(2006) Brides of year 2006

Jingles/Angel/Maez, thanks! Is it this way - both mum and in-law have to give angpao to jiemei's & Xiongdi's. When Jiemei's open door, hb give a big angpao to jiemei. Whether I want to buy presents or angpow to JieMei right?
Maez, when bride arrive back at niang jia, is boy open door? is it need younger than me?
 


Jingles/angel/maez, hm... angbows to jiemeis & xiongdis are given by mum & mum-in-law? that is new to me, b'coz my married friends are the one who gave the angbows, not their parents. also no more gifts to them as they are already given angbows to help out for that day.. and the angbow is min $80 pax
 
anyway, mine am going to make it simple. not going to hv jiemeis or xiongdi and no gate crash. as my parents are staying with my bro currently & their place has been rented out. i will "marry off" at our own place & tea ceremony will be at church. no "niang jia" to come home to also. everything wld finish early & next day, early morning, leave for HM.

tingting, u better book your HM in dec quickly. NATAS fair is just over, read the papers, alot of bookings. also dec is sch holidays!! if not, later all full!
 
diamond - yes i do know abt the return of the boxes. thanks for the gentle reminder.

318bi - to ans ur qn, there are a few APs to give.
1) gatecrash AP - for ur JM to bargain with ur hubby
2) open door AP (open door when hubby come to fetch u at ur hse and when u hui niang jia in the afternoon) - the assigned boy/teenager chinese zodiac cannot clash with both of u.
3) AP for caterers - usually shld be inlaws and ur mummy to give a small token for heng heng to the delivery pple. this depends on whether ur in laws and mummy wanna give or not. No restriction to this one.
4) AP for mei po - if u have 1 mei po to carry red umbrella for u then yes.
5) AP for jiemeis and xiongdis - this one is u and hubby to decide whether to buy a token gift of appreciation or to give an AP
6) AP for driver - if ur driver is not ur xiongdi, u get car & driver from bridal shop then u gotta give a small AP to him for being ur driver.
7) APs to those younger than u who are serving tea to both of u.

Think that is abt all. Hope this clears the air. Disclaimer: Practices & amts to give varies from family to family.

Ting - ooh.. ur inserts are printed offset printing of hotstamping? I did mine at Focal-Ad for S$220 gold hotstamping on transparent (vellum) paper inclusive of artwork & block.

Whitelink cakes - ya damn ex.. not getting will burn huge hole.. ha ha ha ha ha...
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u want cupcake links? I have a couple at hand with me. HA HA HA HA... i order those for my own consumption better than give relos then they dun like and complain. modren stuff dun go well with old folkies.. esp food..
 
angledust, APs are also needed for the priest, alter boys, lector, readers, etc, those who are getting married in church.

my mum also told me to prepare angbows for all the children who will be around at home for tea ceremony.

actually, some friends also told me to prepare a small AP for MUA, photographer, etc. they said, is for "heng heng" even though we do pay them fees for using them.

i did a preliminary computation, AP $$ is at least 1k...
 
Oh.. that mean beside the gatecrash AP that our HB going to give to our JM, there'll be another separate AP to give them for helping out huh?

Last time when I be JM to my friend.. we only have AP for gatecrash, and the parents & PIL give us a small token. Then at night, we return the AP to the couple for dinner lo..

Hm.. now on AP.. really had to do some calculation le..
 
Jo, yes, some JM & siongdi, give the couple back in their AP for them for dinner. BUT bear in mind, not all will do that

the parents & PIL give APs is for "heng heng" reason, just a small token. is not APs from the couple to thank them for all the help they rendered.

yes, need to give a separate AP for the JMs & siongdi.. for taking time off to help... waking up early, running around helping, is no joke.
 
hi diamond - oh me not having church so i dunno. thanks for highlighting for the benefit of those having a church wedding then.

Guess its up to indiv if they wanna return the gatecrahs AP back to the couple. usually the JM themselves wld have prepared one to help couple cover the dinner costs. So its a nice gesture to return. but not a compulsory action.
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Think i repeat again - u can give gifts of token appreciation not necessarily an AP to all JM & XD.
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its entirely up to the indiv.

