How to end happily?

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consciousprick

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I been together with him for 10yrs and married for 2 yrs.

Maybe because of age, i started to realise that marriage cannot be one-sided love.. He love me alot and I was the one who choose to marry someone who love me than I love him.

During this 2yrs, I really feel guilty and I have try to love him but I really do not have the sparks for him.. I frequently picked on him and he still patiently tolerate me. All my friends says he is a gem.

I have been thinking alot recently. I think it will be unfair for him and I'm unhappy too. I tried to hint him about our differences , but he always put me away and treat me even nicer. This make me feel more depress and guilty , its so hard for me to bring up the separation topic..

I still want him as a friend and I will not bear to see him depress or sad if I really bring up that topic.

Any advice here?
 


Divorce. What else?

You look for someone who loves you truly doesn't mean you will love him.

If you really cannot appreciate him now, you go.

At times, it is when he is gone and you met a jerk then you'd start learning to love or appreciate that someone who loves you.
 
How did u managed to be with someone for 12 years and only now realized u don't love him? Don't have passion, surely also got some type of love that have developed over the years, no?

If you've ever felt anything for him, I think you can find it back with some effort. But if you didn't ever, then I don't know what to say.... 12 years?!
 
This 12 years wasn't easy for him as he keep showering me with his love and for this reason, I couldn't bring myself to leave him..

I do have feelings for him and bear not leave him but this is not love. I don't feel like intimate /having s8x with him or raise a kid with him.

This is a very tough decision for me. I am also afraid to meet with a jerk then I will regret.. but I wonder how am I going to live for another 20-30 years?
 
Many women also married, love fades, companionship kicks in... Your problem is interesting, you refuse to want a loveless relationship or marriage.

You have met someone who might be the One.

But you don't love him.

Leave him. Then maybe you'd start feeling something for him? Or maybe he's not the One.

Interesting woman...
 
Kuku? LOL~

Donate your virginity to me until your panties break... in the name of God!

If you don't, you'd suffer eternal condemnation! And you'd be too free for your life!
 
I just can't understand, 100% educated Singaporeans and so many morons packed into one fugging church.

This is madness.
 
Cos they recruit chiobus who recruit more chiobus then all the chiobus attract all the men....hehe.... Ooops is this considered slander??
 
According to statistics, 90% of christians in that church are below PSLE level. That explains the reason why they got low IQ and are so willing to part with their money. Christianity should be banned in Singapore like falun gong.
RID THE WORLD OF ALL CHRISTIANS!!
 
u should quote on basis of singapore, if u have any statistics.

else, the lack of responsibility in posting is very glaring.

i guess this is what differentiates the good and the bad, and why some of u willl always lead mundane coffeeshop lives that feeds of the news of the public, rather than spending time for Personal goals n achievements in life.
 
as for consciousprick,

basically what u lack is a commitment to yourself... to live your one and only life in the best fashion.

before u know it, half your life is gone and your eligibility for love and relationship dwindles... u have a higher chance of being a 3rd Party by that time.
 
TS, all I can say - treasure what you have.
Another 12 yrs down, you will look back and wished you had not done it.
 
On behalf of TS, please kindly do not go off-topic and engross in your own conversations again, scope and Soisuka. People are genuinely needing advices (this is not the first thread both of you are chit-chatting on unrelated stuff).

Show some respect for the TS and do create a thread yourselves (or use the Chatters thread) if you wish to continue your chit-chating.

Thank you.
 
Why must things end happily? You should aim to do what's right. Not easy or convenient and especially not happy.
 
I figured u would say that... U predictable prick. I'm not gonna take every story here seriously. Some I think is real some i think is not. It's one thing to be insensitive to someone who realizes after 12 years, she doesn't love her husband and is picking on him and another thing to be insensitive to someone who had a miscarriage and an insensitive husband.
 
u can't be bothered to figure this out yourself, and u wanna spend time figuring other pple's problems???

u're not doing yourself any favours trying to act like u're smart when u aren't... sheesh...
 
