Some Questions On My Situation
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baby_berry
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Hi guys and gals.. many thanks for your different perspective of opinions. I really appreciate it. Somehow, what is gg on in my life is tiring me out. Initially, I gave him rights to baby when we were separated coz I know be it no matter what, a child shld not be deprived of his dad. Things happened time and time again that I finally gave up hope on him being a good father. I'm very apologetic towards my baby and whenever I look at baby, I feel a sense of guilt that I cant give him a complete family. I tried, seriously tried very hard to work things out till one day I snapped and I felt like ending this pathetic life but somehow I know I cant juz end as I have a baby to look after and have the responsibility to nuture and watch him grow up so that he can see and feel the beautiful things in life.
Its tiring to be in a marriage whereby I have to always "wear the pants". Its every womens' dream to marry a man who can take care of her, share her worries, have a committed husband and responsible father to the child.
Anyway from my part, I "dun think" he will fight with me the custody of baby. Many close friends of mine and his who are onlookers and know the inside out of what is gg on, gave their fair share of view that he's not at all interested in the baby. So I do not know...
yes, when a person is losing something, he/she may declare that they will change for the better but how long can shld a person wait for this change? Miloice, I have been with this man for 12 years in total, love is really blind and during the years, I kept on hoping that this man will be a better man by giving chances after chances. During the years, from courtship till after marraige, he keeps on telling me he will change, he will change... yes, he did change for a better.. only for 2 wks and everything will come back to square one again. I asked myself seriously that can I wait for this man to prove to me he will be a better person... my answer is no. 12 years and nothing came out from my hope. Me waiting 12 years is more than enough and now with a baby, do I really want my son to undergo the agony I have been thru of fruitless waiting?
A woman's worst nightmare is to marry a man with the following traits;
1. Gambler
2. Drinker
3. Womanizer
4. Liar
5. Drugs
And out of this 5, my HB has the traits of all except for (2). I blame myself for the situation me and baby is in coz I shld have known better.
Its tiring to be in a marriage whereby I have to always "wear the pants". Its every womens' dream to marry a man who can take care of her, share her worries, have a committed husband and responsible father to the child.
Anyway from my part, I "dun think" he will fight with me the custody of baby. Many close friends of mine and his who are onlookers and know the inside out of what is gg on, gave their fair share of view that he's not at all interested in the baby. So I do not know...
yes, when a person is losing something, he/she may declare that they will change for the better but how long can shld a person wait for this change? Miloice, I have been with this man for 12 years in total, love is really blind and during the years, I kept on hoping that this man will be a better man by giving chances after chances. During the years, from courtship till after marraige, he keeps on telling me he will change, he will change... yes, he did change for a better.. only for 2 wks and everything will come back to square one again. I asked myself seriously that can I wait for this man to prove to me he will be a better person... my answer is no. 12 years and nothing came out from my hope. Me waiting 12 years is more than enough and now with a baby, do I really want my son to undergo the agony I have been thru of fruitless waiting?
A woman's worst nightmare is to marry a man with the following traits;
1. Gambler
2. Drinker
3. Womanizer
4. Liar
5. Drugs
And out of this 5, my HB has the traits of all except for (2). I blame myself for the situation me and baby is in coz I shld have known better.
my heart goes out to u..
if in ur posts above, guess u shd be counting ur lucky stars tat u only wasted 12 yrs of ur life & not forever.
on the outlook that even u think that he will not fight for the custody of the child, then i think it all makes things easier. given all the explanations u had given & how u can cared for ur child soley, it should not be that hard to get ur child custody.
u do not have to blame urself for this situation really as u had tried giving this shit head tries & tries to repent but he failed..
if in ur posts above, guess u shd be counting ur lucky stars tat u only wasted 12 yrs of ur life & not forever.
on the outlook that even u think that he will not fight for the custody of the child, then i think it all makes things easier. given all the explanations u had given & how u can cared for ur child soley, it should not be that hard to get ur child custody.
u do not have to blame urself for this situation really as u had tried giving this shit head tries & tries to repent but he failed..
miloice
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berrybaby,
as I had explained, u don't need to really prove to me. But, I really appreciate the explanations and clarifications. It does help in the sharing and advising.
the point is, as long as you place your child in priority, that's good. The points are really more to trig you to explore these areas in case u haven't.
Cos, we get emotional. It does help to have people reminding us to stay objective at times. Hope u have a quick recovery from the messy divorce and move on to the new life for you and your baby.
as I had explained, u don't need to really prove to me. But, I really appreciate the explanations and clarifications. It does help in the sharing and advising.
the point is, as long as you place your child in priority, that's good. The points are really more to trig you to explore these areas in case u haven't.
Cos, we get emotional. It does help to have people reminding us to stay objective at times. Hope u have a quick recovery from the messy divorce and move on to the new life for you and your baby.
miloice
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Skylar,
not really celebrating Man U lose except for the small money made from the high odds for liverpool win.
Enough for a good meal 1 for 1 at Swensons tomorrow
My joy is more for than patience gunners fans have to endure. Finally, a match with the beautiful football that enchanted the fans. The champions league win was so ugly. Both teams playing rubbish unable to produce anything in front. Even the penalty, Almunia form during the penalty is really so-so. Rather unimpressive. But Roma deserved the lost for playing so badly at home.
not really celebrating Man U lose except for the small money made from the high odds for liverpool win.
