pinkfairy08
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Hi all,
Pls bear with me as i share my stories here. quite a sad story as my ex-fiance had betrayed me in Sep by cancelling wedding banquet quietly behind my back, took out his share of money from our then joint account and our honeymoon tour. I had moved on and grew stronger and feel sense of relieved it happened now then if we go ahead to marry and end up I have to bear his unreasonable anger and violence and his family unreasonale behaviour.
We had known each other for like a year plus before we decided to get married. before wedding preparation, we also did arguued over issues but at that point there wasn't much discussion on money or family issues (e.g. involve his parents hence conflicts was easily solved as mostly I tried to calm him down.
WE got together as we can click and feel comfotable with each other.However now I realised his is hot temper, get angry easily over small easily (e.g. important issues discussed), dependency on his parents decision and had never once side me even when his dad is unreasaonale.
As the wedding drew near previously, he starts to get angry easily especially when money issues are involved , he feel stressed up or he can't make a decsions.
To cut story short,
1. His dad demand that he will cancel the wedding if we bride side want to take the angbao back for banquet. for this issue, the parents never once answer my mum when my mum ask about the no. of tables they will give us then. His dad only mention he will pay all and insist he will take back all ang baos even our side. My ex-fiance then had no decsions when i requested him to ask his family to come down to discuss with my parents. He just leave everything to his dad and say he will not "chap" as all decsions lie with his dad and he make the decisions.
2. there were no calls from that side to my parents after the incident for a week or so. And we even seek counsellor and when we go counselling, he even complain to counsellors what my parents say to his parents when all the words are twisted as my parents went up to discuss on some wedding issues with them and ask them not to stress my ex-fiance then due to his bad anger. But to horror, his dad twist everything and the words my mum said and said we mentioned his son is not good etc. And my ex-fiance instead of own up his anger problems which cause everything, he told his dad sometimes he find it a hassle to fetech me or go our with me after work and I am a hindrance. When I heard this, I was furious as I did not force him to fetch or go out with me after work if he has work to attend to.
3. so one fine day knowing that his side want to postpone or did not give me an answer on this marriage, I went up to our matrimonial house to take my clothes (the house only has his name as is bought by him 3 years back). I had went up with my parents and parents for fear of his violence, he happened to be there and told him i merely want to take my clothes. When he saw me taking my clothes, he shouted at me and told me is it break. I told him no and that I am waiting for his family answer since theyy did not want to discuss banquet and he himself say let his dad decide.
4. to my horror, he shouted at me and my dad who is inside the house that we had trespass his house and he can call police as we took his things, which in actual fact we did not as is only my clothes. He shouted and shouted at his top of his voice like a mad person even to my family and friend. We asked him to call police but instead he called his dad to come over and told his dad on the phone that we are removing his things from the house. We faster leave after taking my clothes for fear his violence.
5. On the very same day, he had took out his money from our joint account, cancel europe tour and banquet which i found out on the followign week.
there were no news from him since then till I wrote him an email in End Sep / Oct and he continue to blame me not to blame his parents and my parents and I are the cause of his anger etc and that his anger and hatred for me developed as he need spent alot money and I keep push him to shift house. Btw, the house only bear his name and he refuse to appeal to add my name in so I discuss and ask him to shift a new place once mop is up and we can have a new house to our names. Even noew, he blame me I am insecure. But look at what happen? he say we trespass his house when that is suppose to be our house and he treat my parents with no respect.
Till now, he even say due to me taking clothes hence he can't calm down and make rash decision.
Never seen such a bastard!! Want to share my stories with you people here.
Pls bear with me as i share my stories here. quite a sad story as my ex-fiance had betrayed me in Sep by cancelling wedding banquet quietly behind my back, took out his share of money from our then joint account and our honeymoon tour. I had moved on and grew stronger and feel sense of relieved it happened now then if we go ahead to marry and end up I have to bear his unreasonable anger and violence and his family unreasonale behaviour.
We had known each other for like a year plus before we decided to get married. before wedding preparation, we also did arguued over issues but at that point there wasn't much discussion on money or family issues (e.g. involve his parents hence conflicts was easily solved as mostly I tried to calm him down.
WE got together as we can click and feel comfotable with each other.However now I realised his is hot temper, get angry easily over small easily (e.g. important issues discussed), dependency on his parents decision and had never once side me even when his dad is unreasaonale.
As the wedding drew near previously, he starts to get angry easily especially when money issues are involved , he feel stressed up or he can't make a decsions.
To cut story short,
1. His dad demand that he will cancel the wedding if we bride side want to take the angbao back for banquet. for this issue, the parents never once answer my mum when my mum ask about the no. of tables they will give us then. His dad only mention he will pay all and insist he will take back all ang baos even our side. My ex-fiance then had no decsions when i requested him to ask his family to come down to discuss with my parents. He just leave everything to his dad and say he will not "chap" as all decsions lie with his dad and he make the decisions.
2. there were no calls from that side to my parents after the incident for a week or so. And we even seek counsellor and when we go counselling, he even complain to counsellors what my parents say to his parents when all the words are twisted as my parents went up to discuss on some wedding issues with them and ask them not to stress my ex-fiance then due to his bad anger. But to horror, his dad twist everything and the words my mum said and said we mentioned his son is not good etc. And my ex-fiance instead of own up his anger problems which cause everything, he told his dad sometimes he find it a hassle to fetech me or go our with me after work and I am a hindrance. When I heard this, I was furious as I did not force him to fetch or go out with me after work if he has work to attend to.
3. so one fine day knowing that his side want to postpone or did not give me an answer on this marriage, I went up to our matrimonial house to take my clothes (the house only has his name as is bought by him 3 years back). I had went up with my parents and parents for fear of his violence, he happened to be there and told him i merely want to take my clothes. When he saw me taking my clothes, he shouted at me and told me is it break. I told him no and that I am waiting for his family answer since theyy did not want to discuss banquet and he himself say let his dad decide.
4. to my horror, he shouted at me and my dad who is inside the house that we had trespass his house and he can call police as we took his things, which in actual fact we did not as is only my clothes. He shouted and shouted at his top of his voice like a mad person even to my family and friend. We asked him to call police but instead he called his dad to come over and told his dad on the phone that we are removing his things from the house. We faster leave after taking my clothes for fear his violence.
5. On the very same day, he had took out his money from our joint account, cancel europe tour and banquet which i found out on the followign week.
there were no news from him since then till I wrote him an email in End Sep / Oct and he continue to blame me not to blame his parents and my parents and I are the cause of his anger etc and that his anger and hatred for me developed as he need spent alot money and I keep push him to shift house. Btw, the house only bear his name and he refuse to appeal to add my name in so I discuss and ask him to shift a new place once mop is up and we can have a new house to our names. Even noew, he blame me I am insecure. But look at what happen? he say we trespass his house when that is suppose to be our house and he treat my parents with no respect.
Till now, he even say due to me taking clothes hence he can't calm down and make rash decision.
Never seen such a bastard!! Want to share my stories with you people here.
