For those who are going thru a rough time..

[skylar]

Whahahaahhahahahahahahaah....

Roti Prata ah!?!?!?

 

[thommy]

u gals really use one example and whack all the guys out there...sigh.

 

[sadistger]

i noe i can file based on unreasonable behaviour...
bt nw we hv a daughter, i duno wat 2 do oso...
everyday im here facing verbal, mental & emotional torment...
my life feel super terrible nw!

 

[vios]

HBH, wu ji tan prata boh?

my fave.....

 

[simpleman]

I prefer prata kosong with onion..

 

[denise_0704]

angel,

did u trying toking to ur hb abt it?

like he shd change his behaviour etC?

 

[sadistger]

Ermmm...
i did & i tried tt many times...
wen he's in gd mood he b ok...
Wen he's nt he start all over agn n agn...
im goin in circle...
mayb hes too young n immature...
or i shld say he luv himself more than any1 else...
he nv listen to anyone @ all...
n he doesnt treat me n my family w respect...
after prolonged of such treatment, nw i started to treat his family the same way...
i tell myself once im married tey r oso consider my parents... in the past i try to push back wateva he has done n try treat his family nice...
bt nw i cant b bothered...
ther's alrdy a barrier n hurt done...
i noe i shldnt do tt, bt nw i reali cant control myself.

 

[denise_0704]

but why dun u div wi him since so unhappy tog?? and is a mental torture rite..

 

[sadistger]

i wanted to so much, bt i've a kid nw...
i duno wat 2 do oso...
will div b gd for my kid?
i reali've no idea...
I gues i jus hv fear, fear of ugly show down n wats gona come next...
I lost so much weight nw n everyday im jus in a daze...

 

[pasir_ris_beach]

angel

Follow your heart and do as u deem fit.

Let your kid grow up in a healthy family environment and dont let your kid be scarred by what he/she sees the way your hubby treats u.

 

[sgbabydoll]

Angel, if you are not happy, how do you ensure that your child will be happy?

 

[shirleypoise]

angel,

To consider your kid's well-being is the most important thing for any parents.

U think ur kid will grow up intact emotionally with all the abuses that are going on around the house? And u've said it, you are also starting to treat his family the same way. Sooner or later this will become a matter of life.

I'll not b surprised if your kid will be taught thru this lifetime experience that the way to life is to be abusive or to have depression from young.

Remember, we are who we are today because of everything that we went through in our lifetime. Please do not scar your kid.

 

[alcifertoh]

Got Got. Sat night last min just went ate prata with skylar and salsa. Then sunday I lao sai 3 times wonder if it was due to that.

 

[green_tranquility]

HBH,
Good, FOC detox for u LOL :X

 

[sadistger]

Dear all,
Thanks for ur advise...
I'vee taken the 1st step to leave the house ytd...
I packed everything & go...
The family has yet to come make noise, but i guess its sooner or later...
Mayb day 1 shocked...
Or mayb rite fr the start its my hb plan for me to divorce him...
He has been sayin tt non stop durin our fights...
I feel much beta after i cum bk hm...
Thanks for encouragement peeps!
Wonder wats the next step nw...

 

[sgbabydoll]

Angel, is your daughter with you?

 

[sadistger]

yes i brought my daughter along w me...
i cant leave her there...
I've been the one tking care of her since she's born...
Thou im workin bt i tk care of her once im back fr work...
I cant trust him n his family enuff...
no way i'll leave her ther...
Mayb they r plannin their next move...
or mayb tey wn wan the kid after all cos my hb is young, mayb tey dun wan the kid to drag him dw...
or mayb tey r plannin hw to counter me...
bt ultimate decision of mine, whether tey wan the kid or nt, i wan her, cos she is my kid n i will bring her up since i brought her into tis world...

 

[sgbabydoll]

Angel, the first step is usually the most difficult step and you have already taken THAT step. I am sure you will find courage and figure a best way out.

 

[pasir_ris_beach]

angel
gald for u as u finally took the first step. Hope everything goes smoothly for u, no matter how many x the obstacles might appear on the road.

 

[vcds]

Hi All,
I am going through a rough time where i dunno what to do- i suspected my hubby go back to drugs and confronted him he got so angry and is abusing me emotionally and verbally and even threathening to disturb my workplace. have a child still a baby - he is a violent person. just a bought a house just 3 months how do i ontain a divorce from him without any problems

 

[cindy_c]

If he is violent you need to see a lawyer and get a PPO - personal protection order. You have child so please do this quickly. If you need help locating one let me know. Divorce can follow.

 

[sgbabydoll]

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[sgbabydoll]

Don't think there's a need to see a lawyer for PPO.

Read this: http://fcd.ecitizen.gov.sg/FamilyNCommunitySupport/StopFamilyViolence/HelpfortheVictim/WhereToFindHelp/

 

[sadistger]

Hi Virginia,
U can just go to the family court to file for PPO...
Wld b best if u've police letter...
I filed for 1 the last time.
nt necessary to get a lawyer, tey will ask u go file on ur end oso...
but it tk quite a long time...
i waited 4 hrs ther the last time...
did ur hubby hit ur kid as well?
if he did u can file for ppo for ur kid agst him as well...
if nt i dn tink u b able to...
still need to swear infront of the judge...

 

[sadistger]

doll,
yes i finally took the 1st step...
The mum called me jus nw...
n the best park is my stupid hb tell her we fight over a lap top issue!
which is nt the true @ all!
tis is reali silly...
i told his mum, its ur son tt time n agn tell me divorce...
nw the mum say let us cool dw n let the son consider...
so i tink he alrdy plottin on divorce n only action only!
so angry abt it..
i jus tell the mum i tink its best we live seperately...
cos i tink he's reali crapz...
n i dun even tink he misses the daughter lo!
then the mum started tellin me crap hopin i will soft hearted...
but tis time rd, im firm enuff...
i took the first step, so there's no way i will go back ther agn just lik tt..
tey jus wana attack on my weak spot...
bt i noe i cant gif in tis time rd...

 

[fairyprincess]

Sorry for the delay in my reply...

Regarding my comments earlier, I was referring to my sis's case. Both her ex-husband and her agreed to all the terms of the divorce including house, alimony etc etc, so their case was settled about a few months after it was filed.

All I was trying to say is that every case is different, and not all cases need to "wait 3 years" for the divorce to be finalized.

Please spend some money if you can afford to seek proper legal advice, so some doubts can be clarified...

I have seen on too many threads making assumptions regarding divorce proceedings....thus my post...

 

[powder]

it's quite a far cry from the implications of your initial post which set to make the 3yrs an point of Ignorance... which it isn't. there's definitely exceptional cases and cases where u agree to 'a story'.

for divorce, the 3yrs is more a guide (for the separation)... which generally applies to all cases with exceptions.

it's likely that your sis and hubby played with dates - ie Backdate.

but i agree not to make assumptions.

 

[sadistger]

Hey Peeps,
Im safe & sound so far...
My hb doesnt even bother abt the kid stuf as well...
Anyway, im tryin to come up with the maintenance cost & custody care & control of the kids stuff.
Need advise here if it's required to engaged a lawyer for such stuff or we can just sign black & white on our own?

 

[vysweetapple]

Can anyone share the difference between annul the marriage & divorce? How to know whether can annul the marriage or not. Annul the marriage also have to go through a lawyer?

 

[sgbabydoll]

Annulment means you cancel the marriage, as if you have never been married before. When you divorce, you terminate an existing marriage.

Whether you can annul your marriage or should go for divorce instead, please obtain legal advice from a lawyer.