Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

nur

Aiyah ... those rings have different meanings la .. not the same as the first one yah!
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Marnie

Hehehe ... will Meraj have a go at you for making him go to places like these? I know my Ah Boy will ... he absolutely hates doing these kind of stuff.

Ally

My mum's on routine check-ups for her diabetes and she does take insulin shots twice a day. She's coping with it .. actually we all are. Yes, must definitely take care of her .. my one and only mommy!!
 


Ally, take care of yourself too at these times.

Cuclainne, he has not complained so far about going to the jewellers. Actually, I don't think he has complained about going to places for anything wedding related as long as we have in mind where to go and what to get/look at. He just complains about the distance sometimes. And once he asked why we have to go Arab Street (again!).
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If he complains, I just bring him to have a good fulfilling meal to satisfy him lah..that would shut him up a bit.
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Marnie

Oh, I'm the one who likes to complain about the distance.. Ah Boy doesn't. Did you know he emailed the Norwegian Embassy to ask if he can purchase his favourite brown cheese here and they actually replied??? So now we have to go to the Norwegian Seamen's Mission near Pasir Panjang (I think) to get that ... I told him he can go on his own. He promised that we can go by cab .. Hahahaha. But at the rate he wolfs this cheese down, I think we might have to go there twice a month!!!
 
Cuclainne, Oh the Seaman's Mission is like a chapel (or used to be at least) - so quaint! Very far and up the winding road on the side of a hill or something like that.

Oh dear me...don't put me and cheese in the same room - Meraj loves them too - so British - cheese and crackers. Blleehhh.
 
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Marnie

Which shop @ Arab Street do you recommend for good materials? I need to have a look at some cloth and see if I get any inspiration. Hahaha ..
 
Cuclainne, what sort of material are you looking at? I'm most comfortable at Royal Fabrics (there are 4 outlets on Arab Street) for laces - I go to the ones towards the end of the street. They are better service wise. For silks, I go to Mahaco Impex.

Say Girls. I just realised that Istana doesn't provide kendarat. Anyone can recommend me a kendarat group (preferably with uniform one) for under $400. for 8 people for about 6 hours? I found one group - they don't have uniform per se but they are cheap.
 
Marnie

Thanks for the tip.

Sorry but I have no idea re: the kendarat group. My mom has already activated my cousins and some of her sisters for this ... hehehe. Free labour?!
 
Cuclainne,

wah!! so good ah..free labour.. Last time, we gave my cousins n aunts a corsage each - laced with money (about 10 - 20 each)..cheap labour for mine!!

Marnie,

let me check with my mum if she knew of any kendarat. Cos my aunt is a caterer..mayb she got some contacts.
 
Ally, aye...like the kendarat we saw at Elaine's wedding! Thanks for asking around re. the kendarat.

Cuclainne, thanks anyways.
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Ally &amp; Cuclainne,
I'm avoiding relatives help (for the wedding) like a plague mostly cos' I don't want them to have any say in the ways I want my wedding to be. Later give kopi money also they say not enough lah..this lah that lah. Give me more stress.
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Ladies

I met up with the photographer and he seems to be a nice chap. It was easy to talk to him and he seems to be full of good ideas. His photos are good too .. hmm, might just consider taking him but is $1800 ok to cover ALL my events (Jan and two dates in March)?
 
Cuclainne, er....think it's a bit on the high side? Usually, for the Chinese photographers, you only add like S$150 or so for separate days. What are you getting for S$1.8K? What are the hours for each event?
 
Thank goodness Cuclainne reminded me about additional day photography. I just emailed Eulee about possibly shooting our pre-wedding lunch do at Equinox. That may pose a problem cos' Eulee's a Christian. We'll see how it goes. I'm hopeful yet!
 
Marnie

- A really big picture book (leather-bound with initials)
- A smaller picture book (with photo and name printed on the front cover) about the size of a standard album
- about 450 printed 4R pictures
- slip-in album for loose pictures
- CD of all images taken

The hours are:
solemnisation - 2.5 to 3 hours
dinner - 3 to 4 hours
sanding - about 3 to 4 hours

He said the package can include my berinai event ..
 
