Hello, would like to listen some of you ladies' experience and advice.
Do you look forward and are excited when marrying the guy of your life?
I have been with a guy (my first) for 3 years, and am always the girl who look forward to getting married, settle down and stuffs. Have tried to bring up the topic of marriage with the guy a couple of times over these years, but his reply seem to be that he would laugh at it or brush the topic away. Conclusion is, everytime I bring up this topic, it has never been addressed (i.e. we never get to talk about it). And honestly I feel very sad. I voiced out my sadness to him too, so he know about it.
I actually feel quite stressed and saddened over this. We are both approaching 30. Each time I really have to muster alot of courage to even bring this topic up... because I am so afraid that it would ended up with both of us not happy, which usually is the case. But it matters alot to me, that I can't don't bring it up.
I look at social media, and see pictures of ladies feeling excited and looking forward to marrying the guy of their life.
Don't get me wrong - I still do look forward and enjoy being with the guy. But I have to admit, that my excitement of marriage has decreased over the years, due to the "rejection" (or is it neglection ?) of the topic I had faced. How I feel to the topic, is like a kid who always dream and really want to have the chocolate ice-cream. But keep on can't get it... until the point where the kid kinda give up and no longer that interested in the chocolate ice-cream.
I really don't know if the issue is the person or the expectation and dream that I have imagined... or is me.
I mean if put this topic aside, I do enjoy being with the guy around, I feel safe and comfortable being with him.
It is just that I have these set of expectations that grow up with me, that I want to be with xxx kind of guy, I want to get marry by xxx, have kids by xxx, etc.
I don't know how to let go of these expectations and deal with reality.
Appreciate the time reading this and hearing me out.
Do you look forward and are excited when marrying the guy of your life?
I have been with a guy (my first) for 3 years, and am always the girl who look forward to getting married, settle down and stuffs. Have tried to bring up the topic of marriage with the guy a couple of times over these years, but his reply seem to be that he would laugh at it or brush the topic away. Conclusion is, everytime I bring up this topic, it has never been addressed (i.e. we never get to talk about it). And honestly I feel very sad. I voiced out my sadness to him too, so he know about it.
I actually feel quite stressed and saddened over this. We are both approaching 30. Each time I really have to muster alot of courage to even bring this topic up... because I am so afraid that it would ended up with both of us not happy, which usually is the case. But it matters alot to me, that I can't don't bring it up.
I look at social media, and see pictures of ladies feeling excited and looking forward to marrying the guy of their life.
Don't get me wrong - I still do look forward and enjoy being with the guy. But I have to admit, that my excitement of marriage has decreased over the years, due to the "rejection" (or is it neglection ?) of the topic I had faced. How I feel to the topic, is like a kid who always dream and really want to have the chocolate ice-cream. But keep on can't get it... until the point where the kid kinda give up and no longer that interested in the chocolate ice-cream.
I really don't know if the issue is the person or the expectation and dream that I have imagined... or is me.
I mean if put this topic aside, I do enjoy being with the guy around, I feel safe and comfortable being with him.
It is just that I have these set of expectations that grow up with me, that I want to be with xxx kind of guy, I want to get marry by xxx, have kids by xxx, etc.
I don't know how to let go of these expectations and deal with reality.
Appreciate the time reading this and hearing me out.