A Place for Singles

heh Simpleman, tat is wat he claim too, said i act saint and blar blar when i tell him i forgive him and we try it out together and lets talk abt it and i will also change some of my shortcoming. But he just do not believe and claim i am acting.

Heh, reading ur story is reading mine.
 


skylar,

i no anyhow scold hor.pur president top earner now leh.....keke

spare time go give to gym liao lor...haaaaa

salsa, not teddy bear..its rubber doll lar..muscular type..LOL
 
salsa..
whahaha, ya man! also not forgetting his lsb lor..

Thinky,
at least u hv a strong mindset abt wat is gg to happen if ur hb were to fight for custody of the child, its good that u r sticking by ur roots in this way.

Siao eh,
me waiting to drink ur xi jiu leh!!
 
skylar, yes tough in the beginning (you will know if you read my blog) especially when kids thrown tantrums. but it has been much better nowadays. much much better that i am enjoying it.
 
siao eh..
next life?? next world?? spare me leh.. nabz.. know u this life already jialatz liao.. u still "bu fang guo wo?" wahahaha...

Salsa
i think wait till my neh neh touch the flr ah.. whahaha..

sm,
well, its only natural that ur oldest one will hv some kind of resentment to ur wife, the better u are to them the worst she will see her to be. perhaps i guess for this, time is the best healer ba..
 
hahahahahahahaha.........
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hi simpleman,

I'm sorry to hear your eldest was 14 when the divorce took place.
Children are often the most hurt when they get dragged into the whole affair.

There is a gal I know who always wanted a beautiful wedding but she could not have it that meant alot of friction between both her parents (both divorced when she was small) and she stayed with grandparent. She wanted to give tea to both her parents but her parents could not tolerate their EXs.. so in the end, all she had was a solemnization.
 
he cant see me eyes to eyes and my voice is very irritating to him now. We communicate through MSN if there is any kids issue but he will just offline if i will bring out our issue. He choose to avoid and run away, hence i bo pian already.

We will sell away the house and get our own house after the thing settle. But i will be shifting out with my kids very soon, looking for house to rent and a maid. Becoz our current situation is damaging my ger very fast. Hence shift out to give everybody a breathing space.
 
Siao eh.. ok ok lah..
mai gong bor lah.. steady.. next life, next world ah.. know u until u get married ok! steady bor?
check ur email lah cockanaden!

Sm,
the "monster" in her mother? gosh, how about a nice dad & gal chat with her? just a suggestion.

Salsa,
see i so good to u.. i secretly let u into the benefit of laughter qi gong leh.. liddat u no need to go attend those laughing classes liao lor.. kkekee..
 
Simpleman,

I believe in time to come, your daughter will grow to learn that parents always love their children, and sometimes, in divorce situations, parents may end up using their kids in their revenge bid against their EX, but kids are more hardy than we think they are and they will grow to be strong adults.
 
skylar, my eldest daughter don't talk much about these things to me. think it is natural. But I try to ask her to write her blog and let me read.. Then at least we can talk.

I read her blog.. can see her resentment even more.. sigh.. I hope to bring them to holiday and relax and maybe can talk more..

On her mobile phone. She identify her mom as SHE!. In her blog she called her mom - ex-mom and xxxking liar.

Terrible right?
 
My sister in law once told me not to have kids so soon after AD. I always wondered why. Then I found out that without having tried marriage properly and with kids on the way, kids may give pressure for my husband and I to stay on in the marriage where there may already be cracks in the marriage.
 
salsa
wahh piangz.. pls lor.. me so kind to u, u liddat to me ah? haiz.. me & that siao can only be frds lah.. can nv be couple ok? zzz...

siao eh.
nothing ah.. then i think i better zip up the files liao..
 
Wow, it certainly sounds quite serious SM. If it affects your eldest so m uch, do you think it's healthier if you attend counselling with her? Like accompany her? Being hte eldest, she may have some influence over the younger 2 and that's not something you want. It tires and hurts the person who hates more than the person who is hated.
 
cactus, I guess my eldest daughter has witnessed some things that she shouldnt so the trauma is there.

But I agree that they are stronger than we think. Sometimes they are too strong leh.. I wish they could tell me their fears and worries rather than appear so strong. Am I worrying too much?
 
hi simpleman, tat is wat worry me most. Becoz my little ger is also not chatty as last time, now everything also keep to herself and she think this is not her home anymore becoz no more daddy and mummy to her, eventhough we both physically at home everyday.

wat i do is to loeve her more and more
 
cactus, My eldest daughter won't go for counseling. She says the problem is the mother and she should go for counseling and not her.
 
hey salsa..
no worries man.. its ok ya.. kidding mah..

siao eh,
ya last sat event ah.. u want Dr Horny one si bor? no worries leh.. just tell me only ya..
 
just give the kids some breathing space and watch and love them patiently and keep trying to open them up.

I am lucky that my ger is very close to my sister and will prefer to talk to my sis. Infact my ger keep asking me and my hb to let her stay at my sister place becoz this is not her home anymore. she prefer to stay with the aunt and want to bring the little brother with her too. Feel so sad and sorry tat she had to gone through this.
 
Do your kids have a religion?

Sometimes kids don't see what adults see. Or maybe, we are not seeing what they can see.

When I was younger, I resented the way certain things were. I won't say I hated anyone, but I did resent. And it took alot out of me. It took me some time to see that the resentment was killing me, rather than for me to kill it off by resenting.

I find that religion gave me space to be at peace with myself. Not sure if that helps.
 
awwhhh... thinky,
poor thing ur ger is gg thru such situation now.. but its good that at least she is close to your sis, another channel of comfort if need be.

Siao eh..
ur yahoo email too small for the photos leh u got other email bor? bigger space one?
 
err..dun have leh..my hotmail like tat lor...nvm lar, next time u let me see again lor when we meet up

g gal..me already v corrupted liao leh..kaka
 
Ggal,
ah siao dun need me to peddle simi dirty pics lor.. he is dirty enug liao leh.. keke.. just some pics of our gathering the last time ah..

siao eh,
pls lor i dun keep such pixs one hor.. chey.. no worries lah
 
wahaha.. okok.. basically its one of the female who acts as a doc & named herself horny lor.. but obviously siao eh did not see up to her lah. kekek.. that i can understand.

siao eh.
i invite u gmail lah..
 
bye sm...
its not us leh.. its ah siao! kekeke...
hv a nice evening!

Salsa
u ask siao lor.. kekek. too high ba..

siao
go see now
 


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