Hi all,
I am a 28 yr old guy. I have a cleft-lip palate since I was born....meaning my upper lip is stitched up (but very well, without scarring, done by my plastic surgeon) and my lower jaw is protruding out. As my family is not the rich type, I never thought of doing any orthodontics in the past and don't know anything abt jaw surgery as in the past, there was no internet and information not widely spread and readily available compared to now.
When i was in primary school, I like to talk a lot of make jokes and sometimes cross the line ... I remember classmate rebutted me saying I look like elephant man and kettlespout. It didn't mattered much to me back then.
WHen I was 16, I remembered my classmate saying something like I could be handsome but "ke xi"...I knew somehow he was referring to my cleft-lip... to be honest, I think I would look handsome cos I have boyish looks and I agree with him.... but alas..
As i entered late teens and early adulthood 18-21, I realised looks do matter as a measure of self confidence of how u appear to others... especially when I know I can't smile as well as other people...
When I was 18 and jus before going into NS, I though of doing orthodontics... my parents didn't mind but my brother advised me against it. During one of my visits to my aged plastic surgeon who repaired my cleft when I was a baby... he recommended a malaysian orthodontist... the orthodontist told me he was not confident in my case and suggested me seeking treatment in Singapore instead or jus abandon the thought altogether. So, I went to NDC and was given a waiting list of 2 years!! 2 years was a long time to wait and the thought of doing orthodontics or watever eventually diminised from my mind.
At the age 25 in my 3rd yr of university, the thought came again and I went for consultation at Alexandra Hospital. The orthodontist made me feel uncomfortable saying comments like " I"ve never seen such crooked teeth before..." I thought she was supposed to be experienced.. but I was left disappointed.... then I spoke to the jaw surgeon in the other room and she a bit more reassuring but i was informed of the hospitalisation and I felt I cudn't commit the time... so in the end I abandoned the idea again...
Recently I have been looking in the mirror these days and the thought came about again...as I work in the education sector, I have to face young kids who readily make fun of my lower jaw... I think this op may benefit me in the long term but again there is the issue of time commmitment in hospitalization and curing.. and of cos pain of op and complications etc...
Any adivse? I really glad to chance upon this support group.. solli if i a bit loh soh but this idea has haggled me for 10 yrs on and off... it's only when i went for consultation at 25 did I know that my case definitely requires jaw surgery.
I am a 28 yr old guy. I have a cleft-lip palate since I was born....meaning my upper lip is stitched up (but very well, without scarring, done by my plastic surgeon) and my lower jaw is protruding out. As my family is not the rich type, I never thought of doing any orthodontics in the past and don't know anything abt jaw surgery as in the past, there was no internet and information not widely spread and readily available compared to now.
When i was in primary school, I like to talk a lot of make jokes and sometimes cross the line ... I remember classmate rebutted me saying I look like elephant man and kettlespout. It didn't mattered much to me back then.
WHen I was 16, I remembered my classmate saying something like I could be handsome but "ke xi"...I knew somehow he was referring to my cleft-lip... to be honest, I think I would look handsome cos I have boyish looks and I agree with him.... but alas..
As i entered late teens and early adulthood 18-21, I realised looks do matter as a measure of self confidence of how u appear to others... especially when I know I can't smile as well as other people...
When I was 18 and jus before going into NS, I though of doing orthodontics... my parents didn't mind but my brother advised me against it. During one of my visits to my aged plastic surgeon who repaired my cleft when I was a baby... he recommended a malaysian orthodontist... the orthodontist told me he was not confident in my case and suggested me seeking treatment in Singapore instead or jus abandon the thought altogether. So, I went to NDC and was given a waiting list of 2 years!! 2 years was a long time to wait and the thought of doing orthodontics or watever eventually diminised from my mind.
At the age 25 in my 3rd yr of university, the thought came again and I went for consultation at Alexandra Hospital. The orthodontist made me feel uncomfortable saying comments like " I"ve never seen such crooked teeth before..." I thought she was supposed to be experienced.. but I was left disappointed.... then I spoke to the jaw surgeon in the other room and she a bit more reassuring but i was informed of the hospitalisation and I felt I cudn't commit the time... so in the end I abandoned the idea again...
Recently I have been looking in the mirror these days and the thought came about again...as I work in the education sector, I have to face young kids who readily make fun of my lower jaw... I think this op may benefit me in the long term but again there is the issue of time commmitment in hospitalization and curing.. and of cos pain of op and complications etc...
Any adivse? I really glad to chance upon this support group.. solli if i a bit loh soh but this idea has haggled me for 10 yrs on and off... it's only when i went for consultation at 25 did I know that my case definitely requires jaw surgery.