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Please seriously reconsider this relationship.

The fact that he is still logging in to such dating apps shows that he is not committed to this relationship and he is trying to find other targets. This is an act of unfaithfulness.
 
Yes evaluating this relationship. Is a whether i can live with it forever, he can be doing this behind my back for years even togther.. the trust is broken big time..

Uptill now i have not confront him but i dont know how to love him anymore..guess if confront sure he defensive
 

littlepinkpointes

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Yes evaluating this relationship. Is a whether i can live with it forever, he can be doing this behind my back for years even togther.. the trust is broken big time..

Uptill now i have not confront him but i dont know how to love him anymore..guess if confront sure he defensive

First u said trust is broken, then u are doubtful of this relationship, then u said u don't know how to love him anymore....
I think u already know the answer and deep down u have made a decision. U just don't want to leave this guy (note: not relationship).

U already know trust is broken. U want to live your life like that in continual suspicious and paranoia? If u have to constantly wonder and worry and take measures to 'investigate' to find out... then what's the point of committing yourself in this relationship with this man.

Do yourself a favour and allow yourself to be happy. Don't assume.... if u are going to keep pondering how he'd react if u ask him about it, does that mean u are forever going to live in fear of his emotional abuse and erratic temper? If he hasn't done anything, I don't see why he should even be defensive.

Good luck honey! :)
 
Well then i will ask about him have he done anything behind my back? N mention saw his profile on app and what outcome he want from gog to app as app only 2 outcome looking for fling or a partner
 
Anyway i set the rules and lau out front on the boundaries on betrayal etc n he agree.. have not confront on the app but i think his relationship goal is so different from most people

For him, he goes into a rs to get to know a person better and see if thhings work out eg same wavelength, style so that with same style etc then both can work on and solve any issues then the rs can move to a comfortable stable level. He mentioned our wavelength is different due to things he say i get angry or certain things he say i never hear before or vice versa. N say he is working on this and whether it work out anot no definte timeline etc..n say guy is different go into relationshio n along the way see if it works out while gal is lock target n try solve issue no matter what..

I feel kind of crap how can gone out more than 60 times not same wavelength. I think is his weird viewpoints and he want a partner totally same style as him.. i thought opp attract n both complement n compromise? N he bring up about the quarrel we have on the comparison thing on how i get so piss n angry when he apologise n want reconcile on spot.. but cos of his insensitive remarks that stir all this..

Am i weird or is he unreasoable? Totally disagree
 

white_open_water

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Am i weird or is he unreasoable? Totally disagree

Could be both, could be neither or in between. Reading this thread for the first time today. I couldn't help but wonder, most if not all the things you mentioned about him and your feelings were negative, why carry on? I am sure there are good things that made you feel remotely hopeful to wait for another month. What are those good things? Or are you in a relationship for the sake of it? Maybe there are other factors, if you can reflect and share?
 
But even till now he is in dating app, can a guy go such app with intent to just know friend with no agenda?? Can anyone enlighten me??

I need to talk it out with him today..i am holding on as i do have feelings for him but he mention he has reservation about this rs cos he feel we are different wavelength.. i also make effort to make it work but he gave me no definite answer say may or may not work due to how we view and solve issues..
 

newproject

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But even till now he is in dating app, can a guy go such app with intent to just know friend with no agenda?? Can anyone enlighten me??

I need to talk it out with him today..i am holding on as i do have feelings for him but he mention he has reservation about this rs cos he feel we are different wavelength.. i also make effort to make it work but he gave me no definite answer say may or may not work due to how we view and solve issues..
Lol. If you want to fool yourself feel free.

You only together 6 months he not head over heels in love with you how to go the distance?

You mid 30s no longer that young the longer you drag the more time you eat
 
Lol. If you want to fool yourself feel free.

You only together 6 months he not head over heels in love with you how to go the distance?

You mid 30s no longer that young the longer you drag the more time you eat
Thanks i know what to do... dont think he know what is love, all he talk about is style wavelength to make any rs work n go far
 

newproject

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Thanks i know what to do... dont think he know what is love, all he talk about is style wavelength to make any rs work n go far
The way he talk about you you know the writing is on the wall already.

If he think you two are even close to possible no guy will talk like that.

You two high likelihood going to break up eventually.
 

littlepinkpointes

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But even till now he is in dating app, can a guy go such app with intent to just know friend with no agenda?? Can anyone enlighten me??

I need to talk it out with him today..i am holding on as i do have feelings for him but he mention he has reservation about this rs cos he feel we are different wavelength.. i also make effort to make it work but he gave me no definite answer say may or may not work due to how we view and solve issues..

Ermmmmm... isn't dating apps meant for people to socialize with the intent to DATE (most of the time)?

My HTB deleted his dating app (where we got to know each other actually) after we became official (after 3 months of going out). He told me there's no need to keep such platform if he knows what he wants out of this relationship and how it is important to him. He will not allow such things to jeopardize the relationship and/or hurt me.

