Need some help here. thanks

[cincin]

Hi all,

Actaully is a long story between my sis and bil. To cut short, my sis and bil had a huge quarelled just two days ago, I don't know what had happen to them to lead to this. They have been quarelling every now and then. Now my bil initiate a divorce and they just bought a flat last year and they have a son. He is really persisent on this, no matter how much i have said. He told in the past, he is using it to threaten my sis but now is for real and he have found a lawyer to do the process for him for separation.

Bil is chasing her out of the house and said he has pack her stuff, ask her to get ready to be out of the house by certain date.

As an outsider i feel their problem is becos of how the way they communicate... my sis tone to her hb is always sounding like commanding and loud, always nagging at whatever thing. I guess this is also becos bil was at fault inthe past as he loses alot in betting soccer match. I think there's still a chance to the marriage.

Where can my sis seek help in this matter if she wanna salvage the marriage?

What can my sister do if bil really chase her out of the house?

Is there any professional person that she can find to speak to her hb over this?

I really hope that the marriage can be salvage.

Thanks alot.

 

[jinnous]

You can get your sis and bil to go to family centres for counselling. There's a few you can find online. I can't remember the websites though. I check first....

 

[jinnous]

http://www.familycounselling.sg/

http://www.edora.sg/

 

[cincin]

Little poppets,

Thanks for help.

I have called up. The fees he charging is rather high. Afraid my sis can't afford i, my sis rather in the early 20s and just started working.

 

[jinnous]

How bout these?

http://www.carecorner.org.sg/cccc.htm

http://www.counsel.org.sg/index.cfm?GPID=7

 

[gbaby]

Hi Cin,
Your sis might want to try the Family Service Centres by MCYS.
http://app.mcys.gov.sg/web/serv_dss_searchLE_results.asp
I'm having some sessions with them. Each session only costs $20.

 

[cincin]

G-baby,

Thanks for providing the info.

Able to share with me, does this session help in your relationship or marriage?

Im still thinking of how can i make my bil to go for the counselling session when now he is so into divorce even my sis is willing to patch back or give in to him.

 

[cincin]

Is there any counsellor in the forum whom can help me to clear some doubts and questions?

 

[gbaby]

Cin, I only have my 2nd session with the counsellor. I guess counselling sessions do help in understanding better what you want in life or the r/s. Why is it that your BIL is determine to divorce? I don't think it was due to the huge quarrel they had right?

 

[cincin]

Gbaby,

I guess is becos a numbers of quarelling and unhappiness with my sister that set him thinking that he wanna end this marriage. Haiz....

Make him to go counselling with my sis will be a big challenge for me as both of them are unable to tok to each other in a good manner.