lovemaking troubles...pls advise from other new wife-to-be

ZZS

New Member
hello...just been thinking about this for some time now

fiance and i started making love ever since he proposed

feeling is good but now he becoming more demanding with the positions for lovemaking

he is telling me that it is normal for couples to finish off or release the semen by shooting on different parts of my body. i find that unusual and i want to know if this is true with other couples.

so what usually happens in your lovemaking session?
where does he 'let go' his thing?
how did he tell you to accept that kind of act?

please advise and honest opinion please
 


infojunkie

Active Member
i'd say the sky's the limit when it comes to sex...

so long as u dun end up with some nasty injuries AND u're game for it, why not?

all sorts of stuff happens in the bedroom and ppl emerge from it perfectly fine and unharmed, just so u know.

but dun forget to use contraceptives if u hv no plans to be in the family way... babies are a huge responsibility.
 

jkwedding308

Active Member
hello...just been thinking about this for some time now

fiance and i started making love ever since he proposed

feeling is good but now he becoming more demanding with the positions for lovemaking

he is telling me that it is normal for couples to finish off or release the semen by shooting on different parts of my body. i find that unusual and i want to know if this is true with other couples.

so what usually happens in your lovemaking session?
where does he 'let go' his thing?
how did he tell you to accept that kind of act?

please advise and honest opinion please

Everyone's definition of "normal" can vary from one individual to another. But if you're asking if that's how love-making ends for the majority of people, then the answer is "no". Sex was originally designed for both pleasure and procreation, hence the so-called "norm" would be to ejaculate into the vagina and not any other orifice or part of the body. Your fiancé is probably more of an adventurous type of guy in bed and just wants to experiment with a few other possibilities hence him giving an excuse telling you that it is "normal". His such definition of "normal" is likely to be informed by his chats with his other sexually active buddies or from what he views in pornography. Any guy living in the modern world who tells you that he has never watched porn before in his life is a liar - he would have been exposed to it at least once if not more. Research has shown that even school-going children of both genders have now been increasingly exposed to porn that is widely available everywhere. And porn sets up a lot of fantasy and scenarios that may not necessarily be realistic or practical or even pleasurable for one of the parties involved and research has shown that many guys (and gals) nowadays have unrealistic expectations of what is "normal" in a sexual intercourse because of what they're viewing in all these porn. While it may be good fun for one party, it may upset the other party as it may physically cause hurt or pain (with certain positions or actions) or some people may even be emotionally made to feel lowly or humiliated with the kind of things that they need to do in order to please the other party's sexual demands and fantasies. There is nothing wrong with experimenting in bed but you can choose to stick with what is comfortable, safe and pleasant - if there's anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, share it with your fiancé and try to get him to understand that sex should be pleasurable for both parties and not just one or else, it would just be selfish sex. Abstinence would be the safest course of action but if you choose to continue pre-marital sex and don't want a baby in your near-future plans, both of you will do well to discuss which contraception method to opt for and use it wisely as a precautionary measure...
 

ZZS

New Member
thanks for all your answers. i feel better now. i guess i have to talk it out to him and ask him how he feels about doing all this actions.

i might be a simple girl that is why i find his actions 'peculiar', especially when after sex he decides to ejaculate on my face. i found that degrading but not to a point where i cry or scream at him. i am just very shocked by this act.

i may start to feel better if i know other gfs/wife also receive this 'face thing'. i feel comfortable if i am not the only one.

i wonder do you all also get it in the face?
 