Jo - no list cos haven think abt the AP who to give yet. will do so after sending cards out. HEE HEE....
 
hi blur..

we will countdown together ok.. anyway... the rest like nami.. csi... ffbear.. and myself will be in spore until at least end of nov before we disappear.. hehe..
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.. we will countdown together to ur wedd which is one wk before mine.. ;p ..
 
what is the 'market rate' for JM and XD's AP, min $80? XD's more than JM's rite? since JM have gate crashing AP.

I only got gate crashing AP and token from their parents when i was JM.
 
318bi/diamond - erm...if not wrong the ang pow $$ is from bride but if bride is too busy to give out, mum's bride will be giving out for her behalf.

Matsu - i think amount to be given to JM and XD is ok lar...think $50 above ok...anyway they are also not looking for the $$ think over all everyone is helping out to share the joy with u too....
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<font color="0077aa">jo, my mum wants to get the teochew stuff from this confectionary shop opp bt timah shopping centre.. beside the silver cross clinic.. you need abt 3 weeks for them to prepare your orders.. =)

angel, 8 boxes are fine.. i tot you gotta give cake cards mah.. so those will cost a bomb..

for ang pows, my parents and IL will give to the helpers.. bf and i getting them gifts as thank you presents.. then bf must give the one for the gatecrashing..

diamond, angel not marrying in church so she need not include those you mentioned in her list.. =) by the way, those ppl you name for helping out in church is pretty specific to catholics only. in my case, we only need to give for the pastor.. the rest comes from my bridal entourage.. =)

jo, think its helpful to you make a list of your helpers.. so that you know who you want to bless with the ang pows.. whether parents are giving ang pows or not, think you can leave it to their discretion.. =)</font>
 
hi all,

WOW! as usual, angel v comprehensive, me try to add on w wat i know..

well, i've attended a few weddings as JM, its the moms n MILs who gave me AP..

so IMO, apart fr wat i mentioned above, after angel reminded me.. yes, if we have younger SIBLINGS who serve tea to us, we need to give AP too..

the rest, will not be in my fan4 wei2..

juz as reference.. the AP i received fr moms n MILs.. abt $20? not a lot one.., can be $18. for heng heng.. of cos up to individual.. juz fyi..

then.. for the gatecrash AP, need to do a rough calculation based on the no of JM u have, so tt when they split the $, its abt the right sum..

open car door -- yeah usually is young boy.. but i chose my older cousin cos closer to him then the younger ones..

so i repeat

for me n hb,
1. gatecrash AP for JM
2. open door AP for boy..
3. AP for younger siblings who serve us tea

for moms, MIL
1. JM n XD
2. driver

disclaimer: this is MY own arrangement(based on what i've seen n heard).. up to u all to decide..

actually.. all these are juz tokens of appreciations so..

OH! i have a list from magazine! i juz rem.. shall go look for it n post it up soon
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Angel~This is another list to settle man!My mum said everyone involve also need to give angpao, for 'heng heng'. Just headache for the JieMei ang pao. You are right,up to indiv if they wanna return the gatecrahs AP back to the couple. Even had 1 time, 2 of JieMeis decide to give back the gatecrash AP to couple, another 2 JieMei refuse to do that too!They said JieMei should the take for 'good luck'.

Matsu~for JieMei angpao min $80? I never take so higher wan
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I even received $8 from bride and another 2 AP for both side mum. For me to be a jiemei I don't really care how much the AP lar, just want to shre the joy and fun , go through the whole ceremony with them. But my hb remind me that not everyone will thinking like this.

Diamond~wow, around 1k a? quite a lot
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Well.. the lst time i be JM, i got as high as $90 per JM, but subsequently, gatecrash+those parents's AP.. abt $40-$50 lo..

Ya, actually AP is mainly for "good luck", by right,to be someone JM, the amt shouldn't be a important factor/reason for it lo..