Enough for a good meal 1 for 1 at Swensons tomorrow
My joy is more for than patience gunners fans have to endure. Finally, a match with the beautiful football that enchanted the fans. The champions league win was so ugly. Both teams playing rubbish unable to produce anything in front. Even the penalty, Almunia form during the penalty is really so-so. Rather unimpressive. But Roma deserved the lost for playing so badly at home.
ya ya ya.. Milo...
mai hao lian lor.. lol.. we will be back! lol..
like I said.. it was distraous.. really!! playing like their souls were half sucked away.. who is there to blame?? Bet they deserved some good vaccum treatment after that..
I was still lafting at pple wearing liverfool... oopss.. sorry i meant liverpool jerseys.. lol.. ball is wrong there is wining & there is losing..
eh so u kind enuf to treat Swensons 1 for 1 bor? lol
mai hao lian lor.. lol.. we will be back! lol..
like I said.. it was distraous.. really!! playing like their souls were half sucked away.. who is there to blame?? Bet they deserved some good vaccum treatment after that..
I was still lafting at pple wearing liverfool... oopss.. sorry i meant liverpool jerseys.. lol.. ball is wrong there is wining & there is losing..
eh so u kind enuf to treat Swensons 1 for 1 bor? lol
BYE!green_tranquility
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Ok lah, at least milo didnt claim himself to be underaged hehe.
He may not want to fight for custody.. but it does not mean he will give up his status as a father?
If he doesn't even want joint-custody, then good for TS.. since she will have sole-custody. but still he might ask for access..
To ts:
If you can prove HB is on drugs or he has committed some drug-related offenses then it may be a consideration for the custody.. the chances of you having sole-custody or even restricting him access to your child is higher.
If he doesn't even want joint-custody, then good for TS.. since she will have sole-custody. but still he might ask for access..
To ts:
If you can prove HB is on drugs or he has committed some drug-related offenses then it may be a consideration for the custody.. the chances of you having sole-custody or even restricting him access to your child is higher.
lol.. Milo.. u very crude leh.. nabz.. KNN at me ah?? Man U loss was ok leh.. nothing much to me also.. lol..
Gin,
no big issues here ah.. from as far as milo is concern.. dun tell me he soo small gas meh.. lol..
what SM said is true also.. drugs is a big taboo leh.. esp when it comes to kids concern..
Gin,
no big issues here ah.. from as far as milo is concern.. dun tell me he soo small gas meh.. lol..
what SM said is true also.. drugs is a big taboo leh.. esp when it comes to kids concern..
baby_berry
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LOL!! I see my thread had become a "talk everything under the sky" thread. Anyway, thanks for the advices. I dunno how old u all are but the way u are all conversing seems to be that you all seems rather old.
may_be_divorced_soon
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Old? Wow... heng ah...luckily I didn't make any comments in this thread till now...LOL...
may_be_divorced_soon
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Skylar,
My nick sounds old? hmm...let me go think of a younger one.
My nick sounds old? hmm...let me go think of a younger one.
may_be_divorced_soon
New Member
Skylar,
Hmm... does hello kitty sounds young? haha...what tax? what profit? This one cannot tax cos you are not contributing any 40FF xxx...keke...
Hmm... does hello kitty sounds young? haha...what tax? what profit? This one cannot tax cos you are not contributing any 40FF xxx...keke...
baby_berry
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hmm... that's the sentence that said "young at heart" that made me think that probably all of you are of the same age. You noe.. only ppl of a certain age then will say "young at heart" kinda thingy. Me... hmm... expiry date coming soon.. hitting my BIG 30 this year.. LOL!!
may_be_divorced_soon
New Member
Berrybaby,
You are another 1 fellow who equates expiry date = reaching 30! Alamak!!!
Btw, today I heard from the radio that old age sets in when we reach age 27... sad rite? But as long as we are happy, age doesn't matter, it is just a figure anyway.
Skylar,
Wow...machiam you know my age like this...keke.. ok lah...40FF limited stocks? Remember we are going into this market in a big way? Step up your production... quick quick quick....
You are another 1 fellow who equates expiry date = reaching 30! Alamak!!!
Btw, today I heard from the radio that old age sets in when we reach age 27... sad rite? But as long as we are happy, age doesn't matter, it is just a figure anyway.
Skylar,
Wow...machiam you know my age like this...keke.. ok lah...40FF limited stocks? Remember we are going into this market in a big way? Step up your production... quick quick quick....
may_be_divorced_soon
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Skylar,
But to make a reasonable profit amount, definitely must have a sizeable market. Unless you really think that you can sell each item for few millions? At the most, we do niche marketing, dun do mass marketing. keke...
I very chin chye one... as long as young can liao... hello kitty, ben 10, thomas, barbie all can...keke..
Ok lah... me gonna meet Mr Zhou liao... continue tmr... bye!
But to make a reasonable profit amount, definitely must have a sizeable market. Unless you really think that you can sell each item for few millions? At the most, we do niche marketing, dun do mass marketing. keke...
I very chin chye one... as long as young can liao... hello kitty, ben 10, thomas, barbie all can...keke..
Ok lah... me gonna meet Mr Zhou liao... continue tmr... bye!
sgbabydoll
Active Member
Just a question: If the man agrees to let the wife have sole custody of the child, will the Court just grants it like that?