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texasholdem
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it's hopeless. Once the thought of divorce appear, it can never be mended. just like a crack. It will be there forever
green_tranquility
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I rather you & hb go for the marriage counselling course instead
I agree with lolliepop... and if you already have the intention and even to act on it, it must after some hard consideration.
But on the other hand, if both of you don't want to divorce, then don't.
I'm guessing one party wants to but not the other... It really has to depend on the decision why it the thought of divorce was even initiated at first.
Consult a marriage counsellor.
But on the other hand, if both of you don't want to divorce, then don't.
I'm guessing one party wants to but not the other... It really has to depend on the decision why it the thought of divorce was even initiated at first.
Consult a marriage counsellor.
uh huh.. i think when a couple agreed on a divorce, there must be a very strong reason to it. can't be after a quarrel suddenly u guys decided to just file on a divorce, right?
but if it's like what Anticipate said, 1 party wants to, but not the other, i don't think there's no use to reconcile, right? doesn't it take 2 hands to clap? =)
but if it's like what Anticipate said, 1 party wants to, but not the other, i don't think there's no use to reconcile, right? doesn't it take 2 hands to clap? =)
texasholdem
New Member
it must be a cheating case?
confirmed
confirmed
sgbabydoll
Active Member
If this works, there wouldn't be divorces at all.
lynette_ling
New Member
Seek counselling or get one of those lovey ducks and place in the bedroom, its said to help couples more loving and build stronger relationships. Ask from those selling feng-shui stuff.
i swear by the ducks man...
seriously u Dun need to do anything, u can treat your partner badly even... the ducks will settle it for u. in fact why have relationships when u can just get the duck-necklace and put around your neck? trust me, get it... u dun need to do anything in a relationship, the ducks do it for u!
ps: quack!
seriously u Dun need to do anything, u can treat your partner badly even... the ducks will settle it for u. in fact why have relationships when u can just get the duck-necklace and put around your neck? trust me, get it... u dun need to do anything in a relationship, the ducks do it for u!
ps: quack!
back to lily tan,
you can buy ducks or cats or whatever recommended by the shifu, and at the end of the day, it's just false hopes that are meant to excuse yourself from the actual realities.
since you and ur hubby are processing the divorce, it doesn't makes sense to create those false hopes if he doesn't want to work things out with you, right?
you can buy ducks or cats or whatever recommended by the shifu, and at the end of the day, it's just false hopes that are meant to excuse yourself from the actual realities.
since you and ur hubby are processing the divorce, it doesn't makes sense to create those false hopes if he doesn't want to work things out with you, right?
powderful07
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On the ducks...
It needs to be MANDARIN DUCKS...
Not those ducks that you see hanging on meat hooks and eat...if you use those; you'll end up eating your partner...
Remember...I'm a well trainer Jedi master in the Duck Side...
It needs to be MANDARIN DUCKS...
Not those ducks that you see hanging on meat hooks and eat...if you use those; you'll end up eating your partner...
Remember...I'm a well trainer Jedi master in the Duck Side...
lily tan,
I think you should examine the reasons why you want this marriage back. Does your hubby feel the same and are you both willing AND able to work towards the resolution of the issues that is currently leading you to divorce?
Or are you hanging on to hopes because you can't bear to let go of x years invested in the relationship? Or fear of failure? Or fear that your kids will grow up in a broken home?
If you are dealing with fundamentally different outlooks, values, lifestyles, mindsets or issues like irresponsibility, cheating or abuse for which you cannot compromise and be genuinely happy enough to live with for the rest of your life - then there is really no point....
I am also in a failed marriage. I know I can stay married for the face, to look good in front of others, family and friends. But what's the point if beneath it is just an empty shell? Think about it.....
Deep down, I have always believed that marriage is a commitment, not to be taken lightly.
I still hold on to this belief even now.
Never did I dream that I will go down this road. But because I believe marriage is so sacred, to remain married in name but yet lead practically separate lives is making a mockery of what the real marital relationship is supposed to be.