Cuclainne, if he includes your berinai event, then I'd say go for it. Did you ask whether you can choose the photos to go into the picturebook or will be take it onto himself to artistically choose the pictures to fit the "theme" of the book?

Will the CD of the images only be in colour or will he give an additional CD of one edited to black and white. For us to colour edit ourselves will not be the same as these photographers who are more apt in the software and have an "eye" to do so.
 
Hi gals....
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Sorry i went missing a couple of days cos i was busy at work and when i got home, too tired to log on...

Cuclainne, i think $1800 for photography is a lil ex? Did u try other good chinese photographers maybe like wedwedwed (www.wedwedwed.com)-they have done muslim weddings before-i have a list of photographers that i have already selected, so when i get home i will check who else...

Plus gals, do you guys have any recommendations for good videographers? I know wedwedwed and The wedding papparazzi are doing up a promotion-$100 off each package if u take them both. and from my knowledge, Wedding papparazzi is real good!! u should check out their clip on their website, however, a lil ex...but its really unique style!

I will be meeting them when my FH comes down next month im soooooo excited!! Cant wait!! hahaha
 
Marnie

Yes, I asked him about it and he said that the couple are involved in the process. The picturebook will only be ready about a month after all the events are over with so that pictures from all events can be printed in the book. He said the couple will choose the photos and he will need time to design the layout and that will be subjected to approval by the couple before it goes for printing. He said that the mini picturebook will contain the same photos as the big picturebook.

He said he will give two CDs: one to contain the pictures that he will be printing (the 450 pcs) and the other to contain all the other photos he took but didn't print. He said if I want black and white, he can make another set for that.

He told me that I should scout around for the best package because that's my right as a consumer. He said that he only takes booking from one couple a week because he wants to give personalised service. He prefers to meet up with the couple a few times before the wedding so the couple has warmed up to him and it's easier for them to feel comfortable with him around. He also said that he would prefer to come over to the venue of solemnisation at about the same time as the real event so he can see the lighting and stuff .. and he can suggest where the kadi should sit and stuff like that. Nice guy la .. he told us his experiences dealing with wedding photography.. and he was able to joke around with my mom so that was good.
 
Hi Cuclaine

May I know who's the photographer? Well, i think wats most important is that you are very comfortable with the photographer, and he does seem very amiable..
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and also, esp for chinese photographers i feel they must know the whole process so they know whats important to take etc... NOW i think for your package of $1800 to cover three days is reasonable
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So marnie, cuclainne,
how was ur bling bling trip? If only the posts earlier, i would have loved to go!!! sob sob..
 
Hi Cuclaine

May I know who's the photographer? Well, i think wats most important is that you are very comfortable with the photographer, and he does seem very amiable..
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and also, esp for chinese photographers i feel they must know the whole process so they know whats important to take etc... NOW i think for your package of $1800 to cover three days is reasonable
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So marnie, cuclainne,
how was ur bling bling trip? If only
I have read the posts earlier, i would have loved to go!!! sob sob..
 
Zierella

He's from http://www.apicturebookwedding.com

I figured that since he's malay too, it would be easier for him to interact with my family members .. especially the non-English speaking ones. I want them to feel comfortable having this person around, taking their shots.

The bling-bling trip was good ... I still haven't decided on what to get though .. I think I need to go on one more trip this weekend but to other jewellers.
 
Cuclainne, then you should go with him - good package and makciks and pakciks can all converse with him - that's a bonus!

Picturebook is actually magazine style. You can try www.mypublisher.com or even Kodak to look see look see the layouts and stuff - quite fun!

Zieralla, we met up with Blossom (TWP). They have a very good style and a niche market. I'd go for them in a heartbeat but because theirs are more into the light comical part (and I'm not sure whether I want to "portray" our customs and such as "comical" cos' well, I respect certain aspects of our tradition) we're most likely to give them a pass regretfully!