My HB keep telling me no need to give so much for JM for gatecrashing, but he intend to give more to his XD!! I guess for JM, it's up to me, whether AP or gift as a token for helping ba..

And quite true, not all JM will give AP for dinner one lo..

I also estimated at least $1k lei..
 
yaya.. we all count down together.. my hb starting workin gon the montage already.. he was staying up late at night trying to rush it .. hopefully I did not miss out anything.. plus my mum dress.. don't know where to get hers..
 
ya.. $1k not enough.. sure exceed one..

another question.. do you give AP for your hotel co-ordinator? and those waiter/waiteress?

And if those helping at reception is different from the Day jiemei.. also got AP ar?

The tea ceremony is only sibling ar? Niece &amp; nephew need to serve tea to us?
 
Jo~we decided to give hotel-co-ordinator(just a token) but not for waiter/waiteress. For me yes, we also have AP for receptions but different for Day JieMei.
 
hihi,

panda - the cards are for imemdiate relos only and some zhang bei like shu gongs. shld be ok amt within comfortable range. not gonna GIVE THE WHOLE WORLD LAH.. HAHA HA HA HA HA

maez - yeps moms &amp; MILs will give for heng heng!! everyone likes to receive cash mah!! who dun like AP!!! HA HA HA HA HA to think we gotta start being auntie and give AP soon...cos we are MRS XX liao lor.. ha ha ha ha ha ha joking joking...

318bi - i agree with u. i am not hankering for the gatcrash AP. i only want to help my friend whoever that is that gave me the honourable post of a jiemei.

jo - if reception is different from day JM. yes i have to give AP. Hotel coodinator - depends on u. think i will give 1 each small token waiter and waitress NO NEED LAH.. fianted.. ha ha ha ha ha maybe u give to coordiantor and ask them spilt. i dunno abt that.. shall check out the practice then update here. If niece and nephews around and ur ILs/mummy insist they serve tea to u. then yes u gotta give them a AP.

Tip: Prepare a few extra/spare APs of small amts say $8-$12 bucks per AP for AD. Make sure it is different AP packet design so dun mix up. This is for incase some "extra people" turn up on ur AD then like paiseh not to give. something like dat.
 
Jux now, went for co. health screen....
*sigh....
Wt never drop...
so sad...
After the increment from post wedding meals, tats it...
Fixed at that wt
 
Hi Xiaobai1,

Do not recommend you to go salon for facial now if you have never gone for facial before. the beautician may squeeze the pimples n blackhead n those not very good ones may leave your face with red marks that will take a few days to go away. n if your face not be used to their products. so better dun try now.

suggest u do a face scrub n mask at home.
 
hi, debbie,
thanks for the pics.. very nice.. u r a SWC bride, is it? the backgrd, lightings, gowns..
Nami &amp; myself r both SWC brides..
 
Hi, Jen T,
yup.. better remember my AD.. cos we r all gg to countdown together, with blur &amp; the rest.. &amp; to give each other morale support, yah..
shall b in Italy for abt 5 / 6 days.. based on the itinerary, got some free time, can meet up for dinner together.. kekekeke..
Hi, CSI Fan,
I shall b back on 10 Dec, evening. but 11 Dec, my bday leh, so out celebrating.. kekekkeke... might not b able to pop in here.. I try my best, k? btw, urs is F&amp;E or pkg?
 
hi ffbear..
yup yup.. will definately rem' mann!! .. hehe..
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hee.. we shall see whether we will be able to "bump" into each other in italy when u get ur confirmed itinerary.. ;p
 
Hi, Jen T,
sure.. no prob.. ll let u know whn I lay hands on the confirmed itinerary..
Hi, ladies,
whr did u gals get ur wrists corsages for ur jiemeis? how much huh?
 
hi linda, how come urs so cheap. how many to get in order to obtain e amt ?

