Being stalked

To whom it may concern, again:
Thank you for the link, I am not going to click on it, the text that you copied and paste is sufficient. I am going to reply to you from this thread.

Hweebs:
My initial shallow answer was that the other colleagues in our small group of 6 people were all very old, in their fifthties and sixties. I worked more with the ex colleague than with the others so I engaged more in him than in the others. You, Milo and Autumn Time are all very eloquent in depicting what I see, think and feel. My conscience was against me abandoning him but whoever tries to continue to engage in him feels forever somber and feels like apocalypse is coming. It´s like there´s a weight that pulls you down. When I left, I asked the secretary look out for him. It´s the best I could do. I cared for him as a colleague-friend, I stood up for him but he never did so for me. Another thing, he lacks empathy for others but he feels he is always victimized. I brushed that away because I knew he had some kind of condition.

Milo:
It's as if you are looking through my eyes, your post on Thursday, June 24, 2010 - 5:08 pm explains it all.
 


Meubel,

Hweebs has only touched on one part of her new-found worrying. LOL~ At least she is waking up.

But that's not the real issue about you, Meubel.

What actually roused my interest about you is the way you presented your profile PLUS (most importantly) the way you describe your husband and your attitude towards this stalker.

I have been reading your psychological map so far. That was why I literally told you what could have developed to pull out more. You simply assumed too much; you don't even understand the implications of what you wrote for his profile. If you are setting an exam question on a stalker... LOL~ You'd be like a big confusion.

This problem is about mostly you, not that stalker. You are still hiding something. Let me be abit more blunt here...

You are in real not really a nice person. LOL~

And you are simple-minded. Still, does anyone know how much you'd have to make a month to have an obssession for me to release pressures in (say) Poland? How much time do I have?

If it were to be just a 'friend you don't want anymore', and the focus is like mostly about your husband... LOL~ You see, you said alot of things... too much, until you don't even make sense. You could have called the police, even those IQ close to mules' in this forum had advised you that, but you didn't... with some excuse that you don't know what they can do.

But what they can do, shouldn't you at least call the police and check up? You do not sound like wanting the police in, but you want to keep him away from you... or let me be more precise, from your husband.

And there is nothing in real to be ashame of to find you after some time via emails that would justify a suppressed number. Not to say he knows you, and you and him have been sole partners in an office politics for quite some time... having each other in a harsh environment, presumeably so.

If he is really ashamed, why does he now called and hang up... with a suppressed number? Some of your mentions in the profile of him... only makes me wonder what kind of person you are. You are not a psychologist you said. LOL~

Hweebs' still not getting the real picture. Since she's like turning direction, I'd let her have a go with you for some more time. You are so... funny. LOL~

In order to deal with your stalker, dealing with you is the most effective method. Don't mind me saying this, you are the source of your own problem. Got it?

I am not those smart alecs or rookies. Don't try to hide. I only want the truth. I don't care what those jokers here will laugh at me for... I just find them funny.

If your case is real, then this assessment you have of the stalker is mostly unreliable. He might have told you and done something, but I read your psycho... Until you open your doors for me to enter your world... I can't do much either.

I am not God. I am merely a pro.

Know now why you are interesting to me? LOL~ Autumn Time and Hweebs made very serious mistake because they simply jumped into what you presented for us. Rookies...

Just like in Seawaves6's case... these people never learnt.

The real person who needs a psychologist should be you. LOL~ Look, don't wall up so much, relax... you are probably entertaining other more drastic situation/s. I suspect your husband and you might have some issues.

No women, wherever you are, will take that so calmly to such an extent as you when their beloved husbands are called jerks, even if they really are. Unless you are a man in disguise lah~

You yourself ain't very nice to this 'stalker'. If I need to consider a psychological label on this stalker, I think I should put Milo into IMH (Institute of Mental Health in Singapore).

You have no contact with this stalker for a year... ... LOL~ So you assume he is lonely hence he called upon you. Interesting.

If he is not lonely, can he call?

What's wrong with you? There are only 6 people in your office? You are that nice, approachable lady with no enemies... and with 6 old men for so long, you were only with 1 'stalker' and then you left... if I not recall wrongly, is due to office politics.

LOL~

LOL~

See? The best is yet to come.
 
milo,

no lar, i'm not saying that there is any betrayal...am only saying that in times of betrayal one can probably rightfully abandon another one. Other times...a bit uncomfortable for me.

meubel,
ok...at least u got the secretary to help look out. It didn't sound like that when u wrote earlier on you know, just sounded like you very fed up so just drop him aside. But still...oh well, it's your prerogative
 
Hweebs,

She said No to alot of things. She said No to a 'friend', a close comrade... She said No to herself... She said No to face her situation... She said No to make sense of things...