We've seen Flipside (but there were aspects that we couldn't agree with or just didn't like) and CiderJuice. We have BoomBox and a freelancer lined up for meetings tomorrow evening so we hope to finalise this soon or scrap the videographer if we can't find one to our budget and our needs.

I think I have an idea about the rings I want but I'm more worried about Meraj. He's more picky about his ring than I am with mine maybe cos' I was more choosy when it came to the style of necklace, my mas kahwin.
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Cuclainne, make an appointment to see Carat Club. But I should tell you to go there with Ah Boy when he's in town. It'll be like "all you need to know about diamonds and jewellery 101" lesson.
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Marnie

Hahahaha ... I doubt Ah Boy will allow me to drag him to these kind of places. He'd usually get all quiet and moody and tend to play with his mobile phone when that happens. Lol.

Tomorrow I'm going to view some apartments and also to see the mak andam ... I hope some things will be confirmed by next week. I had indicated my parents' home address as the venue for the solemnisation but I really would like have it at my new place (provided I can find one in time).
 
Ally &amp; IC, aiyah.....did I tell you Muslims can will away 2/3rd of assets? It's actually only 1/3rd. Aiyoh..sorry......I'm working on a Will now and I just tried to recall what I told you - so better let you know anyhow that muslims can essentially will only 1/3rd of their assets.
 
Cuclainne, oh goodie! But don't you wish you were hunting for the apartment with Ah boy? It would be so much more fun, I bet.

I'm looking forward to hunting for our own apartment in February/March.
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Marnie

Yes, how I wish that he was here so we could go look for the apartment together. He told me that I didn't have to do it but the timing is just cutting it a bit too close ... he's coming on 28.12 and after that, it's just a short two weeks before we get married. How to find an apartment we both want in that time, when we're working and finalising details for the wedding? Aiyah .. better for me to have a look and then send him pictures and tell him what I think.

So far I have shortlisted two apartments for viewing tomorrow .. one's a very spacious 2 bedroom apartment at Cavenagh Road - affordable and from the pictures, VERY NICE! Lol. The other is a 4-room apartment near Oxley Rise .. also quite affordable for that size and location. I just got a call from an agent and he's going to arrange for me to view another apartment next week near Comcentre. Things are definitely picking up. Lol.
 
Hi Marnie

Yeah u have a point there with TWP. Is Ciderjuice good? I know they are relatively new. I really want to have videographer for my event and i need to find a good one, cos its different from photos (still images). Yeah I have seen Flipside's video dont really like it either.


Wow you are customizing your rings...how cool! Well i think it is important to select the right wedding band cos ur gonna wear it everyday hehe and i know men dont like stuff on their fingers:P
 
Zieralla, CiderJuice offered me a great package at a tempting price. Hands are steady - personalised DVDs/menus and all that. I can't quite put a finger on it but my heart craves for something more. I'm not crossing him off the list, just that I'm just looking out for more choices.

Meraj got excited when he heard and saw that he could design his own rings with engravings and what nots. I am partial to an art deco migrained channel set half eternity in platinum though it's going to cost me an arm and leg so I am still thinking whether I would get mine from Fairy's Inc. Meraj though would probably get his there. We'll see. We have till end January to decide, I think.

Cuclainne, good prime locations - I'm sure it'll be good. Just bring a fully charged battery for the digital camera.
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Ooooh Girls!!! Meraj got his Certificate of Single Status so we're on to our interview early December. Wish us luck girls!
 
Marnie,
All the best for the interview.. You will ace it!! Ya, I was thinking of going to Royal Fabrics to buy something lacy but I might change my mind once I'm in the area. The kebaya for the nikah will be a longish one, going for demure look
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and probably choosing ivory or off-white tone. Tried to look for kebaya designs when I was at the National Library (yah, very intellectual rite?) but that was a silly idea cos much more productive looking for ideas online and in Malaysian magazines.