Hi ffbear, did u got e wrong email from me. i hve yet to send my photos to u. btw, my wedding photo taken in Seletar board. Where is SWC ??? btw, will send to you n nami this wkend. taken not very nice cos me not slim. abit fat.

oh juz send out sms to my frens n got a few reply wif add. so happy to hear from them replying me. hope to rec'd more cos my dateline to them is on 08 oct, sunday.
 
Erm...i'm going for facial on friday and my AD is tis sunday leh. Actually it's ok to go, but must let the beautician know tat ur big day is a few days away and they'll take good care of ur face n wun squeeze the pimples.
 
Hihihi,

It has been a long time... Can see that all the brides are getting ready for your big DAY!!! As for me, I am super last min kind. Just got my album on Tue, and has issues with it. Some pages not acceptable and they told me they will change it, but after the AD...

Hi Diana, relax now hoh... Congrats!!!

All Oct brides/grooms

Jiayou!!!
 
hi all,

yep! agrees tt actually, if we were JM, well, I'd be juz happy to share in my fren's joy, nt as if im there for the AP haha..

angel, yeah man.. wooh.. next new year its AP time.. giving out.. eew hahaha..

anw.. yesterday i suddenly thot of sth tt i CLEAN FORGOT n left out of my to do! *OOPS* suddenly rem tt need to go source for wines! :P silly me..
 
Hi Steve

How can like that? Then actual day you display what at the restaurant to show your relativs?
My bridal shop I amend 3 times then ok, but still got 1 picture my hubby eye 1 big 1 small. I wish to amend that picture but hubby lazy to go to the bridal shop for the 4th time so we close one eye.

But we were super angry yesterday night, we went to collect the gowns and suit. Everything was ok, but they can't give my hubby's white suit. And didn't inform us earlier.They only told us when we reached the shop and want to take the suit. Then they told us the dry cleaning shop didn't wash clean, still got one small mark. So the bridal shop asked them to dry clean again and we can collect the white suit together on the same day when my hubby goes down to collect the hand bouquet which is 6th october 2006.

My hubby was angry why they didn't inform us earlier. We went to find Prof Tan to ask him. He said he don't want to give customers lousy goods, got one small mark. He ask the dry cleaning shop to dry clean want to give customers prefect things. And dry cleaning shop informed them at last min, so they don't have time to call us to inform us that we can't get the white suit yesterday. I think all is crap. Maybe they borrow my hubby's suit to another couple. Then now they said got a small mark still at the dry cleaning shop.

Another issue is my makeup artist she is still unsure whether she can go to the hotel to do makeup for me or not in the evening.

Few weeks ago, I called her she told me to call her 1 week in advance of my wedding so that she can tell me whether she can come to the hotel or not on 7th october 2006.

Last Sunday, we called her and she told us she is still unsure whether she can come or not on that day. She asked us to call her on actual day afternoon to check whether she can come to the hotel or not.

I told my hubby this was her answer. My hubby was furious, called her back to scold her. She still give the same answer most probably can come to my hotel in the evening, if cannot we have to rush down to her studio for her to makeup.

Where got such thing? wedding day I still must call makeup artist to ask her - hey, I wonder can you come down to the hotel in the evening? I be very busy on that day. Scared I forget to call her on that day.

So yesterday prof Tan called her to come to talk to us, he scolded her and said he already told them they can only stay in studio, cannot go out why she said she can go out.

She told him she didn't force us to book her and she also didn't say she can go down to the hotel on the actual day. I want to confront her whether she told me to call her about 1 week before my wedding to ask her whether she can come down to my hotel on the actual day. She walked off suddenly ignoring us.

So the Prof Tan said Candy can't go out to hotel, she is our in-house artist. Most probably, you have to come down for her to makeup. If this is the case, why the makeup artist keep promising us that she should be able to come down to our hotel.

Unless she is coming to our hotel secretly, so she don't wish to know. Cause I quarreled with the boss, since your staff don't know she can come or not. Got any make-up artist, he also said he not sure. So I fed up so I said I will find my own makeup artist. If I find my own makeup artist how? He told us that will be better good for you and good for me. He will returned to us $200 dollars if we get outside makeup artist.

