troubled_gal
New Member
Hi everyone,
I hv been stayin wif my FH n FPIL for the past 4mths. During this period, i hv came to understan y ppl would always say "xiang jian rong yi, xiang chu nan".
Im havin prob wif my FMIL cos for everythin u do, she oso wan to poke her nose in it or she would b sittin there n watch wat u r doing.
She's thrifty, i can understan tat but would ppl be so thrifty to the extent tat even those water used to wash oily utensils, she oso keep it in a pail in the bathroom so tat she can use it to wash clothes later n she can still claim tat she wash clothes v clean. There's once i caught her washin my towel tog with their socks, lingeries n even those rags n i quickly told her don't need to wash for mi as i can do it myself but the nxt few times i caught her doin it again which i don't know if she's purposely doin it anot.
N wat make matter worst, she always thought watever she do is correct n even doubt other ppl capability. She always thought wat she do is out of goodwill which we don't c it in tat way at all. In fact we would feel tat she's more of a hassle than helpin us instead. Yet she oso like to keep tellin every1 tat she's "hao xin mei hao bao" n tat she's a gd wife, mum n MIL etc la. But if she's reali so, then y would every1 in the hse includin her husband, my FH n his younger bro cant tolerate her too n would keep havin arguement with her. N his younger bro who is married oso quickly move out with his wife. The fact is she's really a troublemaker but yet she don't c tat in herself at all. I was wonderin for a person who is gd anot is nt to be say by oneself n should b say by others instead rite.
But she like to always praise herself n tellin me how gd she is n she oso hope to c tat her 2sons would hv a gd marriage. But she can keep complain to me tat my FH always smoke secretly in his room when i hv not move in yet n whenever im nt in his hse at tat time n i told her i already ask my FH but since he insist he really nv do so anymore ever since bein caught by her once very long ago n so just forget abt this issue but she would say to me how would i know if my FH is lyin to me anot hence i told her y nt wait till my FH is around then we clarify tis issue but she say don't wan as she don't wan my FH to be aware tat she told me abt him behind his back. So is she tryin to stir up prob between us?
There's once i overheard she told my FFIL tat ever since i moved in like everythin oso wan my FH to listen to me cos all along my FH is v "chim cai" type although he oso cant stand some of the way his mum do things n even argue with her b4 I hv moved in.
I always told my FH i wonder if i can really tolerate stayin with his mum till our own flat is ready in 3yrs later.
Can anyone advise me on wat should i do?
I hv been stayin wif my FH n FPIL for the past 4mths. During this period, i hv came to understan y ppl would always say "xiang jian rong yi, xiang chu nan".
Im havin prob wif my FMIL cos for everythin u do, she oso wan to poke her nose in it or she would b sittin there n watch wat u r doing.
She's thrifty, i can understan tat but would ppl be so thrifty to the extent tat even those water used to wash oily utensils, she oso keep it in a pail in the bathroom so tat she can use it to wash clothes later n she can still claim tat she wash clothes v clean. There's once i caught her washin my towel tog with their socks, lingeries n even those rags n i quickly told her don't need to wash for mi as i can do it myself but the nxt few times i caught her doin it again which i don't know if she's purposely doin it anot.
N wat make matter worst, she always thought watever she do is correct n even doubt other ppl capability. She always thought wat she do is out of goodwill which we don't c it in tat way at all. In fact we would feel tat she's more of a hassle than helpin us instead. Yet she oso like to keep tellin every1 tat she's "hao xin mei hao bao" n tat she's a gd wife, mum n MIL etc la. But if she's reali so, then y would every1 in the hse includin her husband, my FH n his younger bro cant tolerate her too n would keep havin arguement with her. N his younger bro who is married oso quickly move out with his wife. The fact is she's really a troublemaker but yet she don't c tat in herself at all. I was wonderin for a person who is gd anot is nt to be say by oneself n should b say by others instead rite.
But she like to always praise herself n tellin me how gd she is n she oso hope to c tat her 2sons would hv a gd marriage. But she can keep complain to me tat my FH always smoke secretly in his room when i hv not move in yet n whenever im nt in his hse at tat time n i told her i already ask my FH but since he insist he really nv do so anymore ever since bein caught by her once very long ago n so just forget abt this issue but she would say to me how would i know if my FH is lyin to me anot hence i told her y nt wait till my FH is around then we clarify tis issue but she say don't wan as she don't wan my FH to be aware tat she told me abt him behind his back. So is she tryin to stir up prob between us?
There's once i overheard she told my FFIL tat ever since i moved in like everythin oso wan my FH to listen to me cos all along my FH is v "chim cai" type although he oso cant stand some of the way his mum do things n even argue with her b4 I hv moved in.
I always told my FH i wonder if i can really tolerate stayin with his mum till our own flat is ready in 3yrs later.
Can anyone advise me on wat should i do?