Cuclainne,
Wow, happy for you that you are going to be living it up in town. I'm going to be looking for a resale flat in due course and guess where? Will be staying in Pasir Ris which is where I live now.. But no complaints lah.. I like this estate.

Errm, a bit late to talk about your photographer now.. but hey, I think $1800 for events spread over 3 days is OK. I still don't know whether I should get a videographer cos I don't look good in videos and wondering how many times I will actually watch it. But my mum is quite insistent about getting one.
 
Hi Marnie,
Yeah i saw that his discount is 40% off so he is one of my shortlisted videographers. Well, when u do come across good ones, please inform me!
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Its so hard to find nice ones//

Yeah it sure is exciting to design one's own ring eh? Its gonna be the one and only in the world..
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im curious, whats the price range like?

Good luck Marnie!
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thats so cool...
 
Marnie

Just came home from viewing the apartments and also paid a deposit for the mak andam. The agent for the first apartment also took us to another which is not on our itinerary. My parents LOVE the apartment but it's very ulu even though it's at Cairnhill. Me and Ah Boy are partial to the apartment at Cavenagh (monstrous master bedroom - yes!) and they're willing to shave off $100 from the rent. I got some good shots so I'm pretty happy that I can show them to Ah Boy.

Yay! Good luck for the interview yah!

nur

There is an apartment for rent near Downtown East (facing sea). It's on the third floor and you get the roof top area as well, for BBQs and it's only $1400. But it's just a bit too far for me and Ah Boy. I don't mind living in a HDB estate but Ah Boy is a bit fussy and has a lot of requirements.

I won't be getting a videographer as Ah Boy doesn't want to but I suspect that my sister will take some on her videocam.
 
Cuclainne, cool! Yeah. Cairnhill is abit out there even though it is in the heart of it.

K Girls. Our videographers meeting this evening went ok. There was a bit of problem with the freelancer one at the beginning. The DVD just would not play and cos' he doesn't keep any footage of wedding couples, he has only one to show. But once the DVD played - Meraj and I both looked at each other and had a "this is IT" moment. His hands are steady. Great editing skills! And the sounds are SUPER. We're sooo set to engaging him but he has a pending roadshow for his multi-million dollar client in April. Dates not confirmed. I am sooo praying that he'll be available. All the rest of the videographers I have seen just pale in comparison...

I'm not too pleased with Boombox. Hands are not so steady though the guy is a cameraman for Mediacorp. And somehow we got a "this is what you should get" attitude without really asking me much questions apart from whether we wanted a music video - I don't want a music video of us walking around Singapore set in music - that's so lame for us - that's soo not us! Bleh.
 
Hey, i went to a fren's wedding today. Was impressed by the buffet spread and beautiful shiny catering pots (very presentable.. I am somewhat obsessed with utensils?). It's by Noza (or Nora??) Wedding Services cos I saw their signage at the side. The kendarat was also very efficient and well-dressed and it had Malay dancers in elegant clothes (not those garish ones). The wedding favour was a set of 4 coasters in traditional batik print. This wedding..I like... My FH also liked it. Anyway, I told the bride (long-time fren but not spoken in years) how I enjoyed her wedding. Her mum offered to be my adviser, real nice lady. Once I get some info, I tell u gals ya? Especially kendarat contact and oh yes, the sirih dara was gorgeous. I don't know if you gals are having the sirih dara (it's a cultural decoration of fresh flowers that you place on the dais and it has significance for the bride) and if done really well and uniquely it's a pretty sight.

Marnie,
Who's this wonderful videographer?

cuclainne,
Me marrying a heartlander Malay guy so HDB flat it is but anyway, I live near Downtown East now hehehe... I know the type of apartment you were talking about.. quite nice.
 