You say I'm lying, yet u can't tell me what it is exactly. So until u have something to back up ur claims, I really have no idea what ur talking about.
 
scrutinize what u just said here... "So until u have something to back up ur claims, I really have no idea what ur talking about."
 
doggy powder poo.....can u stop saying other's life is mundane and meaningless.

You wanna to start to compare life with someone of your own size ?

You will be surprised !
 
no u spoilt brat. u make an effort to understand if u wanna talk to me. all these acting smart, then later acting blur to get off the hook... so sporean... stay average.
 
Wah I'm really surprised that u say I'm 'acting smart'. I wasn't even aware I sounded 'smart', but its nice to know at some point you actually thought so.
 
isn't your last post a very appropriate example?

even my kid knows the difference between acting smart, and actually being smart.

u seem to think it complements u. and u want pple to take u seriously...
 
the problem with u is u have no real consistency nor principles.

u try to sound and act serious, and u confront me for the sake of it... but when told to think deeper u act all childish and post as above. this kind of low level replies belong to school days of taunting pple and hoping to get similarly childish reaction, but this is the real world where pple are a whole lot smarter than u think they are.

your advice does farkall and tend to reflect your need to be seen as a contributor, but they have no real value in real life applications becos they lack the fundamentals of which true human behavior and emotions should be based on. u dun realise the weaknesses of humans nor are u able to help summon the inner strengths and willpower of a person.

simply said, your posts are textbook, feelgood stuff revolving around your poor understanding of the real world. u lack exposure yet u dun admit it, u capture 1 or 2 farkedup experience and u think u can educate the world...

like i said, u should look at yourself and what u have achieved, to put yourself in any position to even advise pple on happiness when u've done farkall for yourself. u're posting becos u're addicted to posting in the forum as u've previously admitted.

i fail to see any aspect of life where u'd be remotely close to where i am and your awareness of your harffarked life n insecurity is the one posting to me. this is not the real u but this is the person u have chosen to be.

as such everything that comes from u is unreal and a lie which u have dug yourself so deep into that u believe your own lies.

the replies u can summon at this point is only to act cute, act lame and act ignorant. u simply dun have the depth to comprehend yourself, let alone comprehend what i'm saying.
 
all the crap u and scope were talking, and when dragon pointed out... what's your excuse?

"Posted on Monday, July 02, 2012 - 1:29 pm:       
Dragon: it's really hard to take someone w the nick consciousprick seriously..."

this is the kind of Lie u throw to cover your embarassment and your total lack of respect for TS... it's becos of her nick???

lame, but still u think u're right. u talk abt CHC but the opinions shows an absolute lack of understanding and the two of u are simply engaging in the topic to show others that u somehow have some knowledge of wat's going on... i see thru it and can tell it's nothing more than a fashion topic u are involving yourselves in, just to make pple think u're smart.

this stems from the fact that in real life, u can talk alot of crap with total ignorance, and get away with it. this tells me alot abt the circle of frens u have, the kind of job u have, the level of responsibility u incorporate into your thoughts and the credibility u totally lack.

again, u will have no answer for me becos it basically summarizes the farkedup character u choose to adopt and live in life. it isn't all that hard to see from it that u lead a very poor mundane real life, however happening u kid yourself to be.
 
if i was a girl, u'd probably know the answer to that. but since i'm not a girl, let's not pretend u are remotely interested in my answer, but just hoping to setup a platform for your shallow comments.
 
Hehe I laughed. Scope is really as desperate as he is transparent. Despite his harem of lovers and the sob story of an unrequited love, he is still chasing after every skirt that walks by. Ok every female nick. A Casanova like him should've jelly beans for legs and chomping on ginseng by the crate load. The one pinning for the loss of his The One should be out there drinking his life away. And yet so many aunties here revel in the glow of his attention.
 


Powder you really should stop, your rage against me is really starting to look bad and out of proportion.

Who?me? I really don't think anybody here is reveling in the glow of scope, auntie or not. If u equate attention to reveling then of cos I have nothing to say.
 
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