No gatecrash - ang bao for xiongdi/jiemeis?

[februaryyy]

Hi!

I'm getting married end of May, and we have decided to do away with gatecrashing as htb and I don't find it meaningful.

The question is - how much in ang bao do we give our bridesmaids and groomsmen (3 each)? They will be helping out with our church wedding and wedding dinner.

I don't want to come across as stingy but yet I also can't afford a big juicy ang bao..

Thanks in advance!

 

[kshir]

I think an alternative, is to give them a gift. I've seen people give bottles of wine, or jewellery, instead of ang pao. I think that would be nice, coz it also shows sincerity and thought into choosing the presents, and they need not be ex either.

 

[pejn17]

I'm a early May BTB.. and we are doing without gatecrash.. but will have a simple 开门红包 for my Maid of Honor whom will be "guarding" the door..
For the rest of them, we will give more to the Best Man as he will be doing quite a fair bit with HTB.. The rest will be about 58 - 68.. Brothers whom are driving will get extra as well, for their petrol.. Hope that helps.

 

[Terence Yong]

I have been 9 times jie mei for my friends. Own preference as helper on other's actual day is ang bao or a post-wedding celebration. No gifts pls.

 

[pejn17]

Ya.. I would prefer cash over gifts.. What you think they like might not be actually the case.. With cash they can do whatever they want ba..

 

[jkwedding308]

Hi!

I'm getting married end of May, and we have decided to do away with gatecrashing as htb and I don't find it meaningful.

The question is - how much in ang bao do we give our bridesmaids and groomsmen (3 each)? They will be helping out with our church wedding and wedding dinner.

I don't want to come across as stingy but yet I also can't afford a big juicy ang bao..

Thanks in advance!

We had gatecrashing but it was a simple one (the most lenient any of the groomsmen or groom himself have ever had to endure!!).. We gave each one about $80-$200 depending on the tasks that they had to handle. We gave them cash as we thought it would be more practical as they can use the money as they wish. Apart from the ang pow, we also treated them to a separate post-wedding meal after we returned from our honeymoon where we also passed them the souvenirs that we bought for them during our honeymoon.. As long as your sincerity shows, I'm sure your bridesmaids and groomsmen will be fine with whatever you choose to give them...