ZZS

New Member
Everyone's definition of "normal" can vary from one individual to another. But if you're asking if that's how love-making ends for the majority of people, then the answer is "no". Sex was originally designed for both pleasure and procreation, hence the so-called "norm" would be to ejaculate into the vagina and not any other orifice or part of the body. Your fiancé is probably more of an adventurous type of guy in bed and just wants to experiment with a few other possibilities hence him giving an excuse telling you that it is "normal". His such definition of "normal" is likely to be informed by his chats with his other sexually active buddies or from what he views in pornography. Any guy living in the modern world who tells you that he has never watched porn before in his life is a liar - he would have been exposed to it at least once if not more. Research has shown that even school-going children of both genders have now been increasingly exposed to porn that is widely available everywhere. And porn sets up a lot of fantasy and scenarios that may not necessarily be realistic or practical or even pleasurable for one of the parties involved and research has shown that many guys (and gals) nowadays have unrealistic expectations of what is "normal" in a sexual intercourse because of what they're viewing in all these porn. While it may be good fun for one party, it may upset the other party as it may physically cause hurt or pain (with certain positions or actions) or some people may even be emotionally made to feel lowly or humiliated with the kind of things that they need to do in order to please the other party's sexual demands and fantasies. There is nothing wrong with experimenting in bed but you can choose to stick with what is comfortable, safe and pleasant - if there's anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, share it with your fiancé and try to get him to understand that sex should be pleasurable for both parties and not just one or else, it would just be selfish sex. Abstinence would be the safest course of action but if you choose to continue pre-marital sex and don't want a baby in your near-future plans, both of you will do well to discuss which contraception method to opt for and use it wisely as a precautionary measure...

thank you!

feel much better....seems like you got a great relationship and sex life
 

jkwedding308

Active Member
thank you!

feel much better....seems like you got a great relationship and sex life

You're welcome! Relationship isn't a static thing but a dynamic one that requires on-going effort from both parties.. Also, to answer your question re the "face thing", personally for me, no, my hubby doesn't do that to me. Although I'm aware that it's a popular thing in porn (but not necessarily in real life). Perhaps your fiancé is thrilled at the idea of seeing his semen gushing out all over your face and derives pleasure seeing you lick all of those semen up (does he get you to do this too?). In fact, some porn has made it even so degrading whereby one party urinates or defaecates over the other party's face and/or body, in the so-called name of "pleasure" for that one party (but obviously not for the other). Both of you need to set realistic boundaries on what you both find pleasurable and comfortable. Hope your talk with him works out well..
 

bngak

Member
thanks for all your answers. i feel better now. i guess i have to talk it out to him and ask him how he feels about doing all this actions.

i might be a simple girl that is why i find his actions 'peculiar', especially when after sex he decides to ejaculate on my face. i found that degrading but not to a point where i cry or scream at him. i am just very shocked by this act.

i may start to feel better if i know other gfs/wife also receive this 'face thing'. i feel comfortable if i am not the only one.

i wonder do you all also get it in the face?

I think it's important to do what you are comfortable with.. In this area, I also shared ur sentiments and felt it was degrading to me for him to ejaculate on my face.. So I've not let him do it. If we're not comfortable doing what we are doing then it spoils the whole experience for us and puts us off in the future.

I explained to him that I don't go putting menses on his face either so I won't expect his stuff on my face either. I don't mind else where. I also tried to get him to understand my feelings by teasingly trying to put some of his own stuff on his face after a session and he kinda gets it after that.

I think we also move at different paces so maybe.. Perhaps mayb when when we get more comfy with each other we might be more willing to try other stuff and positions. Guess some guys are more excited to explore at a fast pace cuz they are more "exposed".
 

miloice

Well-Known Member
Porn influences our sexuality. Sadly, there are many degrading acts in porn. The line is grey. What is important is both of you explore within your comfort zone. Actually, many guys do find it erotic eating women's love juice as well. Communicate and be open about it between the couple.
 

sadman2009

Active Member
Shooting the semen on the face is often depicted in porn. And it has a degrading effect to the woman. Seems like making the man feel superior... That's what porn is ... Making the men feel superior and dominate over the woman.
Your husband is very deeply poisoned by porn and its fantasies.. Haha..
Well, just tell him you don't like him shooting the semen on your face and how you feel about it. If he loves you, he will respect your will. Tell him you don't minding trying out different positions. That can be fun and pleasurable for both.


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