Hi everyone, my future mom-in-law has been trying to stuff second-hand clothes (hand-me-downs from her niece, my fiance's younger cousin) to me. I have tried making excuses like "I'd see them later" or "They are too big for me" for I don't like second-hand items. I find it hard to tell her I don't actually use second hand clothes or bags. But she asked me about it again and when she saw my fiance holding a few (he was just holding on to them as I was pretending to look at the pile), she thought I was okay with them and took it as I would take them home.
Then she went to her room and took the following used bags to pass to me. They are from my fiance's elder sister and herself. Gucci and Prada used bags. Some are very new, almost like 9/10 but I don't like the design plus I just don't use second hand bags. Mom-in-law kept going on and on and on and on about how new they are, oh what a waste they will be and how she doesn't believe in selling but would rather give to someone. And with that, stuffed them into a big plastic bag for me to take home.
My fiance spoke up for me and told her I didn't like using used items at all. She sort of blocked it and pretended not to pay much attention. I'm quite frustrated as I don't want my mom-in-law to think I'm like my fiance's sister-in-law who always takes what she doesn't want - bags, clothes, household items etc. I have pride and don't want her to think I'm a "rubbish bin". In the first place, I'm not into designer bags like my mom-in-law and fiance's elder sis.
I'm worried this will happen AGAIN soon. They have many bags to give away. I feel like saying "Sorry, auntie, actually I don't use second hand bags" but I'm afraid it's rude and hurting at the same time. How can I put it to her nicely?
FYI I am quite hurt myself as she is giving me second hand jewellery for my wedding. We suspect this as she likes to hunt for bargains at Cash Converters, plus the jewellery she showed me, seem to be quite weird in design.
Then she went to her room and took the following used bags to pass to me. They are from my fiance's elder sister and herself. Gucci and Prada used bags. Some are very new, almost like 9/10 but I don't like the design plus I just don't use second hand bags. Mom-in-law kept going on and on and on and on about how new they are, oh what a waste they will be and how she doesn't believe in selling but would rather give to someone. And with that, stuffed them into a big plastic bag for me to take home.
My fiance spoke up for me and told her I didn't like using used items at all. She sort of blocked it and pretended not to pay much attention. I'm quite frustrated as I don't want my mom-in-law to think I'm like my fiance's sister-in-law who always takes what she doesn't want - bags, clothes, household items etc. I have pride and don't want her to think I'm a "rubbish bin". In the first place, I'm not into designer bags like my mom-in-law and fiance's elder sis.
I'm worried this will happen AGAIN soon. They have many bags to give away. I feel like saying "Sorry, auntie, actually I don't use second hand bags" but I'm afraid it's rude and hurting at the same time. How can I put it to her nicely?
FYI I am quite hurt myself as she is giving me second hand jewellery for my wedding. We suspect this as she likes to hunt for bargains at Cash Converters, plus the jewellery she showed me, seem to be quite weird in design.
