Hi all,
I am facing some problem with my marriage life. I am married to my husband for 8 months. I am getting doubt in our marriage life and need some advices.
I am currently staying with my mother-in-law “MIL”. The issue of mine is not with the MIL. The issue is with my brother-in-law (“BIL”) and his wife. They are very irritating. I never see such a selfish and greedy people before. I moved in to my hubby’s house when he proposed to me two years ago due to his house location is nearer to my workplace and I am not very good term with my parents.
My BIL had a daughter and they sold their HDB flat and bought a condo. However, as they couldn’t afford their condo, they rent it out the whole apartment and move in to and stay with us. From young, my hubby is not in good relationship with his parents. Worse still, he no longer speaks to his brother. Can you imagine staying in a house with “stranger”? I never talked to them before till now. To make the situation worsen, they causing inconvenience to us. One toilet is shared among 6 people in the house, they will sometimes purposely use the toilet at times when we in need of using (i.e. early in the morning when we preparing to go work). One most ridiculous thing that ever happens is that my BIL was in the toilet in the midnight, me and my hubby waited so long that we drove to petrol station to use toilet. What a joke!
They seldom do dishwashing, leaving their dirty plates on the table waiting for someone to wash for them (i.e. my in law if not grandma). Worse still, they sometimes don’t flush toilet after they use it. When their daughter cried in the middle of the night, they will open the door and wake up everyone in the house. Super irritating and inconsiderate!
They are “using” my MIL and FIL as they loved the granddaughter so much and pampered her with all stuffs she wanted. Can you imagine my in law bought a hand phone, a 40 inch television, a bicycle and even a single bed for a 4 years old child? A bit too much I think and make her a super spoilt brad.
The point is that my BIL is not poor. He and his wife are rich who earned at least $10k per month and his wife is some rich man’s daughter. That is the reason why my MIL feels that is kind of bad for her to marry to her son and treat her like queen and her daughter as princess. My in law will send and fetch that kid to school, feed her, pat her to sleep. As if my in law give birth to their daughter like that. Seriously, I can’t stand it seeing all this stuffs happening.
I knew this issue when I was preparing my wedding with my hubby. As I was busy with work and my examination, I don’t really see how serious this problem is until now. Didn’t know how bad it gonna affect my daily life.
My nightmare is going to begin next month as they are expecting another baby. As usual, my in law will buy a lot of things for the unborn baby. Currently, there is a cupboard full of baby stuffs in the kitchen. I did not write wrongly. KITCHEN! More than 50% of the stuffs belong to the two irritating couple. I feel like I am staying in the rubbish collection centre. I am expecting even more ridiculous things is gonna happen soon.
I only feel my presence in the house on Sunday when the irritating couple with their daughter will not be at home. Then my in law will talk to me and concern about us. I feel like going prison every weekday after work. Sometimes my hubby will be home late and I am in the room alone. I feel so bored while the living hall is full of noise of that child with my in law. Prison is the only word I can describe.
I don’t feel family love. I had problem with my parents and I don’t want to move back. I feel like renting a room outside sometimes.
On top of this, I also facing some problem with my hubby. When we are dating, we are so happy. Happiest couple on the earth (i.e. puppy love). But after our marriage I start to see problems between us. He is a workaholic. I am not happy with the fact that he seldom or never msg me during weekdays. Not that I want him to report to me every hour. At least let me know that he is safe at work. This started to happen when I moved in to stay with him. When I voiced out, he will say we are seeing each other every day, what the point of msging. I am very sad. Does it mean that once you gotten me, you no need to msg me? I admit that I am a person who needs attention. If I don’t get attention from him, should I get attention from other guys?
In addition, he loves to watch anime. He watched it at least 2 hours every day. Not that I dun want him to watch. I feel bored in the “prison” with him, while he watching his anime, what should I do? I keep surfing net if not msg my friends. Is that what newlywed do at home on weekdays? Sometimes, I feel like running out of the house. So every weekends I will ask him to bring me out.
We also have little intimate time as he said that there are people at home. If not he got no mood due to stress from work. He wanted a baby and we are not “doing” it that frequent. How to have a baby? Doing it during my ovulation period? I feel like a baby making machine. Do it just to produce. That is not what I want. It hurt my feelings. Thinking of it makes me reconsider of having a baby now. I feel that I am not ready. I am in my twenties now.
He watched porns. I knew it. Sometimes I start to wonder am I not that attract enough. However, after my friend’s analysis, my friend told me this is cleaner and faster solution to men’s urge. Does all marriage man watch porn?
I spoke to him recently on our issue. He told me I am too free to think of this issues that are not a problem. Maybe we have a baby will keep me occupied and stop thinking all this crap. This make me even upset. We even come to a conclusion to send me to counselling and he is even ok to let me reconsider our marriage.
I am very sad. Since marriage, all this problems start to surface. However, we do have happy times together I must say. We went travelling twice. We laughed at each other jokes. We hug and kiss each other every day. I am happy being with him. He never failed to make me laugh. But I don’t how to overcome all this problems I am facing. I am currently waiting for my BTO and will get my keys next year May. I do not know how I gonna survive this few months. The fear I having now is whether this gonna be a problem still even if we move in our own flat. His BIL problem might be solved, but what about ours? I dun want to start regretting this again after I have a baby. It will be very unfair to our baby.