Marriage takes work and effort but it really shouldn't ALWAYS be THAT hard work. I.e. it shouldn't be 100% suffering and no joy.
If things come to this stage or both parties just don't care anymore, despite concerted efforts to communicate and resolve, the marriage is, in essence, already long gone. I am not talking about the legal marriage here.
When a person really comes to the end of his / her rope and has no more resources left within him / her to "give just one more try", then the answer should be clear.
Hope you know what I am getting at.
I think you should examine the reasons why you want this marriage back. Does your hubby feel the same and are you both willing AND able to work towards the resolution of the issues that is currently leading you to divorce?
Or are you hanging on to hopes because you can't bear to let go of x years invested in the relationship? Or fear of failure? Or fear that your kids will grow up in a broken home?
If you are dealing with fundamentally different outlooks, values, lifestyles, mindsets or issues like irresponsibility, cheating or abuse for which you cannot compromise and be genuinely happy enough to live with for the rest of your life - then there is really no point....
I am also in a failed marriage. I know I can stay married for the face, to look good in front of others, family and friends. But what's the point if beneath it is just an empty shell? Think about it.....
Deep down, I have always believed that marriage is a commitment, not to be taken lightly.
I still hold on to this belief even now.
Never did I dream that I will go down this road. But because I believe marriage is so sacred, to remain married in name but yet lead practically separate lives is making a mockery of what the real marital relationship is supposed to be.
Marriage takes work and effort but it really shouldn't ALWAYS be THAT hard work. I.e. it shouldn't be 100% suffering and no joy.
If things come to this stage or both parties just don't care anymore, despite concerted efforts to communicate and resolve, the marriage is, in essence, already long gone. I am not talking about the legal marriage here.
When a person really comes to the end of his / her rope and has no more resources left within him / her to "give just one more try", then the answer should be clear.
Hope you know what I am getting at.
sgbabydoll
Active Member
So this is how the duck talk started.....haha
texasholdem
New Member
Never did i dream that i will walk this road too
an i am going to bring down with me all the personnel involved. After all, we are in the same boat. 'You'll never walk alone'
an i am going to bring down with me all the personnel involved. After all, we are in the same boat. 'You'll never walk alone'
Actually, couples should try to give and take. I do understand that it might be easy than said.
Maybe try marriage counselling course will be a better choice.
Last time, my friend also going to annul her ROM, later we advise her to go for the course.. Finally this couple is happily living togather now.
A marriage is accepting another party fault. We must not always see the good side, must forgive the fault..
Maybe try marriage counselling course will be a better choice.
Last time, my friend also going to annul her ROM, later we advise her to go for the course.. Finally this couple is happily living togather now.
A marriage is accepting another party fault. We must not always see the good side, must forgive the fault..
~Ya... Never walk alone... especially 7th month during nite time... Plenty of "good bros" around... Hahaha! ***quack quack quack***
Nowadays ppl like suka suka will say divorce over small agruements. So many ppl taking marriage like "throphy". Some ppl tresaure it and polish it. Some ppl will just leave on top of the shelf and wait to get rusty. So when it got rusty, too late to polish liaos...
Nowadays ppl like suka suka will say divorce over small agruements. So many ppl taking marriage like "throphy". Some ppl tresaure it and polish it. Some ppl will just leave on top of the shelf and wait to get rusty. So when it got rusty, too late to polish liaos...
ya... agree with joey. It really depends on how to couple work together and compromise with each other, learning to accept and live with each other.
That's why some said marriage is a start of new life. Sometimes it's really down to the couple to work things out although the end result could be good and bad, but at least you know that you have tried.
That's why some said marriage is a start of new life. Sometimes it's really down to the couple to work things out although the end result could be good and bad, but at least you know that you have tried.
Both hands agree.. Couple should always work things out. Sometimes, small argument between couples is normal. There is no couples never argue. If really there is, by that time when atomic bomb out, it will never be solve..
No marriage is perfect, it should be adding in sweet, sour, hot & cold..
No marriage is perfect, it should be adding in sweet, sour, hot & cold..