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Dear possy,
Funny that the old fart didn´t reply simi sai he was talking about at the other thread, "in someone else´s discussion" but comes over here. Why doesn´t he start his own post to tell that others are being rude ? You will see him talking to nobody in particular regularly because he likes to hear himself talk. Like a senile old fart.
Purr.....
Funny that the old fart didn´t reply simi sai he was talking about at the other thread, "in someone else´s discussion" but comes over here. Why doesn´t he start his own post to tell that others are being rude ? You will see him talking to nobody in particular regularly because he likes to hear himself talk. Like a senile old fart.
Purr.....
Back to where I was.
Yes, another woman did cross my mind. Rationalizing his guilt also crossed my mind. He is not about to deny or confirm these. I also think he yearns to exercise a large extent of control because he is paying for the family but his redeeming trait is he feels responsible for their welfare (but not directly). One mistake made in his youth, he feels tragically trapped and now he is reaping the consequences. I am going one step backwards in time and one step forward, think cause and effect.-In my book, he wants to break away from his wife because it is an ill match that doesn´t take root and he is going through with the divorce no matter what, allthough it will take him a little longer to get over the hurdle. So to me, it doesn´t matter anymore who is wrong (my first few posts here were to present the matter, they were not merely meant to jot down who between the two has more wrongs). Gauging that he will head for divorce and having said some "confrontational" things, I didn´t want to continue to reprimand him, knowing that he will shut down (which he already did).
Yes, another woman did cross my mind. Rationalizing his guilt also crossed my mind. He is not about to deny or confirm these. I also think he yearns to exercise a large extent of control because he is paying for the family but his redeeming trait is he feels responsible for their welfare (but not directly). One mistake made in his youth, he feels tragically trapped and now he is reaping the consequences. I am going one step backwards in time and one step forward, think cause and effect.-In my book, he wants to break away from his wife because it is an ill match that doesn´t take root and he is going through with the divorce no matter what, allthough it will take him a little longer to get over the hurdle. So to me, it doesn´t matter anymore who is wrong (my first few posts here were to present the matter, they were not merely meant to jot down who between the two has more wrongs). Gauging that he will head for divorce and having said some "confrontational" things, I didn´t want to continue to reprimand him, knowing that he will shut down (which he already did).
"I have a fairly early marriage at 22 while wife was 19. She is a foreigner and since she had to return home after completing studying English, we decided to tie the knot to keep her in the country."
-That is a peculiar reason to marry, marrying to keep someone in the country. If your marriage rests on this foundation, no wonder it´s hard to reclaim a failing relationship. If ever a situation calls for a little effort to ensure a good outcome, this is it.
Hopefully this is my last comment here.
Ah Pek, don´t come poking at me harh !
-That is a peculiar reason to marry, marrying to keep someone in the country. If your marriage rests on this foundation, no wonder it´s hard to reclaim a failing relationship. If ever a situation calls for a little effort to ensure a good outcome, this is it.
Hopefully this is my last comment here.
Ah Pek, don´t come poking at me harh !
susanna_low
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Watching, poke where :x
Is there anything else anybody wants to add to TS´s situation ? Usually, with a thread like this, people flock in to comment. Time for me to sit back and fold my arms, thinking I´ve done my part. (even if I judged the situation wrongly....hee) Please don´t use this against me hor.