Most people come with negatives... It's your job to ignore them. You cannot perform your counselling duty by simply being fed by your client's wills and fancies and try to administer what therapy according to misleading or contorted truths...

You have to learn to see beyond, and target what is exactly the issue.

Stubborn as you are, you are actually a nice girl. The difference between a rookie and a pro is only the attitude.

If he is Jack Neo, you'd surely die... LOL~ Don't always take your clients' stories on face values.

See? I am not belittling you, I read you, you are not really a bad woman/girl... You are just... green. You need this experience, or you'd always remain a rookie to me.
 
Scope:
I was looking forward to your quotes and scenarios, but none, you disappoint me Scope! I haven't had a good laugh since Powder mashed you up!

What's up with the amount you'd need to make to go to i.e. Poland to release pressures? You want to flash the contents of your wallet? *Yawn* Why keep ranting about Seawaves6? You still want validation and feel triumph?

You are frustrated I reacted sensibly when you called my husband a jerk so you make up more old wives tales. I still haven't heard your ascertainment about the issues that I and my husband have.... O, please tell me. (not in your usual long winded style) Scope dear, can you please not beat about the bush when you write, I beg of you. They way you write, you're going at the rate of a perpetuum mobile.

note: the group consisted out of 6 people, total. Not 6 old men and us two.

Hweebs:
Many of the things I depicted happened at least a year ago, until I start micro-reminiscing, I keep leaving out details. The plot is a bit jumbled up. Not a good story teller am I? At first I just wanted to get on with my life when he started e-mailing, not fed up yet. Then I indeed got fed up, my phone never stopped ringing. I was also a little freaked out by this, given his oddity. After Autumn gave me an idea of what he might be suffering from, not to forget your reply on how one goes through in emotional detachment, I am not so tensed about him bothering me anymore, though I still keep/take precautions. Milo was eloquent in how one experiences this.

Scope's initial replies were sometimes on the right track but more often than not, he was wrong. Now he is bearing a grudge because I am not taking him seriously anymore.
 
scope,

Told u earlier that i dun do counselling in this context, here. Not ethical, not safe. Even in psychotherapy, the client must be willing/commited to change for us to be able to help. Or at least be open to the idea of receiving help or changing. Meubel is neither, and to force her to go through it is against my ethics.
 
Hweebs,

Meubel doesn't really need help. LOL~

Your best 'help' to her is to figure her out. She's not really a difficult subject; and there is nothing about being unethical.

She thinks I am bearing a grudge. LOL~

This is a pretty simple-minded case with too much assumptions. There is a possibility that this case is not even real in a way. LOL~

I just want you to gain some experience... in dealing with such people. You should try to figure out more of less what she is, then establish a more sensible picture.

She could be a Singaporean purposely throwing in 'social security number'... and wherever she could be, she's like around here round the clock. See?

Be meticulous, this one is easy enough.

She's not here for counselling, darling. She's here asking for psychologist just as somebody is recently here asking for 3-somes. LOL~

If she's here for counselling, or really seeking aid, she won't go round and round and round, hiding so much. If she were to be really disturbed, she'd have called the police, and not explained "we don't know what they (police) can do...".

I have finish with her. Go ahead, get some experience.
 
Scope:
Why do you keep asking Hweebs to do your dirty little job?

Indeed Scope, for all you know, I maybe Singaporean, I may deliberately be throwing you off the track by stating social security number. It matters to you? You are so engrossed in European women, you want to pinpoint if I even am from Europe.

Tired of not being able to figure me out Scope, if there's anything in this thread left to figure out?
 
Tell the person you will meet him or her outside.

Why is the break up so ugly? Did you hurt the other person badly?
 
is he the guy u've been talking abt in ur previous posts?

hmm, the obverse of love is hate... the wrath of a jilted man.
 
I'm tempted to label folks here armchair psychoanalysts until I remember in tv shows the shrinks always sit in comfy lazyboy type armchairs... I'm too lazy to read through the melodrama. Was there actual stalking? Calling and breathing heavy doesn't sound very threatening. A dead pet rabbit maybe? or sexual dalliance? Come on!!
 
Phone calls, even not picking up result is 30 - 50 over missed call.. Wont give up until you pick up.

Conversation contents are cursing and swearing of your evil personality non stop because you initiate the break up and broke his heart.

telling you when he know who is at home at what period of day etc..
 
this stalker is so free. But what's the use of knowing who is at home? does he go and confront you? tell him you will report to police for harrassing. this will scare him off
 
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