No sex life

[happy_gigi]

Hi gals,

anyone face this prob. My hubby only have sex with me like once every month. It is not frequent. Y? I am normal lady. What happen? My hubby also nomrmal, no prob in terms of erection. y?

 

[cuclainne]

sometimes it's not just about being physically able to do the deed .. have you spoken to him about it?

 

[kessie83]

he might be stressed up with work or some family issues...

 

[cherrygirl]

i think the same as Kessie..

sometimes, stress can affect the drive..

 

[maybe_maybe]

there was another forum... where a woman also asked similar qn... end up she found out her hb had affair...

 

[happy_gigi]

HI Gals,

Thanks for the advice. In fact, i have been doin my duty well as a wife, take care of him, take care of child, take care of money. Have been in good terms with in laws. I spoken to him before, he just told me quality is more impt than quantity.
After work, he will watch tv. then i will slp with my child, so i wonder if it is becasue of the sleeping orietntation that decrease the chance of us gettign intimate.

At time, i do try to drop hints but it seem embarassed.

what shld i do?

 

[cuclainne]

why do you need to drop hints? you can initiate the intimacy - don't have to wait for him to do so.

 

[kessie83]

hmm maybe u can suggest to ur husband to give ur child his own room, so that he can learn to be independent from young. I think the sleeping arrangement might affect too..

maybe you can spice up ur sex life by putting ur child with the in laws during weekend, try to dress up a little more sexy (in lingerie)or initiate intimacy instead of waiting for him to perform. I guess they might be more turn on if u initiate than letting your husband initiate all the times..

 

[happy_gigi]

Hi Kessie,

OH I see. I cannot bear away with my child. In fact my child very sticky with me.

 

[cuclainne]

jeslyn, even if your child is sticky to you, you can still spend quality time with your spouse after your child has gone to bed.

i have two small children and it's complete chaos when we come home. but me and the husband have a routine, we deal with the kids' needs first and after they've gone to bed, it leaves us free to do what we want.

 

[kessie83]

yeah,, can try to put ur child to sleep early...or put them in their own room instead of slipping them conveniently between ur husband and u.

Do away those loose ugly cartoon pyjamas and switch to silk, lacy lingerie...u can try to get them from Victoria secret if u are too shy to shop and buy from shopping centres..

 

[cuclainne]

no need to wear lingerie .. wear nothing lagi best, do away with the need to take off the clothes .. time waster .. hahahah ..

 

[vios]

Hi jeslyn

i can't seem to gather more information from your posts... so,your hubby's question might be: how to have sex if the child's on the same bed?

 

[cherrygirl]

hhaha.. with regards to vios post " how to have sex if the child's on the same bed?"
fed the child with XO.. wahaha.. just kidding..

 

[cuclainne]

no need to even wait for child to fall asleep - just put on child's favourite DVD in the living room and do a quickie in the bedroom..

 

[kessie83]

too fast, too furious. hiak hiak

 

[cherrygirl]

what if quickie halfway, the child knocks the door.. keke..

 

[batmobile]

Jes,

consider urself lucky....my wife doesn't even want to have sex.......I last time we did was 6 months ago.

 

[idealone]

that was so long time ago man... still can tahan? i think you diy all this while ba... try to 'attack' her every night lor. if not try to do something to put her in the mood. women needs the feelings to get into action de...

 

[snow19]

wat if your husband is the kind tat do not haf much of the needs while the wife has more needs then the husband?

 

[findingnemo]

Jeslyn,

It could be due to one or more reasons:

1. Work Stress
2. Too tired
3. Health problems
4. Monotonous sex life/lack of romance
5. Seeking spiritual path which discourage sex
6. Lack of opportunity/right timing - child sleeping together, you are busy when he feels like it, when you free he doesn't feel like it, etc.
7. Worst case senario - affair

 

[lynette_ling]

Dear jes

you can try wearing a sexy lingerie for him to see when he is lying on the bed. Get him to touch you more and sometimes it helps.

 

[galwil]

I have faced such ED problems and I have used a lot of herbal medicines for sometime, but once my physician prescribed me Viagra, I just could not think of using something else. It has shown some very good results in my case and I am very much satisfied. I also got some good information about this pill from http://www.viagracare.com You need to consult a specialist because only they can let you know the exact reason behind your problem and can suggest you the most appropriate pill. For me Viagra has worked best, for you it can be something else.

 

[toyisme]

jeslyn,

i think your spare parts is getting bigger and loose and your man have no feel. it happend to me.

 

[lovingyou]

Jesslyn, desire of one might differs.. Hmm is your hubby working in a rather stressful environment? Does this happens only now or things started to change a little after you guys have your own children?