Should relatives and friends check wedding angbao rates?

[kaixun]

I'm not sure if it's me or what... but I don't really feel comfortable knowing relatives and friends check out wedding ang bao rates online before deciding what to give.. I mean they are my relatives and friends that I have invited to share my joy. Cant help being disappointed.

 

[traciee]

Well. Can't really blame them due to society nowadays. With everyone sharing the 'ang pao market rate' list (which i personally feel it's bullshit). That list is just for selfish couples who hope to at least breakeven OR make a surplus of the total banquet cost. Its really kinda sad how things turn out this way.
Heck i even had a friend sharing it on her fb 3 days before her wedding. Desperate much?

Wedding to people now seem like a profit making event and not an occasion to really wanna share your joy. Sigh

 

[Martin Ho]

Ya, Wedding banquets are getting more expensive these days. With websites like weddingangbao.************** , I think it's courtesy to check. just a quick search, and you know whether u r overpaying or underpaying.

 

[BerryDreamy]

I think some check and ensure that they at least dun under give? I felt is more like serving as a guideline only.

I felt just dun think of earning, be prepare to loss...if u get more, it will be a bonus.

But i dont agree of the couple posting the guideline before wedding, is kinda giving another message which is the bad one..

 

[kaixun]

Well. Can't really blame them due to society nowadays. With everyone sharing the 'ang pao market rate' list (which i personally feel it's bullshit). That list is just for selfish couples who hope to at least breakeven OR make a surplus of the total banquet cost. Its really kinda sad how things turn out this way.
Heck i even had a friend sharing it on her fb 3 days before her wedding. Desperate much?

Wedding to people now seem like a profit making event and not an occasion to really wanna share your joy. Sigh

Agree with you that wedding now seems to be a profit making event. It's sad. If one can't afford it, can always opt for something less fanciful.

There always ought to be a compromise somewhere.

But Martin made a good point. To some it is a courtesy not to undergive since rates are always changing.

 

[alyooop]

I checked before, only to be sure I didn't under give, especially if I know the venue is expensive. Posting the rates before your wedding though, is just rude, seriously. People are your guests and you can't "make" them give a certain amount like that.

 

[kaixun]

Won't think of anyone who will posting rates before wedding though. I know of some couples who didn't want to hold a fanciful wedding but were forced just to put up one. In the end, they got to find ways to recoup

 

[jkwedding308]

If people want to check the rates so that they won't "under-give" as they realize that weddings aren't cheap, then we can only appreciate their kind gesture. But we shouldn't impose these guidelines to them nor secretly harbour the hope that they'll check the rates as it undermines the purpose of the wedding celebration where our guests are there to rejoice with us on our day of union. That is why my hubby and I weren't disappointed but can still smile and laugh when some of our guests gave way-below-the-current-rates ang pows (especially our friends from overseas - don't think they even know such guidelines exist plus mind you, these are people who took leave and bought flight tickets to fly all the way to Singapore just for our wedding! Their presence alone means so much more to us than the amount they gave!) or even just gifts (no ang pows) and one even creatively gave a red packet filled with CapitaMall shopping vouchers haha!

 

[kaixun]

I once know of a guest who packed shopping vouchers from his company into wedding angbaos too. Haha