(2006) Brides of year 2006


dubdub...if u really exceed ur reno budget by so much...then i really think that u should consider cutting ur wedding budget. 100k is way too much liao...i think put more $$ into ur hse better than put so much in wedding...banquet i something which ppl ust attend and forget the very next moment...but hse is something which u and ur hubby will live for dunno how many years...so i think it's more worth it to put in more $$ on the hse lor.
 
bugbear, i know but my mum dun wan to cut the budget, she wan it to be stick to $100k, i wan a simple wedding but she keep saying i her only child, how come be so shui bian. she said no matter wat this amt cant be cut and she very firm on all these. dun know quarrel how many times, last nite just quarrel with hubby
 
dubdub...is ur mom going to help u cover the 15k? they way she puts it...she like going to help u like that leh...if she is...then no headache for u lah...

moreoever, u & hubby so good in currencies and invvestments...i am sure within the next year or 2..u sure can earn that amount...
 
rach, how to put a firm stand? i already told her wat i wan for my wedding and she will kepp nagging , must include this and that. at that time her wedding, already mtm all the gown, how can i save on all these. and i her only child, she wan to invite all the relatives and friends, so cant anyhow do, must be grand or else no face
 
bugbear, my mum is not going to cover the 15k as she dun have any saving, she spend as much as she earn. she said she will order everything she think we need and we will paid for it. now the goods already order and we have to pay by cash.
 
wah dub..
tink u muz have a heart to heart tok with ur mum..
or else both of u going to suffer in debts..

hmm is it really tat important for face?
unless u can really afford it.. then go ahead for a grand wedding.. if not shld be happy with wat you have rite?? if too forceful will only make u unhappy..
 
dubdub...is ur mom going to cover that 15k for u? she sounds like she is prepared leh..

let her know that ur budget had been stretched lor...

then again, banquet is something that ppl forget the next moment, but ur hse is a place where u and ur hubby will live in a very long time...so i think more worth it to put $$ in the hse than the wedding lor...wedding 1 day and it's gone...
 
rach, we already tok to her several times, but always end up i quarrel with her as she keep saying that i older liao, now got wing know how to fly, dun even wan to listen to her. she said that time even my dad also can afford, and further more me and hubby got saving so definitely can have a grand wedding. and further more girl's side no need to pay for anything, everything will fork out by the guy. my mum said if the guy truly love u, no matter how tough, he will try to find money to marry u one.
 
dubdub...i seriously DO NOT agree with ur mom lor...no offence meant, but this is the 21st century liao...where got say the guy fork out everything and that the gal side can jut do whatever they like? Then i think u have to go find a golden tortoise liao lor...

Moreoever, if ur mom say that if the guy truly loves u, he will find means t fork out that money...ask ur mom back...what if he go loan from the bank and later on cannot repay back?? Who is going to suffer? U and ur hubby leh. i think it's very wrong of ur mom to say that lor...if ur hubby really go to the bank and loan that amount...then u will be in debts...which i strongly against lor...live within ur means...u have spare, do it grand, no spare, do a less grand...which i am sure ur less grand will still be a very grand wedding as compared mine...
 
bugbear, i told my mum too, banquet no need to be very exp one, pple will forget later. she said pple will forget is their business, as long as is grand on that nite and not everyone can afford such grand wedding. and further more me and hubby have saving, sure can one. she said wedding is decided by gal's side, guy side only fork out money, y should i worry so much
 
erm dubdub, i am the eldest daughter in my family and first to get married. My fiance oso wans a grand wedding cos his cousins all had grand wedding. But seriously i dun think shld spend more than what u can afford.
 
looks like the 100k budget is imposed on u .... well u can 'inflate' ur spending mah. for e.g. ur gown cost 5k then u say 10k lor. then very fast reach 100k liaoz , then u tell her out of budget if she wants this want that.....
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my mum had been living very comfortably all her life, she wan that thing no matter wat also wan my dad to buy for her. and she never worry at all, beco she said no matter wat, my dad will tried his best to give it to her sooner or later. so she expected everything to be in her way, and if anyone go against her, then u got to get it from her liao
 
haiz.... cannot treat hubby as ATM mah. dubdub u lucky ur hubby can accomodate ur mom requests.. if he is someone who jus started working like some of our FH, then no need get married liaoz.
 
yami, u think so easy meh, she will follow me to choose gown and so on one. my rom planning not to spend that much, but in the end she add this and that, then become to $7k liao. we know we can afford so she keep adding lor. we both wan to save up more, although we can afford but we dun wan so grand
 
all along i tot u r the one who wanted the 100k wedding.

funny that the wedding is measured entirely by cost. the usual concept that expensive = good.
 
dubdub...then u get ur hubby to call the bs to get them to up the BS price like what yami suggest lor...very fast will reach 100k...heheh

Ah yo...ur mom never think for u meh...if later land in debts just for the wedding...then u are the one going to suffer...or ask ur mom to sponsor u lor...then she can have her way...
 
erm, i dun think holding weddings in ex hotels like fullerton/ritz/shang means good. considering their so-so food and service, i dun think it is worth the money.
 
gd evening girls.

dubdub,
guess having a 100K wedding is oso not easy! It was like set by ur mum instead of the couple. Seems like ur mum is njoying the wedding more than u do. Poor thing...