Nur, It's Shahid. A malay guy - he was upfront that he's not shot any malay/muslim weddings (he does a lot of chinese weddings}. Told him that we are not stickler about whether he has shot a malay/muslim wedding. We are more concerned about his technically in what he does i.e. good in what he does or not. If he has the talent and an eye in what he does, then what he has not shot before does not matter.
 
Marnie

The Cairnhill place is nice cos everything is new and it has a nice view but the bedroom is just too small. To take a shortcut to civilisation (haha), you have to take a path that runs through an arts centre. So my mom's worry is what will happen if the centre shuts the gate .. hahahaha. Anyways, viewing some more places today so we should be able to make a decision sometime this week.

nur

Yes, I'll be having the sirih dara at my bersanding event. Tradition yah. How are your preparations coming along?
 
Cuclainne, your mom has a point there. Going to have a problem if the Arts Centre closes its doors.

Nur, oh thanks dearie about the kendarat. I'm so in need of a few groups to liaise with.

I've seen the coaster things. I got one before. It's from Tranquil Hut. I quite like them.
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Marnie

Well, that is not going to be a problem anymore because Ah Boy has rejected the idea of living there. I hope that the apartment we now have our eye on is still available .. keeping my fingers crossed!!

How was your trip to the jewellers last Fri?
 
Cuclainne, oh dear me...He rejected it already so soon? Hmmmppppff...I now know what a hard time you're having with all this wedding and moving prep.

Fairy's Inc was good. We had a good time! Meraj is excited about the custom-made thingee though he said, he's happy with the plain comfort-fit band which we saw at a retail shop. I'm not inclined to get mine at Fairy's Inc cos' although it's custom-made, I get the same kind of diamonds in that setting in platinum at the other place I saw at $1K cheaper.

I believe in marriage but I don't believe in spending over my budget for a darn ring! It's so easy to get "side-tracked" with wedding prep and I've seen it with my friends who are preparing their own weddings, I just don't want to fall in that same trap. Know what I mean?
 
Marnie

Yup, I know what you mean by that. I think it applies to everything that I'm going through so far with the wedding/ moving preps. I had seen the gazebo dais and fell in love with it but it's about about 2.5 times the cost for a normal pelamin so practicality (and after some lecturing from my mom) won in the end so I'm just going for the normal dais.
 
Cuclainne, it's not easy yeah. In the beginning I was pretty much side-tracked myself for a whole week. Was "swayed" by the glitteratti and the whirlwind of the whole marriage/wedding part.

I suppose it's every girl's dream to have a wedding she's always wanted since she was born.

There are things at our wedding that are expensive. Like food. We figure if anything, we should not stinge on the food to be served to our guests. And photographs for ourselves. These are major expenses for us. I'm even playing with doing the deco and pelamin myself (with the help of my handy brother in law!) Coincidentally, we're meeting up with Istana tonight to discuss the packages so it should all be settled then (I hope!).

So bling bling on my finger is not of importance for us at this point. If I strike 4D before my wedding then it's a different story lah(!!)
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cuclainne,
Today, we are going on the GREAT CC HUNT.. to check cost and details of all the CCs within a 5 km radius from my place. Then, sometime in the week, will go to Inai and Fatimah Mohsin to see-see-talk-talk.. Got progress, I will share hehe..

/b{Marnie},
I haven't spoken to my friend yet, give her some time to rest lah
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.. Anyway, there are a couple of kendarat contacts on the urusan pengantin website that you could check out in the meantime. Look at the pics etc. http://www.urusanpengantin.com
Putri Wedding: 14 ppl $580 /hp95763198
Kendarat Natasha: 12ppl $500 /hp96705783
Nurbani Kendarat: 10ppl Dinner $300 n Lunch $450 hp/90957506
Noor Farah's Kendarat: 8ppl $500 \hp 92718909
Hehee.. I dug out the list from my file cos I did some research through the website some time ago.
 