When we went out of the shop, cause shop was closing already. The makeup artist told my hubby why you all speak to my boss? Already told you all I should be able to go down to the hotel for the makeup. Now I get scolding from him, next time I may not be able to draw actual day makeup for brides. Means she earn less money. Is it our fault that we complain to the boss? Since the bridal shop keep throwing a big question mark to us? We don't have a definite answer that is what we are worried.

I told my mum about the whole scenerio, she said I am fussy like my mil. The makeup artist already said most probably she can come. If she cannnot come, we go down to her for our makeup. Why we must complain to the Prof Tan? But my hubby is worried that I am the last to makeup, that may not be enough time for us to do the march in rehearsal. Cause total 3 persons make up on that day, my mum, my mil and myself. And I am the last to makeup. Cause she said if she makeup for me too early, the makeup will run off very fast. Don't know true or not?


Do you all think it is our fault? We should not quarrel with the makeup artist?


Do anyone has any makeup artist contacts to pass to me so that I can call later and ask them about the pricing and whether they can be my makeup artist on the 7th october 2006? I need help urgently. Anyone can help me?


Regards
Michelle
 
Sorry for the long post. We both were very angry last night. Scolding non stop and showed black faces to them.

When the prof Tan wanted to shake hand with me in the end. I didn't give him my hand. A while then shake hand with him. He told me don't be angry with small things lah.

I wonder is this really a small case? Do we over reacted last night?

Even my mum said that I am fussy. And said why I want to change makeup artist at the last min? Wait other makeup artist draw not nice how? She keeps telling me makeup artist got a lot, but makeup skills good or not good is another thing.

Now I am so confused
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Are we wrong? we should not speak to the boss about this makeup artist matter at all? We should keep quiet is it? Now so confused and worried.

Take Care

Regards
Michelle
 
gd mrg all..

maez - u sure are up early!!! do share gd wine lobangs k? then i can KIV and give to our alcohol i/c - hubby friend. hee hee no worries.. still have some time...
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morning to all...
Angel/Maez, ya, after wedding AP, chinese new year another AP bomb....I was thinking sourcing red wine at carrfour
 
Gd mrg all,

Just to share my wine supplier contacts,

Star Cellar
63342320
Stamford House)

Parker's Wine
65353987
(44 North Canal Rd)

Crystal Wines
67373540
(412 River Valley Rd #01-02)

Eshcol Wine
62568688 Hp 90272928
(Blk 1004 Toa Payoh Industrial Park Lor 8
#06-1485 S 319076)
[email protected]

Maez/Angel/318bi,
Maybe we should arrange a time and go together. Maybe can get more discounts or freebies. Anyone interested? Can PM me.
 
hi ffbear, Jen,

Yah...heehee...nvm lah. It's ok...
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Mine is pkg tour. You gals? F&amp;E? I wanted to do F&amp;E, but FH was worried abt security/safety, esp since we can't speak Italian, so he preferred to do pkg.

Wah, Linda&amp;Lawrence,

So many corsages ah...hehs...you must have a big group of jie meis...
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318bi - ha ha ha ha.. that is one price of "GROWING UP" after our "growing pains"...

sam - thanks for the contacts.. will KIV. I plan to source in Nov period. now finish settle cards and issue cards first.
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wow, thanks Sam! ooh, i got Parker's contact too.. think its abt $12-16 per btl only for wedding wines..

the only other one that i can rem (that's not in Sam's list) is Wine Bos.. but forgot the pricing..

so 318, carrefour may not be cheaper than that.. somemore u'll have to carry urself.
Parker's will also do on consignment n take back the unopened bottles.

juz to share w u all, if u are charged corkage per btl, u may consider getting Magnum bottles, these are bigger bottles so u open less bottles. fyi, thats what i heard from Parker's a a roadshow
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angel, im up early cos of my JOB.. haha..

Sam, i'll only go next month.. so if u gals are going earlier, can keep me updated
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thanks!
 


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