Idk if generally guys do what ur guy does and I'm not saying my mister is different. I just feel that if he's still 'shopping around' for more options, I can only be sure that he's not into you. Are u going to sit around waiting until he finds the other girl who 'fits his wavelength', and then dump u?
No offense for saying this but I feel he's treating u like a 'spare tire'.

Honey, he's not that into u. Don't give in your all when he isn't respecting u and giving a s*** about u. It's normal u are holding back cause u have feelings for him (cause u are only human). But I think u need to think a littler further for urself. Are u holding on to him because u still love him (which I don't see since there is already a breach of trust), or u can't bear to because u want to be in a relationship?

It's already been 6 months. If it's not a committed one then I suggest u move on. It takes two hands to clap and tango. U can't expect a relationship to work with one of the two contributing to it right?
 
Seriously i have never seen any men talk like this, having a heart talk also not fruitful..

Everyone has differences but he always has his rigid mind if wavelength n style
 
Ya thanks so much yes is gog 6 months and he cant give me a definite answer whether it work out.. i dont want waste my youth and time on him
 
Even he say he try and put in effort... but i cant see it can only see him finding faults, criticise and now let me find out he betray me
 

littlepinkpointes

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Seriously i have never seen any men talk like this, having a heart talk also not fruitful..

Everyone has differences but he always has his rigid mind if wavelength n style
Don't mind me asking, how did u guys meet and what made u two decide to go into a relationship? I'm curious what his intention with u was in the beginning...
 
Know him tru a screen dating app..is just natural initially i ask him what he want out of this rs and he is super unclear the first 2 months i have alot reservation. However, it seem bettee but one thing for sure we never talk about future as he always say need time to k ow a person at least 6 mths and now is there and he tell me having teservation n all the wavelength thing come out.. is he not into me hence when he talk he is tactless and hurt me...i dont think is wavelength
 

Katejake

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After reading through all the posts, this guy is definitely not a keeper. Free yourself from him. You definitely deserve better lady. It's a brand new year. Throw away all the bad (including him) and welcome brand new good stuff. Good luck~
 

life_is

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Know him tru a screen dating app..is just natural initially i ask him what he want out of this rs and he is super unclear the first 2 months i have alot reservation. However, it seem bettee but one thing for sure we never talk about future as he always say need time to k ow a person at least 6 mths and now is there and he tell me having teservation n all the wavelength thing come out.. is he not into me hence when he talk he is tactless and hurt me...i dont think is wavelength

Don't waste your youth. He doesn't care and neither should you. Better to have no boyfriend than one who makes you miserable.
 

miloice

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Know him tru a screen dating app..is just natural initially i ask him what he want out of this rs and he is super unclear the first 2 months i have alot reservation. However, it seem bettee but one thing for sure we never talk about future as he always say need time to k ow a person at least 6 mths and now is there and he tell me having teservation n all the wavelength thing come out.. is he not into me hence when he talk he is tactless and hurt me...i dont think is wavelength
You knew him through the exact same manner that he is chatting up girls now. Wake up and move on. This guy was playing from the beginning.
 

Infernolord

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Know him tru a screen dating app..is just natural initially i ask him what he want out of this rs and he is super unclear the first 2 months i have alot reservation. However, it seem bettee but one thing for sure we never talk about future as he always say need time to k ow a person at least 6 mths and now is there and he tell me having teservation n all the wavelength thing come out.. is he not into me hence when he talk he is tactless and hurt me...i dont think is wavelength

Honestly speaking, social app is the most easy way to get attached and cheat on partner.

TS, seriously wake up. Let me give you advise on my account. I knew my gf on social app too. And a few ex on app as well.
Same goes for gers. If someone is serious on a rs, there is no reason why they keeping the app and even login to chat with other guys/gers

The moment i decide to be with my gf, i delete all the app, i gave my gf my password to my mobile. I even ask her to answer my text or calls sometime.
I would expect the SAME from my gf. And those of my ex that gave alot of excuses for not deleting their profile and app and insist on privacy, usually are those that disappoint me.
 

littlepinkpointes

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The guy wasn't serious with u to begin with and he doesn't intend to be in the near future (or even at all).

Save yourself more heartaches and heart breaks.
 

Carousell

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Look at the bright side. There are people who got married to a playboy, manipulative mcp, scumbug out to cheat money and sex. At least you spotted something fishy about him before u got too attached, and before you got married or worse still, have kids. You are financially independent, free to date. So move on to another better relationship. It may hurt you now but tell yourself you will be thankful one year down the road when you look back at your choice. A bad relationship will suck your energy and happiness away. Being single is way much better than being in a tormenting relationship. Really, this age, this generation, i think not necessary must rush and get married by a certain age bah. Most inportantly is you have a job and money to secure yourself. Never discount on relationship and allow yourself to settle with a bad one, its worth the wait.
 

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