well i dun think i have the fix-it solution, can only point out some personal obstacles which are sorta making things more difficult for yourself to walk lighter...
u're quite similar to a buddy of mine, she's also very strong-willed and capable... thinks ahead of pple most times. she n me are very similar, only differing gender... thank goodness cupid didn't try to matchmake us cos it'd be a disaster! been with her thru some relationship journeys... honestly i dun think she can be the women tat men won't feel threatened around, nor the woman who can follow a man's lead if he isn't a natural great leader... we sorta concluded tat she should just be herself and let the men who are not intimidated step forward...
in exploring, have u ever thought tat perhaps the only thing in common would be the kid? whereas becos of the similarities in ego and perhaps some differences in thought-processing, tat u guys aren't a good match to begin with?
look, i'm not here to discourage u nor breakup a marriage... i'm just very certain tat if u keep looking deeper and exploring yourself in a rounded aspect, tat the next step would all come to u. i dun think u can stop being u... and i dun think u'll be happy being the wifey-u... u can be the motherly-u, no problem... but the role tat's draining u - would be the forgiving/wifey/docile u... perhaps u stop trying so hard to be tat woman, cos it's obviously not working... as it is - in this thread, u realise u seem to have a split personality and very contradicting?
benefit of a doubt - tat's not the real u. sometimes it's scary when we look at ourself from outside our body... we might not recognise who we've become.
it's hard to be ignorant when u're blessed with wisdom... it's hard to be stupid when u can see thru the facades... sometimes, most times - we just gotta be who we are, even if it means an end to what we've achieved... i dun see u being a happy wife, neither do i think he'd be a very fulfilled husband. perhaps the marriage worked due to the distance... but beyond the distance, u two have lived very much as Individuals...
u're quite similar to a buddy of mine, she's also very strong-willed and capable... thinks ahead of pple most times. she n me are very similar, only differing gender... thank goodness cupid didn't try to matchmake us cos it'd be a disaster! been with her thru some relationship journeys... honestly i dun think she can be the women tat men won't feel threatened around, nor the woman who can follow a man's lead if he isn't a natural great leader... we sorta concluded tat she should just be herself and let the men who are not intimidated step forward...
in exploring, have u ever thought tat perhaps the only thing in common would be the kid? whereas becos of the similarities in ego and perhaps some differences in thought-processing, tat u guys aren't a good match to begin with?
look, i'm not here to discourage u nor breakup a marriage... i'm just very certain tat if u keep looking deeper and exploring yourself in a rounded aspect, tat the next step would all come to u. i dun think u can stop being u... and i dun think u'll be happy being the wifey-u... u can be the motherly-u, no problem... but the role tat's draining u - would be the forgiving/wifey/docile u... perhaps u stop trying so hard to be tat woman, cos it's obviously not working... as it is - in this thread, u realise u seem to have a split personality and very contradicting?
benefit of a doubt - tat's not the real u. sometimes it's scary when we look at ourself from outside our body... we might not recognise who we've become.
it's hard to be ignorant when u're blessed with wisdom... it's hard to be stupid when u can see thru the facades... sometimes, most times - we just gotta be who we are, even if it means an end to what we've achieved... i dun see u being a happy wife, neither do i think he'd be a very fulfilled husband. perhaps the marriage worked due to the distance... but beyond the distance, u two have lived very much as Individuals...