Marnie

Yes, we must make sure that the food is acceptable. After all, if we don't like the food ourselves, how can we subject our guests to that, right? I think money is well spent on things like that and photographs (I am hoping that picturebookwedding is still available) - it's true what my mom said about some things being unnecessary expenses like the pelamin. Nice to look at but after the event, it's not going to be mine what .. lol. I want to confirm Hayati for my bridal henna but she has not replied yet.

nur

That sounds so fun. Which CCs are you going to look at? I will most likely confirm Rias Andaman as my mak andam.
 
Nur
Keep us updated once u've 'digged up' more info fm ur fren, yah!

Marnie
Agree with u tt it's so easy to get swayed with the whole wedding prep tt one tends to burst the budget if she follows her heart. I want anything and everything beautiful.. just that most times these stuff comes with a heavy price tag. Gd thing for FH and us to keep each other in check sometimes.
Btw how did u know abt that Shahid guy? His work seems wonderful. Is he expensive..? I meant his service of coz.. hahaha

Hey girls I attended my first marriage course yesterday.. with my sister and her fiancee.. heehee! My sis is getting married this Feb.
Class went ok, not as bad as I expected. But it's funny to see all the sleepy faces nodding off when class was conducted after lunch.
I like the topic on financial planning. I actually didnt realise the financial 'burden' that comes after marriage! FH had a bad headache when class was over.. hahaha!
 
Sandra,
Hahaha.. poor thing your FH but headache is good.. at least got reaction! And welcome back!

cuclainne,
Me looking at the 4-5 CCs in Tampines and 1 in Simei. I've gone to see the 2 CCs in Pasir Ris, just afraid I won't get the Pasir Ris one that I want as all the CC bookings are 1st-come-1st-serve and can only book either 6 months or 3 months before the wedding. Each CC has different charges and different booking periods. Anyway, it's best if the CC's hall is on the ground floor for food transportation but that's quite rare.

Marnie,
It's great to design your own pelamin. At the last work event I had, my colleagues did the stage backdrop using sari cloth, it was beautiful and heartwarming cos its your own handiwork u know. Hehee.. too bad I am just not artistically inclined.
 
Thanks Nur. I have actually visited that webbie which link you posted. It's quite informative. Thanks anyway girl. I'll wait for your friend's recommedation - no rush though!

Oooh.......*swoon* That sari backdrop does sound good....Maybe I'll "steal" that idea eh?
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Sandra, did you find the class informative? It's good that the class "prepare" us for what lies ahead in marriage. Not as all roses as some make marriage out to be.

Aye....like I said, we girls want everything all beautiful and as near perfect as our dream wedding. But alas, they all come with a heavy price-tag. We can still have a near perfect wedding - just need to be a lil' bit smarter and DIY. It's quite fun actually!
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Found out about Shahid through a friend's recommendation. It's not a frou frou frilly romantic kind of videos. I like the "as is" look. And it comes out polished with crystal clear sound. The video has a bridesmaid shouting from the 11th floor down to the carpark where the groom was - I can hear every single word!
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Cuclainne, Hayati takes 2 - 3 days to reply. You may want to sms her if it's urgent?

And I hear you about food! Meraj was definitely scrutinising the menu and I expect him to be really attentive at tonight's meeting with the caterers!
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Marnie

No worries - I'll wait for her la.

I really should find some way for Ah Boy to be more involved in the planning .. instead of taking a backseat to everything. Hmm .. maybe I should get him to plan the dinner. Hehehe..

nur

Wah - you really have your work cut out for you today then.
 
Cuclaine, maybe that's a good idea re. him planning the dinner.

The good thing is at least you guys still have a lil' more than 2 months when he arrives to plan for the dinner so it's not too bad.

Remind me put Ah boy and Meraj together after our weddings so that they can bond over how picky and fussy and finicky they were while we bond over shopping and desserts!
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Marnie

Hayati got back to me so I'm happy that I got her to do the henna for me. Yippee!! One less thing to worry about.

Yah ... it's easier said than done though. I don't want him to mess it up!!! Lol. I suppose, in the end, I still want my say in it.

Yes yes, we must put the two of them together ...
 
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