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"I just want to be open and want my children to bring their guys home rather than be scared and hide outside."

I totally agree.. but I feel every father will feel anxious and even sad as their daugheters get seriously attached.
 


oh ok Simpleman... thought u were on the previous 7 cos i remember your car quite huge... anyway just brought family out to taka for a walk... in carpark i saw 7-8 7s being parked, after sending wife home and on my way back to office, i bumped into at least another 11 on the road... seems it's quite common too. think better to look at the X3...
 
Simpleman,
coz its pte mah.. so only certain pple get to see... btw so now u r with this little gal? wat abt the rest? pardon me if i nv read thru all ur postings..
 
simpleman, just finish reading ur blog.... cry all the way. Ur ger ger are so fortune to have a Daddy like u .. love them so much. I tell myself to be like u and try to make up the lost love from the other parents but i know nothing can replace daddy/mummy love as is different.

My hubby is like ur wife, keep telling me he want divorce becoz no more feeling for me... sigh.. everytime get him to tok, he just blow-up and walk away. Tired.
BTW serve him the divorce letter yesterday. Is over, just feel tat never do enuf for my kids and they should deserve better. Feel very sorry and extremely guilty to my kids.
 
thinky, look at the bright side of things. after divorce it could be much better although i know that no matter what you do, can never replace a daddy in your children's heart. We just need to do our best.
 
thinky,
how did u managed to finish reading simpleman's blog sooo fast man! good ah u.. kekek.. think my eyes getting drowsy liao or izzit my lunch food kicking in already..

sad to hear abt ur case but with an example of simpleman here, u definitely can be better! dun worry so much ya!
 
Sometime I see lots of ppl in SB forum giving me those scared feeling... Is marriage really that weak... I always thou once married the bonds will be stronger. But I "hear" from here, it is nt the way I think it should be. Some married happy ever after, some end up divorce.

I feel that in a marriage it take both party to work hard to make the bond stronger and if one doesnt then the bond will get loose and break eventually. That life I guess.
 
Skylar, becoz i am like him, hence can digest all his blog faster and i skip my lunch to read them all, ok!

Ya, i am doing my best but just worry not the best to my kid. When they grow up and know abt it and will blame me for not putting in enuf effort. I am in a bit of confusing state, need some time to sort out and assure myself tat this is the best i can do.
 
ah siao, I dun think so leh.. when you're single, you have nobody to fight w but then you also have nobody to share ur joy leh. Got its ups and downs but try to look at the bright side of things. You cld be one of the lucky ones.
 
5yrs girl and 1yrs boy. And the ger is more attach to the daddy as he take care of her since born. Infact she is more sad than me. I think she really hurt a lot becoz she is very quite now a days, not like her usual cheerful angels.
 
ah siao,

I say on the balance being married is better. But that is me.

I mean even for my case, I do not regret. If I turn back the clock, I will still marry the same girl and hopefully I can influence the outcome and it will be different.
 
thinky, don't think too much. Just do your best. We can't change what happened yesterday. But we can build a better tomorrow.

You have custody of the 2 kids?
 
well there's always good n bad in getting married lar..some nights when i cant zzz, i ponder whether should i actually find someone to settle down..but aftering considering many pros n cons, my answer is always a NO....haha

g gal..fight??..i would be too tired..i prefer to have a nice zzzz....
 
ya, i know... i am going through the emotion up & down. I am sure i will learn to control them in due time.

We are fighting for reason of Dirvorce, than fight for kids and last fight for money. Now my battle just start, need to reserve the energy to get the best for my kids.
 
would love X5 but way too ex... if can afford i'd go for Q7... anyway now trying to quench the thirst and the buying bug...
 
thinky, ok when fighting for the kids.. remember it is for the good of the kids and that means not necessary you must win custody to be good for the kids.

Like I tell my wife. If she wants the kids we can discuss. I let her tell me her plans and if it is best of the kids, we can compromise. But she kept quiet because she knows the best for the kids is for them to be with me. So we don't have to fight. On the other hand, I give her free access - almost daily.
 