Lucky my mum let me plan all my wedding ourself. She even dun mind a buffet, but to the min, buffet must be held in a hotel lah..

Anyway is 30K enuff for a wedding which AD held at a hotel huh? That's only my budget leh
 
she dun even have saving, how to sponsor me. all along she spend wat she earn and my dad will give her some to spend too. then she get used liao this habit. lucky hubby earn quite a lot or else i also dunno how.
 
ks bride, u r lucky. my mum said have buffet for the guests seem like not grand enuff and not generous. how can her only daughter's wedding only have buffet only. must have 5 star hotel and book the whole ballroom. even cant recoup back is okie, as long as everyone know her daughter and my hubby have the ability to hold such grand wedding. she wan to let her friends and relatives know how good is my hubby, can have such grand wedding for me.
 
ksbride, depends on how many tables u want and which hotel i guess
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should be ok for 35 tables at merchant court hotel or ard teh same range one.
 
little ger,my mum dun look for good service or food, she wan my wedding to be in a exp hotel, and ambiene and nice decor can liao
 
grand or not is only a one day event. Most impt is how ur hubby treat you for the rest of ur life mah..cannot gage a person thru a grand wedding dinner.

Anyway, dub, u really got a gd hubby lor. Willing to accomodate what ur mum requested. If other guys, mayb run away till netherland liao!!
 
the rest of us must be glad that we do not have such parental stress.....
dubdub, talk to ur mum.... if u insist there is realli nothin she can do.

but the ultimate qns is whether u want it or not? if u also want a 100k wedding then jus go ahead, u can please her at the same time. if u dun want, then dun force ur hubby n yourself. it's ur wedding. i mean all along u said u wanted 2 wedding albums, many MTM gowns , overseas photography at Milan etc.... one would had tot that you wanted the 100k wedding as well.
 
we already talk to her for several times, and i under a lot of stress, last nite almost commit suicide, lucky hubby hold on to me. or else today i wont be here. my mum already told me wat she wan in the wedding and bought a lot of bridal mag, and told me this and that she wan me to include in my wedding, like 2 wedding album, MTM gowns and overseas photogrpahy in milan and so on. i told my hubby i really very stress, with work and study and now she wan this and that and over my budget. now i have to move some cash over to pay the good that we bought. i really dun know i can endure till when.
I dun wan such wedding, but my hubby said now i dun have a choice, must do according to wat my mum requested or else he will be in a very difficult position.
 
little ger, i also know i dun need 2 sets, but seem my mum wan it that way and i dun wan to put my hubby in a difficult position i think better stick to it lor.
 
dubdub, erm okay. but do u think ur guests will even notice that u are wearing different gowns?? then why dun u sign up with BS that provides different gowns for PS?
 
little ger, my mum dun wan to sign up with BS that provides different gowns, she wan me to have 2 sets of WG and EG, she said anyway once in lifetime and hubby is paying, y should bother to help him save up
 
hi dub..
wah saw all the msgs in front..
can't believe ur mom wanted sooooo much for u!
but it seems that she is wanting all these juz for her face and not for u.. sorrie no offence..but i tink she's too much.. it's your wedding and u shld be the one having the last say.. not your mum..

tink u shld start tinking for urself and not let ur mum lead u.....
even if u hubby is kind enuff for all these.. but i still personally feel that u can actually save these money for other uses..
 
most importantly, wedding is supposed to be a happy event.... dun let negative tots get to u. dun even think of doing anything silly again dubdub.

there are realli all kind of pple in thie world.... cant imagine ur mum treating ur hubby as ATM. have money doesnt mean must spend all. anyway what little ger sggest sounds good, jus cut ur wedding budget. 85K more than enuff...
 
dubdub
It's really too much to have spend 100K just on a one day wedding. The next day, after you wake up from your wedding night, you'll realise that you actually spend 100K just to make your mum feel proud of your wedding. Maybe you can cut down the expenses but sponsor her to a few days holiday trip. Come to think of it, 50K is more than enough to plan a wedding. You can fully make use of the other 50K somewhere else.

little ger
I agree lei, 1st Jan is quite an expensive date to get marry. What to do, no other better dates for us. If we choose those normal sunday, guess a lot will not turn up for our wedding banquet or some may have even left halfway thru the dinner. Guess we are too old to party on the eve of new year till the next day morning. And we have not release the date to our relatives and friends until we get a flat first.

Ching
Which part of jurong west is your love nest at? I am currently staying at one of the jurong west new flat, who knows maybe we have met each other already.
 
bluegal..
tink u muz quickly get down to booking ur date once the hotels open up the bookings for 2006..
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coz urs will definitely b a hot date!

i'm also planning to hold mine on a Sunday!
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