Sex - role play?

[xiaoxing21]

i am in desperate need of answers, please help!

i would like to ask all males out there, what does role play in sex mean to you guys? i am having a hard time coming to terms with my h's role play fantasies. we've been doing it for a rather long time already and am starting to find myself less and less sexually excited whenever we have sex because it's always a role play theme. if im being selfish/stupid for minding, please tell me! i need to know if im being normal or a bit too up tight.

and girls, do you role play for your partners?

 

[patlim333]

I think you should ask your H instead. No guys here know exactly what role play theme you are in and why you not sexually excited. Unless you are with another person.

 

[xiaoxing21]

im definitely not with another person and my h and i love each other deeply. i just think we may have a slight deviation in sexual preference? we have sex quite freuently/healthily but its just the matter of him being overly excited when it comes to role play and not "making passionate love" which is what i am into. any comments? or am i being overly "emotional and girly"?

 

[ariesta]

actually the bedroom fun is up to the individual. wat ever is good for the mood is okay so long as it is not harmful to the body e.g. Extreme SM. every one has different sexual preference. just tat ur hb's sexual preference tends towards role playing. its not bad really. unless u r uncomfortable with the situation.
if so, perhaps u can voice out other suggestions. and wat do u mean by making passionate love? do u mean tat by role playing, u r not making passionate love? making passionate love is a state of mind. by getting him and urself in the mood for the "activity" u are also paving way for making passionate love.
R u more conservative in terms of love making and is not at hm with such role playing? you and your hb can take turns. today is his preferred methods. tomorrow is your preferred methods.there is no rite or wrong in love making.

 

[xiaoxing21]

what i mean is, during role play, it involves dress ups of teacher, school girl, police, nurse etc... different outfits, different looks. which sometimes i may feel he wants to sleep with those others and not me (his wife, a person he sees everyday, may be bored of). is that the case?

im writing in here just to get a feel of the "norm" in the "market" as i do not have that many sex partners and have no one to talk to about it. and thanks so much for whoever that contributes.

 

[pinkpiglet]

i think it depends on what type of person he is/what he fancies. Do what he likes. Some guys don't even like those dressups like teacher/school girls/police etc. To me, i feel sexy lingeries are more turn on to him and me compared to all these 'uniforms'. If ur husband is very into those jap girls, then maybe uniform roleplays would be good.

 

[albertri]

Hi Xiao Xing,

Stumble to your thread was surprise I have not seen any guys responded back. I think it's exciting to venture out of the normal sex style like role play but if this becomes very often it tends to be a bit boring to you or to your partner. In this case your hubby loves it thus he aways asked for it. I would suggest you talk to your hubby if possible we chance sex style from time to time e.g. this week role play next week romantic sex etc etc... So this at least makes both parties happy. Talk to him and ask him gently if we could try out other things I'm sure he wont mind.

I think role play is not that bad some hubby fetish is a bit extreme like they like to watch thier wife with someone

Think of ways to spice up your sex life so both parties will enjoy

I am glad you have a healthy sex life me and my wife are busy at work and we are lucky we get once a week hahaha.

 

[llhomme]

Its probably to spice up the bedroom fun and some cases, the sexually adventurous males, or females for that matter, will love to play out their fantasies with their loved ones. So, its not a matter of them wanting to sleep with the other parties but rather they just want to enjoy their fantasies with their loved one.

 

[susy27]

Yep, it's not a bad idea, playing different roles in bed.
but sometimes you are so tired that you do not want to do anything, especially dressing in various costumes.
all depends on your mood, inspiration, fantasy...
still, I envy couples that do have time and play such games, this mean that both are creative people with plenty of energy and forces while in bed.