He visited prostitutes but still proposed to me

[Carousell]

Anyway the reason why i share my story here is because i need to vent, talk and feel better. At the same time, just listen to different peoples similar experiences to see what they choose and how they move on.

I really hope one day, sammyboy and laksa boy forum can be shut down or the govt can do something to make it not accessible by locals. These forums really has too much sharings and contacts with pics that encourage infidelity. Although i agree it boils down to a persons choice but really, read too much and see too much can really affect a persons thinking too. If any of you really went in and read, you will understand why it all looks so tempting.

I know I wouldnt want my children to know the existence of this forum when they grow. I think teenage boys who access these sites and got hooked will be screwed.

 

[Carousell]

I Guess we are in similar predicament just that my case he didn't do all these since young Nor does he has addictions. He didn't have enough concern from his family since young and has an internal rebellious nature. I've got the phone number of the person on sammybabe can email you but it's on their website too. It's just so easy. Text them and you get the prostitutes address and availability. Hope the law can clamp these websites down. Eventually it's up to one's determination and willpower. I believe only true love will help.

Hi jam123, you mean the person controls all prostitute websites? But if you access sammyboy, theres many bosses around with their prostitutes offering the services. Unless your bf only get gers from this particular boss and you just need to focus on one.

 

[Carousell]

I Guess we are in similar predicament just that my case he didn't do all these since young Nor does he has addictions. He didn't have enough concern from his family since young and has an internal rebellious nature. I've got the phone number of the person on sammybabe can email you but it's on their website too. It's just so easy. Text them and you get the prostitutes address and availability. Hope the law can clamp these websites down. Eventually it's up to one's determination and willpower. I believe only true love will help.

Ok jam123, i get what you mean now, googled sammybabes. This is another website on its own on local woman. My hubby he access sammyboy and its a website with different companies and bossess that bring in foreign ladies, mostly are thais. Beware of sammyboy too, hope you bf didnt look at sammyboy

 

[miloice]

well.... is not just one forum or site. When you surf porn, the content is free because it is a breeding ground to develop a potential customer for paid sex. You have all the free chats and nonsense ad pop out constantly. I was curious to see what those are about too. They seem like just social sites for meeting women. I registered a new email to check it out. Its basically hookers trying to get customers and probably some swingers in there. I unregistered after that but realize it keep spamming to the email address still. Thankfully, I used a fake account. As with Gambling, and all other vices, its risky stuffs. If a person has weakness, he/she needs to moderate the exposure to give time to cope with it. Else, many will sink in and there is no way out. The brain enjoys the stimulus and misses it.

 

[Carousell]

well.... is not just one forum or site. When you surf porn, the content is free because it is a breeding ground to develop a potential customer for paid sex. You have all the free chats and nonsense ad pop out constantly. I was curious to see what those are about too. They seem like just social sites for meeting women. I registered a new email to check it out. Its basically hookers trying to get customers and probably some swingers in there. I unregistered after that but realize it keep spamming to the email address still. Thankfully, I used a fake account. As with Gambling, and all other vices, its risky stuffs. If a person has weakness, he/she needs to moderate the exposure to give time to cope with it. Else, many will sink in and there is no way out. The brain enjoys the stimulus and misses it.

Yes i agree with you, the internet is pretty dangerous nowadays and thats why parents need to supervise their kids on exposure. My husband is not my child, he is too IT savvy then and his parents werenot aware of what he was surfing when he was a teenager. I can only say that he didnt go out to socialise and take part in more healthy activities and got himself hooked into this unhealthy habit. When he became an adult, he is weak minded and not mature enough to stop looking even when he knows this is unhealthy.

Seeing how i reacted to his betrayal and problems sort of wake him up and he finally sees how his actions impact our family. He used to compartmentalise his actions from our family. I hope he has learnt his lesson and grown wiser. And i hope he will continue to remain strong and determined to stop all these craps from occupying his mind. He can only change if he wants it himself so i can only observe.

 

[miloice]

Yes i agree with you, the internet is pretty dangerous nowadays and thats why parents need to supervise their kids on exposure. My husband is not my child, he is too IT savvy then and his parents werenot aware of what he was surfing when he was a teenager. I can only say that he didnt go out to socialise and take part in more healthy activities and got himself hooked into this unhealthy habit. When he became an adult, he is weak minded and not mature enough to stop looking even when he knows this is unhealthy.

Seeing how i reacted to his betrayal and problems sort of wake him up and he finally sees how his actions impact our family. He used to compartmentalise his actions from our family. I hope he has learnt his lesson and grown wiser. And i hope he will continue to remain strong and determined to stop all these craps from occupying his mind. He can only change if he wants it himself so i can only observe.

Very good point that he doesn't have other activities to release that energy. Perhaps encouraging him to do sports and workout will help. His physique will improve, with constant exercise, testosterone levels will elevate. Its actually good for his sex drive and overall self esteem. At the same time, becomes more attactive physically to you... So, that could spice up your relationship as well. You did acknowledge the lack of sex and intimacy, that is one of the factors to his adventures externally. The more he can be open with you about his fantasies and having you understanding, the less he needs to look elsewhere for release. Rest assure, this is not blaming you for his affair, rather how you as his spouse can help him cope with his needs.

 

[Carousell]

Very good point that he doesn't have other activities to release that energy. Perhaps encouraging him to do sports and workout will help. His physique will improve, with constant exercise, testosterone levels will elevate. Its actually good for his sex drive and overall self esteem. At the same time, becomes more attactive physically to you... So, that could spice up your relationship as well. You did acknowledge the lack of sex and intimacy, that is one of the factors to his adventures externally. The more he can be open with you about his fantasies and having you understanding, the less he needs to look elsewhere for release. Rest assure, this is not blaming you for his affair, rather how you as his spouse can help him cope with his needs.

Yup i understand that i have a part to play to support him also, thanks for your input.