Ha ha, wat to do. I have a man tat do not know wat he want and still can not think straight after 3mths. Even my ger feel tired of telling him tat she want us together.
 
ah siao, I got 1 bachelor uncle. Last time when he was younger ok la.. happy happy can take leave to go shopping, go for holidays, no wife to nag him, footloose fancy free. Now he's much older 60+ liao... no wife, no kids and have to look after my sick granny...I think it's quite sad lor. Just 2 of them old folks at home
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Siao eh..
can u tok about something better bor? simi so many battles? u think warzone ah?

Thinky,
ohh okok.. wahh... u actually skip lunch to read ah.. steady lah.. so now that urs just begun, u will find more strength talking to pple like simpleman..

SM,
so u got the custody of all ur 3 gals ah? it's nice of u that u allow dailu access for her to them
 
g gal..tis one i have to agree w u..old age alone is one thing i cant reconcile till date!!!..but getting married doesnt guarantee u will live w ur partner till old age, esp divorce rates are so high now..its like back to sq one n worst off...
 
skylar, actually we not divorce yet only separated. and we did not have to fight because i believe in discussing with her rather than fight. if fight in court ugly lah.

That is why in exchange for not fighting custody, I give her daily access. But if she has a plan for the children, we can discuss but so far she prefers to be in current mode.
 
cherry apple, long story leh. anyway it is not about being nice or not.

Even during her affairs and when I forgave her. She also don't believe and said I "acted" like a saint. Want to be good also kena suan..

Actually I won't want to comment whether good or not. It is immaterial.
 
I think when parents act resonably, the kids can still grow up well.I have a few cousins from divorced background. They are young adults now. They grew up never knowing one parent but they tell me that divorce is adult's issue. Father is always father. Mother is always mother.
 
siao leh.. u cockanaden lah u.. whahahaha..

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i get wat u mean le, actually if liddat is better lor but wat i meant is that u r taking of ur 3 princess alone ah?
 
Infact he suggest the take one each but i will never want to seperate the 2kid becoz the sibling bonding is very important when we divorce. They can support each other. If court rule that we have one each, i will give up and let him have both. But it will be very painful for me.

I do not let him have kids is becoz he want to have his bachelor life back (go clubbing and drinking, work till very late everyday...ect) and hence i think he will not give 100% to the kids and will just leave the kid to his parents. Plus he will also spend his time on tow.

Hence u are lucky in the sense tat atleast ur wife is wise enuf not to fight and hence in return u be nice to her on the acess.

Just too bad tha he do not realise tat and want to fight for the sake of fighting.
 
Hahhaa... skylar you always crack me up with your cockanaden...
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ah siao, true we may not live to old age with our partners but at least you got someone to plan the future w mah. Else is like work, grow old, die... so cham liddat. Aiyo.. you dun go and be another one of those influenced by the forum and think so pessimistically abt marriage la...:P
 
cactus, Mine is a little more traumatic cos my eldest gal is 14 years old when we got separated. She was dragged into this messy affair cos she was already quite big and not dumb not to see what is happening.

I guess she will be most affected although she won't say it. There is a certain coldness between her and her mom, a certain resentment that I can't really put a handle on it.
 
Siao eh...
*$&%*%($#@)$#*$@&*%($)@#&.. wat cb-naden.. basket sounds abit like u scolding our president leh.. ai si ah u!!

Ggal..
that siao ah.. really leh.. peh itchy ah, nv scold him cannot one! he sooo in luv with his $$ & car where got spare space for partner? haiz.. standard soo high somemore.. whahaahha..

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ohh i see, man, these 2 years must have been a tough road for u.. not easy I must say with 3 princess.
 
g gal...ya lor..is like only work..something i wonder y i save so hard for wat..(of cos save for the car lor)..if one day something happen, i also wont get to use it....

no lar..not influenced by this forum only...already had this thinking many yrs back..strangely enuff, all my close circle of frens all happily married for yrs..hmmm
 

thinky,

Who is having the matrimonial home? I think the courts will try not to upset the kids too much. Meaning they will be together and hopefully still in the matrimonial home.

It is best if you can discuss with your hb in a calm manner for the benefit of the kids. If he prefers clubbing he should leave both kids to you. On the other hand you have to be very flexible with the access.
 
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