, bracelet, etc. So d BTB gotta sew d å«å¦† onto d cushion of d jewelry box / pillow.

Hee, d jewelry shop that I went to still have both d modern & d traditional boxes!! I chose d traditional one, so I'll b sewing my å«å¦† on it. I think its really special & Iike d retro feel to it. Can show my kids next time. LOL.

Oh ya, FYI, gold price for 916 gold is still $68/gram when I bought my set last Sun.
 
Me just had my GDL last sat. My mum gave me 10 pieces gold. She gave me a box which sje went chinatown to buy for me to put the gold. My dad also gave me 10 gold... All in seperate boxes. Mum nv mention need to sew....
 
Hi All! Am in the midst of planning my wedding (Nov 2012) and MIL has mentioned to HTB that she want to give me Si Dian Jin, and asked me to check with my mum if it's OK, or if she wan follow Canto custom (HTB is Teochew, I'm Cantonese).

My mum actually joked and said should ask for Si Dian Zhuan instead! That made me a bit unhappy as she knows my PIL are not well-off. MIL has said that I should choose it for myself, to make sure it's something that I like.

With gold prices going up now, am just wondering if $1-2K is sufficient to buy a simple set of SDJ that isn't all yellow gold? I want something simple that I will wear after the wedding, and at the same time out of consideration for my ILs, I want to keep the cost down as low as possible.

Any advice?
 
@ kitminish

Yupyup my mum did say to follow HTB's side custom, therefore SDJ.

Just wondering if 1-2K is enough to get a simple, no diamond, set of SDJ?
 
My future MIL got me the SDJ as in one pair of earrings make up 两点. She got me a diamond bracelet and said that since my wrist is small, she will cut out a short string of diamonds out from the bracelet and make it into a pendant for the necklance and altogether makes it 四点 - 4 pieces of jewellery..
 

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