Hi Lingyang,
i really empathise with your situation. Not everybody can appreciate reasons for having a full vege banquet because of the misconception that vege banquets are "cheaper". well they are so wrong. for alot of people, vege food means "lower class" and the idea of having shark's fin, chicken, whole fishes, seafood etc during a wedding banquet depicts class and status. if a full vege banquet is not possible because of differing opinions between urself and hubby and family, what about half a banquet?
just would like to share also my experience of a full vege banquet held at Grand Hyatt in Dec 09. the menu was specially designed because we didn't quite like the original vege menu provided. it felt too "zi cha" for us. we met with the chef and the coordinator, who later crafted a superfabulous semi-fine-dining menu. i was impressed during the food tasting, and on my AD, my banquet guests were pleasantly surprised with the food and entire ambience. the feedback provided by our guests was that the food was good, portion was good and it even looked rather like fine-dining for some dishes.
conclusion: i think the full vege dinner we had at Hyatt gave a big slap to ppl who had remarked to us that we had chosen vege cos they think it is "cheaper", and asked if this meant they could give us lesser angbao money. and i think there would also be some ignorant ppl who would still believe this is so even after looking at the kinds of vege food served, and give u angbao amount based on their ignorant view of vege food. so be prepared k.
last but not least... wedding preps must be a happy occasion for both u and ur fiance... don't let such complications spoil the happiness of the occasion for you...