Hi Tansan And other brides in this thread
thanks for ur encouragement, but my mum always like to compare me with other people daughter. I also don't know why.
My mum always want me to give her my take home pay whenever I work part time or full time job. But for my younger brother nothing, he don't need to contribute a single cent at all.
My brother last time used to work during his school vacations and at times when he was waiting for his poly results and his savings are much more than me, cause last time he always get bursary from goverment and never spend a single cent.
So think u can imagine elder sister saving is lesser than brother, elder sister up till now can't find a stable job.
End up, mother only scold her and only want money from her. I really don't know why my treatment me and my brother is so great difference lor.
Even the mother day gift, my mum also never ask from my brother, why she only asked from me?
currently, my brother is serving ns now. Every month, also get $300 dollar from gowerment. Sure can buy mother day gift. My brother never buy mother day gift, no scolding.
I never buy end up get big big scolding. sigh.... Hope after I move out in october 2006, everything will be better. Counting down 4 more months to go.
Hee Hee....
As for my friend, I can now only wait to see whether she sms or call me again. But I think the chance is slim. Cause my ite friend said she is too insecure and also everything she does is copying my actions and is making me really fed up.
I told her I have a boyfriend , and she also got a boyfriend after I am going steady with my hubby for 1 month plus.
I told her I am getting married, and she keeps asking why I so young want to married? Her friends never marry so young, why I want to marry so young? I told her I felt that it is time to settle down and I already known my hubby for 2 years and we have rom for 2 years so total is 4 years and it is enough for both of us. We both know that we are the right one for each other. And She keep quiet.
After 2 months suddenly, she told me she also going to rom too. That is this coming june 2006.
And she started to complain and compare every single thing, like how much my hubby spend on reno, bridal photos,household appliances... etc. Everything she also has comment why my hubby want to spend so much. And she keep telling me her hubby is not spending so much on her. As her hubby do not have any savings in terms of cash. So her hubby only can give her a 4 room flat, indoor and outdoor photgraphy, rom luncheon and honeymoon packages. And they are not having any actual day wedding banquet as my friend parents are not around anymore (they have passed away). So no one is asking on her behalf on the dowry,wedding cakes, wedding banquet all these items. She either keep quiet or get her elder sister to get these items from the hubby's family. Now don't know why everything i said about my wedding, she all shoot back at me. Like my wedding photos are not nice, her friend photos are nicer. Why my hubby waste money to top up photos for me? She said she won't top up photos when she take photoshot next time. All these stupid nonsense.
I really don't know what to do with her. I think there is something wrong in her head. Maybe she is under too much stress, since she also can't cope with her job. keep changing her job from last year till this year. Every office job she can't do, and work for 2 months then change job again.The cycle keeps repeating.
And maybe like my ite friend said she really is too insecure, she sees my hubby is so good to me. She feel jealous so she keeps asking me why my hubby is so good to me, why help me to top up photos all these qus etc. As for her case, every little thing she has to buy on her own.
Even when she go out with her hubby, they pay for their own share. Her hubby only help her to pay her monthly hp bill, since he brought for her the hp last time.
And even the hdb $2k deposit is paid by my friend when she is jobless last year, after 1 month then hdb returned her the $2k. Her hubby said he had no money and end up my friend had to fork out the $2k
I just don't understand, since the guy said he has no cash at all only cpf savings. Why still want to marry him now? They should marry later meh. Both should save money now. And even if she wants to marry him, she should not said bad words about her hubby behind her hubby back meh? I really feel sad for her hubby lor. Her hubby don't know about all these things she said about him. Sigh....
Hope my friend will analyse and understands her own situation and stop following other people actions and stop comparing with other people, it will make her more miserable as each day passed by.
May she find her own happiness soon....
Take Care Ladies
P/S: Sorry for telling u all so much things about my family and friends, cause I have no one to share my feeling except my hubby. My mum and brother don't like to hear my problems. As for my dad, he will listen to my problems, and offer solutions. However, when my mum heard that I am talking about my problems with my dad again. She will get angry with my dad and me. And will asked both of us to shut up, she said she don't wish to hear about my problems anymore.
So my happiness and sadness, I can only share with u all and my hubby. So hope u all don't find me too long winded. Hee Hee
I feel much better now. Going to have my breakfast now. Take Care Ladies
Regards
Xiaobai1