arnoldchen
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Im hitting 40 soon and i have been married for around 3 years to my current wife (dated a few years before marriage)
Never had sex with her. We tried once long time ago, didnt succeed and experience was bad. I gave up.
And also, i dun think i love her. And you might ask, why did i marry her?
Was deeply in love with my first love and got hurt. Frankly from then, i was scared to love a girl again. I did date a few other girls (for fun, sex and companionship) as my gfs, but never loved them. Took me some 10 years to get over my first rs
Met a really nice girl 10 years ago (not my wife) - named T, love at first sight and I fell in love. She too liked me but i chickened out cos i was too scared to love someone.
Then i met my current wife who happened to be not the person i love but appeared at the right place and the right time.
I got together with her (gotta confessed its out of convenience and she is fairly pretty). But i have been thinking bout T all these time while im dating and married to my wife.
My wife satisfy a lot of conditions:
1. decent family background (not rich but family is traditional and not materialistic)
2. educated
3. quite pretty
4. stood by me when im down and out
but we dun have sex and we dun really love each other.
i think our rs definitely is real where we care about each other, but both of us know we are not into each other that much but we are faithful to each other. She is very princessey and i take care of all the finances at home. she doesnt work and is kinda a "tai tai" - i dun come from a rich family but i make okay income here.
i feel very dead inside. we dun have kids n we dun have sex, there is no progress in marriage and i keep thinking bt divorce, she too thinks about it.
we have nothing to look forward to and im really stuck, i feel like splitting up but at the same timei cant bear to. no matter how i weigh the pro and cons, its a 50-50 decision for me.
any one else is my situation?
Never had sex with her. We tried once long time ago, didnt succeed and experience was bad. I gave up.
And also, i dun think i love her. And you might ask, why did i marry her?
Was deeply in love with my first love and got hurt. Frankly from then, i was scared to love a girl again. I did date a few other girls (for fun, sex and companionship) as my gfs, but never loved them. Took me some 10 years to get over my first rs
Met a really nice girl 10 years ago (not my wife) - named T, love at first sight and I fell in love. She too liked me but i chickened out cos i was too scared to love someone.
Then i met my current wife who happened to be not the person i love but appeared at the right place and the right time.
I got together with her (gotta confessed its out of convenience and she is fairly pretty). But i have been thinking bout T all these time while im dating and married to my wife.
My wife satisfy a lot of conditions:
1. decent family background (not rich but family is traditional and not materialistic)
2. educated
3. quite pretty
4. stood by me when im down and out
but we dun have sex and we dun really love each other.
i think our rs definitely is real where we care about each other, but both of us know we are not into each other that much but we are faithful to each other. She is very princessey and i take care of all the finances at home. she doesnt work and is kinda a "tai tai" - i dun come from a rich family but i make okay income here.
i feel very dead inside. we dun have kids n we dun have sex, there is no progress in marriage and i keep thinking bt divorce, she too thinks about it.
we have nothing to look forward to and im really stuck, i feel like splitting up but at the same timei cant bear to. no matter how i weigh the pro and cons, its a 50-50 decision for me.
any one else is my situation?