Singaporebrides | Weddings 101
August 2022
7 Wedding Worries You Should Leave Behind on Your Wedding Day
Leave these worries behind and enjoy your wedding day to its fullest.
Your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event, so all you should be doing on that day is to be in the moment and enjoy your day as a bride. The last thing you should be doing is to spend the day worrying about certain details of the celebration. However, it is often easier said than done, but not impossible.
We’ve singled out seven of the most common wedding worries that plague brides before and on their wedding day, and what you can do to leave them behind for good, so that you can bask in the happiness and celebrate one of life’s most important milestones properly.
1. Did I make the wrong decision?
Pamela and Adrian’s Vintage, Rustic Wedding at Armenian Church and The Masons Table by Rylz Photography
Whether it is your venue, dress, photographer or choice of decor, once you have decided on one, try not to look at more inspirations to prevent second doubts about your decision from forming. The truth is, the options you have are endless. There will always be a cooler venue, prettier dress, better photographer, and trendier decor ideas that you wished you had thought of.
Instead of planning your big day with the goal of making it the most special, perfect and beautiful wedding anyone has ever attended, plan a wedding that represents your individuality and relationship, because your wedding is going to be special and beautiful no matter what choices you’ve made.
So, don’t torture yourself by thinking, “Did I make the wrong choice of choosing this instead of that?” or give room for second doubts to grow by continuing your search once you’ve made up your mind.
2. Did I forget something important?
Rachel and Hui’s Tropical Eclectic Wedding at Corner House by Rheza Paleva and Yipmage Moments
With so many details and people to keep track of, it is natural to feel the urge to go over the list of things and people you need to keep track of constantly to make sure that you did not forget anything important. And even when you’ve delegated the task of coordinating to your bridal party or wedding planner, you still want to double and triple check to make sure nothing important is being left out or forgotten.
As much as you feel the urge to, let go of the reins once you have properly briefed your coordinator, be it your maid of honour or wedding planner, and don’t worry about the details. Let them do the worrying and problem solving while you enjoy being a bride and your big day.
3. What happens if it rains during the outdoor solemnisation?
Anna and Angad’s Intimate Solemnisation at the Bandstand at the Singapore Botanic Gardens by GrizzyPix Photography
While Singapore’s weather is pretty stable for most parts of the year, there are some months where our weather is a little fickle. There’s nothing much you can do about the weather, seeing how you cannot control it, so don’t sweat over it if it doesn’t turn out the way you envision it to.
The best way to deal with weather maybes is to come up with a back-up plan beforehand if you are planning for an outdoor solemnisation ceremony or wedding reception. Discuss with your planner and venue about the wet weather plans available, and when to activate those plans on the day itself, so that you don’t have to worry and stress over it on your wedding day.
4. What if my guests don’t turn up?
Wai San and Si Wei’s Intimate Wedding at Floral Fantasy by Dapper Pictures
After working so hard on finalising your guest list and seating plans, the last thing you want is for guests to back out at the last minute, or worse, not turn up at all for the wedding without so much of a text or call. As unpleasant as that may be, it is actually a pretty common situation most couples face in their wedding planning journey.
While you and your guests may have done your due diligence of sending out RSVPs and confirming attendance, sometimes, even the best laid plans or intentions go awry. Your guests may have to back out at the last minute due to an unforeseen circumstance or simply go missing and uncontactable on the day itself, and there is virtually nothing you can do to fill in those empty seats at the eleventh hour. So, don’t stress over a situation that you cannot control or help. Instead, take it in your stride and carry on with the celebration as planned. An empty seat or two at one or two of the guest tables will not affect the overall celebration, so don’t worry about missing guests.
5. What should I do if one or more of my guests make a scene?
Siti and Husaini’s Elegant and Ethereal Clifford Pier Solemnisation by Colossal Weddings
There are many ways to prevent or resolve a situation where a guest gets too drunk and starts behaving poorly, or a young child throwing loud tantrums, or even having a longstanding family feud surfacing and thrashed out on-site, but ultimately, the best way to deal with such situations is to accept that you have no control over the behaviours of your guests, young or old, family or friend.
If you know that a particular guest is likely to make a scene at a wedding after one too many drinks, do inform your bridesmaids or groomsmen and put them on damage control, so that they can keep an eye out for the guest and step in before he or she gets too rowdy. If you are planning to have a few young children at the wedding, consider setting up a children’s corner with some simple activities such as colouring to keep them entertained throughout the celebration, as young children may get bored easily and throw a tantrum while the adults are busy celebrating.
At the end of the day, try your best to prevent any of your guest from making a scene by placing your bridal party on guard duty, but if that doesn’t work, don’t stress or worry too much about it.
6. What if I trip and fall, or embarrass myself in front of everyone?
Serene and Jacob’s Modern Elegant Wedding at Raffles Singapore by Pixioo
Every bride worries about tripping over the hem of their wedding gown, or in their high heels, as they’re walking down the aisle, right in front of all their guests, and it’s absolutely normal! With everyone’s attention on you, you definitely want to avoid being in an embarrassing situation.
To ensure that you won’t trip and fall in front of your guests, don’t wear a pair of heels that you’re not used to wearing. Pick a pair in a comfortable height that you’re more adept at walking in, or if high heels are not your cup of tea, you can strut down the aisle in your favourite pair of boots or sneakers too! You should also bring along the pair of shoes that you’ll be wearing under your wedding gown to your gown fitting sessions, so that the hem of your dress can be altered to fit your perfectly when you’re wearing shoes. Lastly, you should practice walking around in your dress with your shoes to get accustomed to walking around in it for your wedding.
While this is by no means a guarantee that you won’t trip and fall (remember, there is always Murphy’s Law working in the background!), there is a good chance that you might not. However, if it does happen, don’t get too upset or flustered. Take a moment to collect yourself and try to laugh it off! That awkward moment might even end up being a funny memory for you and your guests!
7. Will my guests enjoy themselves with the activities that I have planned for them?
Stefani and Kevin’s Glamorous, Art Deco Wedding Aboard The Orient Express Singapore by Dapper Pictures
While it is your big day, you do want your guests to enjoy themselves on this special occasion too, so you’ve thought long and hard about the activities you can include for them to enjoy during the wedding. As much as it is sweet that you’re prioritising your guests’ enjoyment, some of them may simply be pleased to reconnect and mingle with each other at the wedding, and spend the entire evening catching up instead of engaging in the activities that you have planned.
So, don’t worry about planning a long line-up of activities for them at the wedding. Instead, include one or two activities that your guests, both young and old, can enjoy, such as a photo booth or an ice cream or coffee booth.
Credits: Feature image from Felicia and Jonathan’s Lively and Colourful Wedding at The Alkaff Mansion and The Church of St. Francis Xavier by Sloth Creatives Wedding
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