I am facing some problem with my marriage life. I am married to my husband for 8 months. I am getting doubt in our marriage life and need some advices.
I am currently staying with my mother-in-law “MIL”. The issue of mine is not with the MIL. The issue is with my brother-in-law (“BIL”) and his wife. They are very irritating. I never see such a selfish and greedy people before. I moved in to my hubby’s house when he proposed to me two years ago due to his house location is nearer to my workplace and I am not very good term with my parents.
My BIL had a daughter and they sold their HDB flat and bought a condo. However, as they couldn’t afford their condo, they rent it out the whole apartment and move in to and stay with us. From young, my hubby is not in good relationship with his parents. Worse still, he no longer speaks to his brother. Can you imagine staying in a house with “stranger”? I never talked to them before till now. To make the situation worsen, they causing inconvenience to us. One toilet is shared among 6 people in the house, they will sometimes purposely use the toilet at times when we in need of using (i.e. early in the morning when we preparing to go work). One most ridiculous thing that ever happens is that my BIL was in the toilet in the midnight, me and my hubby waited so long that we drove to petrol station to use toilet. What a joke!
They seldom do dishwashing, leaving their dirty plates on the table waiting for someone to wash for them (i.e. my in law if not grandma). Worse still, they sometimes don’t flush toilet after they use it. When their daughter cried in the middle of the night, they will open the door and wake up everyone in the house. Super irritating and inconsiderate!
They are “using” my MIL and FIL as they loved the granddaughter so much and pampered her with all stuffs she wanted. Can you imagine my in law bought a hand phone, a 40 inch television, a bicycle and even a single bed for a 4 years old child? A bit too much I think and make her a super spoilt brad.
The point is that my BIL is not poor. He and his wife are rich who earned at least $10k per month and his wife is some rich man’s daughter. That is the reason why my MIL feels that is kind of bad for her to marry to her son and treat her like queen and her daughter as princess. My in law will send and fetch that kid to school, feed her, pat her to sleep. As if my in law give birth to their daughter like that. Seriously, I can’t stand it seeing all this stuffs happening.
I knew this issue when I was preparing my wedding with my hubby. As I was busy with work and my examination, I don’t really see how serious this problem is until now. Didn’t know how bad it gonna affect my daily life.
My nightmare is going to begin next month as they are expecting another baby. As usual, my in law will buy a lot of things for the unborn baby. Currently, there is a cupboard full of baby stuffs in the kitchen. I did not write wrongly. KITCHEN! More than 50% of the stuffs belong to the two irritating couple. I feel like I am staying in the rubbish collection centre. I am expecting even more ridiculous things is gonna happen soon.
I only feel my presence in the house on Sunday when the irritating couple with their daughter will not be at home. Then my in law will talk to me and concern about us. I feel like going prison every weekday after work. Sometimes my hubby will be home late and I am in the room alone. I feel so bored while the living hall is full of noise of that child with my in law. Prison is the only word I can describe.
I don’t feel family love. I had problem with my parents and I don’t want to move back. I feel like renting a room outside sometimes.
On top of this, I also facing some problem with my hubby. When we are dating, we are so happy. Happiest couple on the earth (i.e. puppy love). But after our marriage I start to see problems between us. He is a workaholic. I am not happy with the fact that he seldom or never msg me during weekdays. Not that I want him to report to me every hour. At least let me know that he is safe at work. This started to happen when I moved in to stay with him. When I voiced out, he will say we are seeing each other every day, what the point of msging. I am very sad. Does it mean that once you gotten me, you no need to msg me? I admit that I am a person who needs attention. If I don’t get attention from him, should I get attention from other guys?
In addition, he loves to watch anime. He watched it at least 2 hours every day. Not that I dun want him to watch. I feel bored in the “prison” with him, while he watching his anime, what should I do? I keep surfing net if not msg my friends. Is that what newlywed do at home on weekdays? Sometimes, I feel like running out of the house. So every weekends I will ask him to bring me out.
We also have little intimate time as he said that there are people at home. If not he got no mood due to stress from work. He wanted a baby and we are not “doing” it that frequent. How to have a baby? Doing it during my ovulation period? I feel like a baby making machine. Do it just to produce. That is not what I want. It hurt my feelings. Thinking of it makes me reconsider of having a baby now. I feel that I am not ready. I am in my twenties now.
He watched porns. I knew it. Sometimes I start to wonder am I not that attract enough. However, after my friend’s analysis, my friend told me this is cleaner and faster solution to men’s urge. Does all marriage man watch porn?
I spoke to him recently on our issue. He told me I am too free to think of this issues that are not a problem. Maybe we have a baby will keep me occupied and stop thinking all this crap. This make me even upset. We even come to a conclusion to send me to counselling and he is even ok to let me reconsider our marriage.
I am very sad. Since marriage, all this problems start to surface. However, we do have happy times together I must say. We went travelling twice. We laughed at each other jokes. We hug and kiss each other every day. I am happy being with him. He never failed to make me laugh. But I don’t how to overcome all this problems I am facing. I am currently waiting for my BTO and will get my keys next year May. I do not know how I gonna survive this few months. The fear I having now is whether this gonna be a problem still even if we move in our own flat. His BIL problem might be solved, but what about ours? I dun want to start regretting this again after I have a baby. It will be very unfair to our baby.