my pms

[nudieposh]

do you sometimes have to deal with pms at the most difficult situation?

last weekend, we hosted a grp of friends at our place.. all was good but i got 'pek cek' and frustrated when 1 of his friends started playing games and start mixing all sorts of alcohol together. told my HTB not to drink so much, as the night before he already went drinking and now he has to drink again.... and.. on sunday we are going down to the bridal studio to confirm on our package. in my mind was, it's gonna be tiring.. if he is to drink, it will be even tiring. and i told him, if he is drunk then we will not go down to confirm on our package. he promise that he will not get drunk.

but he drank half a cup of that nonsense, despite his friend saying tt he will drink on his behalf. i know i am already angry.. and i just burp out.. ok, we are not going down to sign the package. but i continue to talk and joke with his friends, but my HTB mention that everyone ask him if we argued, why am i showing a black face. in my mind, i thought i am already controlling. but despite that, his friends still see through it.

i know.. i should wait for everyone to go back to show my anger.
i know.. i should not burp out that we are not going down to sign e package in front of his friends.
i know.. i should close 1 eye for him to drink tt nonsense because he is e host.

but i just couldnt control.. im not sure if it's pms or me and my anger which i need to learn to control in future. it is my first time hosting such a big grp of friends, close to 30 of them. but i know this is not an excuse.

when everyone is back, we did not argue instead he try to pamper me a bit and we were all lovely groovy again. but after we got home from signing the package yesterday, he talk to me and say that i did not give him face. and he said, he almost wanted to shout at me but control himself because his parents were also there.

it made me guilty for a little. he didnt blame me, but instead talk to me nicely and ask me to give him face in future. i felt bad. but couldnt find e reason on why cant i control in front of all his friends. seriously, i rather him not pampering me when his friends left, i rather we argue. and that will make me feel better.. at least..
till now.... i felt bad. i didnt meant for it to happen. but it just happens...

have you all face with such situations before? how do you deal with it? any tips and advice on how can i control myself in future. and ... anything that i should do now for my HTB? (I have already told me, i wont promise him but i only try to control myself)

 

[traciee]

i haven't gone through exactly what you described but there was once or twice i got pissed with my hubby during a big group gathering.. it was just something small lol. but i just got pissed over that and i was very sure it wasn't PMS.. i was pissed because i didn't like it

what I did was I pulled him to one side and spoke to him.. it would be better that way because we won't really want people to see what's going on btwn us or feel awkward because we are unhappy with one another or sth..

other than giving him 'face', think of how will you look like to the rest of the friends as well... sometimes just gotta 'tahan' for the time being and settle any unhappiness behind closed doors...

and don't feel bad. that was exactly how u felt at that point of time.. just try to bear in mind not to let it happen in the future since u know this is how ur htb feels/will react

u can do it babe!

 

[sweetsourcorn]

I think... to be honest... a lot of times we gals use PMS as a shield to justify our anger... Well, if you are angry about someone's actions, and your anger is reasonable, you don't have to use PMS as a reason. As gals, the responsibility is also on us to control our own temper, regardless of whether or not it's the time of the month.

 

[miloice]

it is not an excuse, but factual. It is a natural part of your hormones and it will affect your emotions. However, sweetsourcorn is right, the responsibility to manage one's emotion doesn't lie with anyone else but the ladies themselves. So, guys should be sensitive and understand our partners are having it hard on those days. Give and take as in any situation, empathize with how our partners are feeling.

 

[nudieposh]

yes. thanka for all ur words. I feel certain things esp emotions is e hardest to control. which is also something that I am currently learning to control.. be it pms or not, e incident last weekend was a learning lesson n also serve as a reminder... not to do it infront of his friends in future..

 

[ohsammy]

yes. thanka for all ur words. I feel certain things esp emotions is e hardest to control. which is also something that I am currently learning to control.. be it pms or not, e incident last weekend was a learning lesson n also serve as a reminder... not to do it infront of his friends in future..

Don't be too harsh on yourself! We all have our moments of folly