blurrblurr,
from what i have read from your posting, i realised that you are actually lonely and mentally tired, not that you dun love your hubby or you love the other man. When you are lost, lonely and tired, this guy came by and shower you with new sparkle of feelings which you though is love. If you just divorce him and marry to this guy immediately, you will definitely regret for life. Your bf can meet you in that way, definitely he will meet other gals eventually.. Many times, we mistaken gratitude for love and thought this is wat we want. Actual fact, no. Even if you really get a divorce, pls do not rush into a relationship. A simple divorce can easily cost up to $4k. No simple feat. Your hubby is feeling lousy when he is jobless and may even run up a debt. He is feeling terrible to face you, his wife where you have to shoulder the whole expenses.
As a wife, you should make effort to listen to his heartfelt feelings before you even condemn him. No man can just change himself overnight. Guy being a guy, seldom willing to reveal their inner self cos he know he is a man with responsibility, to protect his woman and shoulder the burden of the word - FAMILY.
Just becos that guy appeared during your down time does not give him the right to invade and destroy your life. You are being unfair to your hubby for betraying his trust on you and unfair to the other guy where he thought you are an "angel" - unmarried lady.
Perhaps you can ask yourself, if you break away from your hubby and "W" just for 1 week or so. Ponder real hard, apart from $$ issue, whom do you really cannot live without. Dun jump into a relationship and wreck your own life. Life is only precious when you know the price of it. marriage isnt just yourself... it linked 2 hearts, two families.
The way you describe part 1, 2 and to be continued part 3 show no remorse of your guilt at all. You sounded as if this is very fun and exciting. Put yourself in your hubby or "W" shoe, the woman whom you deeply in love in now or perhaps before, is having physical contact with another "stranger". How will you feel? or if now your hubby is having a relationship with another woman, will you be able to accept it.
Marriage is not just a boy-gal relationship. It is a life-bond event. If everyone take marriage so lightly, then why would we take vow? might as well just married online and divorce online if we are unhappy with each other or so call "love-no-more"?
You are already 25, a quarter of a century. why are you behaving like a young teen looking for excitement and challenge. You are indirectly harming yourself, your family.
I admit Love is boundless, no right or wrong answer but i believe you should try your ultimate effort to make your dying marriage works 1st till the last straw, if no matter what you tried seem to work and improve, then do let go. Well if till the end, your marriage stilll cant work, dun give in threats by your hubby anymore, part amicably. If he really love you, he would not bear to hurt you this way. Guy who say will commit sucide becos of love, mean he is mentally weak. You need a man to love you, protect you and give you a peace of mind. This should apply to your Mr "W".
Pls pardon my lengthy posting. Dun wan you to walk the wrong path again. Know what you want and work toward it. Relationship is not a game of chance.
Last but not least, I pray the best for you. Do think thru carefully.