it's not pessimistic... it's necessary to teach pple to cherish their lives more and realise the world is bigger than just them. if u've seen it all, u won't be so caught up with every little darn bad thing that happens to you, yourself and you.
some pple dun even get to love all thier lives, some dun get a chance to be married, some dun even smell a relationship. we may approach divorce in our late 20s or ely 30s... but that only means we've experienced it all and still have our Youth. we still have a 2nd shot, we still have a chance to continually seek happiness.
if u reach this stage of enlightenment in affairs of the heart, then u will appreciate every good day and good moment. most times pple hold on to the bad ones and repeat it like a broken record becos they Took the Good Times for Granted. i've always maintained that the cheating spouse may have his/her faults... but the afflicted may not be entirely faultless either... it may be small faults, but little things contribute.
just cos 1 spouse committed adultery doesn't make the betrayed spouse an Immediate Angelic Figure like everyone is inclined to immediately assume. we should learn how to look deeper. i dun intend to paint the adulterer as angelic either... in fact nobody is...
but rule no. 1 of Life is to just keep experiencing and living it to the fullest... u can't do that all filled with hatred and anger, with a crowd cheering and fuelling u to carry on with these negative feelings...