Hihi
Sue > Your dinner will be in Sheraton?? =)
I just recd the quote, have not visited the place yet.
Dajie > I love Regent too but too bad price not within the budget. Looking at nothing more than $900 per table after all the taxes. Cant afford to do more cos PILs footing the bill and I am already starting to feel abit pressurised.
I dont know who my MIL talked to but both hb and I were pissed by her last night. About 2 months ago, hb casually asked my mum how many tables she wants. Mum didnt do a proper count but said nothing more than 15, any extra can give me for friends. Then as we started hotel shopping, mum and dad revised and said they prob need only 12 tables. Mum told me she doesnt require anything else like dowry or gifts.
Both times, hb conveyed the figures (15 and 12) to his parents and they were ok. I even told them I would park my friends and colleagues under their side so that the money collected can go into off-setting the bills while my family keeps the returns of 12 tables.
Last Sat they held a BBQ to celebrate hb's 30th bday. As usual, such family gatherings alot of 3 GU 6 PO. And suddenly, my mil told me yesterday, while we were dining out that ACCORDING TO CHINESE CUSTOMS, they will only give 8 tables to my parents. If my parents want 12, they have to fork out money for the 4 tables. And she started blabbering some nonsence about if they give 12, it wont look nice on my parents (for not paying for any table)! WTF! I have a friend whose mother requested for 25 tables!
I was fuming and on the verge of crying at the eatery. Totally caught by surprise. I felt like telling her that we have never requested for anything out of the world and that at the end of the day, it is my hb and his family who will lose face if they are so calculative. I then told her in the face that I would tell my parents accordingly.
My parents giving us all their progress package money and said we can keep for reno/furnishing since it's extra bonus from govt. My mum even told hb herself that the angbao she collecting from dinner, she will give us some to buy appliances/furniture as well and told us not to rush into furnishing whole house this year. AND MY MIL STILL BEHAVE LIKE A KIAM KA-NA?!
Perhaps she sensed my mood-change and started telling me the gifts they would give me...what cakes and suckling pig blah blah..I just told her plainly that my parents wont need such things, she can "save" the money. She then panicked and said " No lah, cannot...you are the eldest daughter, wait people may laugh at my son for not giving these stuff". I just brushed her off by saying..."Anything lor, then you better tell Rod (my hb) what you need, I get my parents to prepare and return to you accordindly. My parents very modern/open-minded one, they wont know exactly what to do."
Hb cld sense my tone and quickly jumped in to tell his mum that 12 tables are necc for my very big extended family. Somemore my parents always tell him dont need anything else, so he would want to cfm giving them min. 12 tables.
ANGRY. I shd have heeded my mum's suggestion to just have a honeymoon wedding. I warned my hb to communicate with his mum properly and not to always change her mind and then give my parents any rude shock when they meet up, else I wont give face also. He said he will tell his mum not to speak to those nosy aunties...and then he started complaining wedding prep really very stressed....WHATEVER! His stress is nothing compared to mine - fencing off the always bossy SIL...and now my usually-very-nice MIL also turning nasty!
