distraught10
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Hi I need some advice here. My husband and I have been married for almost 9 years. Due to many issues he is now requesting us to part separate ways. We started having problems 6 years ago and they never really got resolved and were always being swept under the carpet. So, now it has come to a point where he said he won't be able to continue any further and now wants out.
the truth is, I could see this coming and it's only a matter of time one of us would break and now over a small argument, he decided we should settle this once and for all.
I told him I am not willing to split for the sake of our two children 5.5 years old (boy) and 1.5 years old (girl). even if that means I am trapped in a unhappy marriage. my children are my live. he is determined and wants us to take a child each and part amiably. he wants the boy and said I can have the girl. if i don't agree with the arrangement of the children, he'd spend all his will, money, to fight for custody to get the boy (or at least a child). I have some questions and would like to hear some of your advices.
I am working and is earning more than my husband. our flat is under both our names and his car is under only his name. my parents have been the primary care giver for my boy for 2 years since his birth, and my girl recently since my new maid started and needed a lot of coaching and supervision.
1) If i disagree to divorce and he said he will proceed with a lawyer anyway, what does this mean? Can he still proceed to divorce me anyway?
2) What are my chances with my children, if really divorce is the path to go, I would want to have custody for both children, what are my chances?
3) What should I do to increase the chances of me having custody for both my children?
4) is there anyone with similar experience which I could consult? or any good lawyer to recommend?
5) can i request for alimony from husband even though i earn more?
that's all for now. I am really confused and sad. the thought of it really makes my heart weep. thanks in advance for all your inputs.
the truth is, I could see this coming and it's only a matter of time one of us would break and now over a small argument, he decided we should settle this once and for all.
I told him I am not willing to split for the sake of our two children 5.5 years old (boy) and 1.5 years old (girl). even if that means I am trapped in a unhappy marriage. my children are my live. he is determined and wants us to take a child each and part amiably. he wants the boy and said I can have the girl. if i don't agree with the arrangement of the children, he'd spend all his will, money, to fight for custody to get the boy (or at least a child). I have some questions and would like to hear some of your advices.
I am working and is earning more than my husband. our flat is under both our names and his car is under only his name. my parents have been the primary care giver for my boy for 2 years since his birth, and my girl recently since my new maid started and needed a lot of coaching and supervision.
1) If i disagree to divorce and he said he will proceed with a lawyer anyway, what does this mean? Can he still proceed to divorce me anyway?
2) What are my chances with my children, if really divorce is the path to go, I would want to have custody for both children, what are my chances?
3) What should I do to increase the chances of me having custody for both my children?
4) is there anyone with similar experience which I could consult? or any good lawyer to recommend?
5) can i request for alimony from husband even though i earn more?
that's all for now. I am really confused and sad. the thought of it really makes my heart weep. thanks in advance for all your inputs.