mrsho: wah really? then thats good to hear! my sis originally took the normal ones, but end up sawing a "premium" gown n that costs extra $300! she was quite relunctant at first, but then we kinda convinced her that since it's once in a life time (and we can see she really liked tt gown) so she took it in the end!
i think Chinzilla's mum (or her relatives) meant the APs for the tables, like if u give your mum 10 tables, then the 10 tables of AP will go into her pocket.
Chinzilla: i think u talk to ur mum again and ask her what she wants first? then u tell her that both u n your hubs is footing the bill, so u cant give her that much.
as for dowry, i thought shld be your mum prepare de? that one is å«å¦† right?or your mum meant the Pin Jin? i believe PJ is a must (for traditon) but also can just give yi ge yisi yisi like that, no need a big sum. kekem maybe bring your mum out for a nice meal, then talk to her nicely over it? as for my mum, they ask for abt 8-10 tables, but the AP she will "keep" for show only, after tt will return to us, and PJ she will also take abit cos she knows we r paying for our own. but me n hubs intend to see how much we hv "left" after our wedding and then give my parents another AP after the wedding.
My mum's relatives also will "talk and ask alot" thats why my mum say need to ksiao abit~ =P
bem: my sis is also doing lunch wedding, she decided to skip the morning crash gate and go straight to the hotel for ROM. tea ceremony will also be done at the hotel.