Hi everyone!
Wow so much action going on in all our lives, exciting
First, an update on THE TALK ON SUNDAY before I reply individually
It actually went really really well. It was truly an answer to a lot of prayer. My parents were a lot more open to the idea of us relocating to Sweden. I guess their main concern for me was that I'll find something challenging, job-wise, in Malmo or Copenhagen (which is only 45mins by train away anyway), and not be left languishing without a job. They were also open to us moving the wedding date earlier, i.e. ceremony + banquet, so that was really really great lah. With what's been happening to Emil at work, it's highly likely that he'll tender his resignation soon and return to Sweden after serving his 1-month notice. But yea, am getting myself mentally prepared to do up the wedding preparations separately (me in Singapore, him in Sweden), as well as all the other practical considerations to consider (residence permit, job hunting, apartment, etc). The big things now are actually the residence permit application and the job hunting. We called the embassy this morning, and after telling her that we are hoping to get married in April 2009 (we're planning to shift it earlier from July so that we hv less time apart), we were told that we could only start applying in January 2009, because "our relationship may not last till Dec" :| And since the permit takes 3-4 months to be ready, it'll mean that I'll get the permit very close to the actual wedding day in April. So strange right? Oh well, can't argue with the embassy people. And yea, that affects the job hunt, cos I can't travel to Sweden during the 3-4 months that the permit is being processed, so even if i wanted to do a face-to-face interview in Sweden, I won't be able to. This means that it may be that i'll be relocating to Sweden without a job waiting for me there. My dad is super uncomfy about that (he told me this morning that he won't allow it! he wants to make sure i don't get left hanging there w/o a job in the end la). So yea, still got the practical hurdles to jump over, but am continuing to pray, together with Emil, and trusting God to see us through each step.
The upside to Emil going back to Sweden earlier, however, is that he can settle our apartment arrangements, as well as talk to people about job opportunities for me there. Apparently in Sweden, the normal way of applying for jobs is thru networking rather than thru online applications. So, am looking at the positive side to things. Will also be going to Sweden in Dec for Christmas and New Year, so will get to see Emil in between, so that's sth to be thankful for.
Guess tho, I'm still letting things sink in. Like my pastor says, it's a major milestone decision, not something to be taken/treated lightly, and has huge implications on a lot of other things. BUT, it is a relief that a decision has finally been made, and now Emil and I can move ahead, albeit with God's guiding hand each step of the way, in His timing and ways
OK, enough of the drama of the wedding. Wanna hear sth insane? I ran the Army Half Marathon (i.e. 21 km) on Sunday morning, took about 3 hours

It's my first major running race, legs are still aching like crazy! But feels shiok la

Pigged out like crazy after ... ate pizza while watching the Olympics closing ceremony hehe
Georgina, yea, Emil and I are planning to make the trip back to Sweden at least once a year, like you and ur HB. We definitely want/desire our kids to know both their Swedish and Chinese roots, and extended family. Really hoping that fuel prices will only get better (i.e. cheaper!).
maple, aiyo so many typhoons, glad u are ok! Looks like work life is truly hectic in HK. guess take it one day at a time, before u know it, 3 years would be up
Good to know that u're getting to know ur local colleagues tho, that's really fantastic
now u'll get the chance to eat all the REALLY good local food that only the locals would know about hehe. And you should go influence Jeff to speak Singlish. Can start with "lah"! When I was working overseas, it was so good to speak to people from Malaysia or Singapore cos of the Singlish ... felt like home lah
thanks too for the encouragement re relocating. I'm thankful that I've got a while to mentally prepare myself for it. Emil's also making sure that I attend the "Swedish For Immigrants" course there when we've relocated, and yea, I wanna learn Swedish too la. Like u wrote, I guess the locals don't need polished French/Swedish, as long as they see us trying, that's what touches them, and what counts. I'm fortunate tho, that in Sweden, generally most people understand English, so that's good. And Emil and I are determined to ensure we don't get cooped up by ourselves all the time, but are making effort to spend time with friends... and enable me to practise my Swedish in a comfy and non-threatening environment
cuclainne, u shld have asked Elias to stare the irritating passenger down or speak in angry Swedish at him or sth hehe. Glad u're alright
and seems like the weather in Cebu was great! (sunburn not withstanding hehe). Glad u both had fun
Looking fwd to photos! Honeymoon #2 soon perhaps?
and yea, agreed that compromise/sacrifice is necessary to make a relationship work, esp a cross-cultural one. Also agree with ur perspective that when we make a decision to spend our lives with someone, our home/family is with him too. I don't think i can take working in one country while Emil is in another. Guess my main concern is my parents, I know they'll be very concerned about me if i don't hv a proper job in Sweden (they know the kind of personality I am, cannot be a bum even if I wanted to!). So yea, while 2-3 months of no work is prob ok, esp in the first few months of marriage, def not long term la. I'll go nuts I think
Liz, i can understand ur frustration. Things move so fast in Singapore, it's hard to keep up as someone staying in Singapore, let alone living overseas! Hence, thank God for this forum
hehe ... it's so cool, we are located all over the world, and yet share certain things in common. Feel free to 'vent' here at the forum, we're here to listen! And yea, all the more impt that our husbands/HTBs are also our best friends, cos esp when we are international couples, a lot of times it can get lonely, so very thankful that at least we have someone by our side aways
Chris, take it easy ya? Hope u'll get better!
margiel, one word - PICTURES! hehehe. ... did u get to meet Yao Ming or Michael Phelps???