Need help, only married for 3 months.....

[SadlyNeedAdvice]

Hi i am only married for 3 months and within 3 major quarrels, she actually said we should divorce, this time i think i am agreeable to it. However the problem is we have just gotten a sale of balance flat, paid for renovation and actually moved in, what are the implications, how do we go about getting a divorce? any advice and lawyers to recommend?

 

[paperboat]

What's exactly the major problem that u think u cannot live and love each other anymore?

 

[SadlyNeedAdvice]

we quarreled almost every other day since we moved in to our new home, we quarrel over everything, even when i go overseas and work, and staying at home. its very stressful n hard to live with

 

[HUI tING]

I dunno wat has happen but Best to go for marriage counselling before any Decision.. Dun give up...

 

[heartales]

I guess feel that it is a pity to give up at this point in time. Both of you have walked a long way till now. Think of the time u proposed to her, planning the wedding, bidding for the new house and now renovated and moving in to the house. U should approach a counselor or a coach to guide you through your thoughts. I do have a coach to recommend, u can drop me an email at [email protected] if u need the contact. Don't give up just yet. Hang on!

 

[rabber]

Maybe you both are adjusting to married life together? What abut taking a break for a breather and come back to work things out?

 

[ooosh]

The problem here is not about the quarrels....rather you need to ask the fundamental reason WHY the quarrels started...and IF you and your other half can change to prevent this from happening.

 

[meowtinkle]

It's really a pity to end your marriage just like that, now it is just the beginning whereby both of u will stay together & adapt a new life. You may have to find out what actually went wrong that leads to quarrel. You can't possibly just quarrel without any cause. Maybe both of you have to sit down & try to solve things out between yourself. No one can help you other than yourself.

 

[PatChan]

Dun give up! could it be that the feng shui in ur flat needs some changes? look for alternatives! lay everythnig on the table and talk things out

 

[meimei1601]

If both still love each other and communicate work, its good for heart to heart talk, see a counsellor... sometime its good to get a total stranger to understand how he/she thinks about us... you may be surprise how he/she sees us. Dont ever spilt for the seek of "face" or anger... not worth it. While balancing between happy or not happy in relationship. why not think about what have u gain in relationship and what will you lose if u lost this relationship.

There is always a cause for quarrel. Can be the behavior of a person, the habit... talk it out...

 

[ginger888]

many things in life are so much complicated and in fact it is a dead serious issue, it is better to source advise from professionals instead in forum.

 

[curiohubby]

Counselling.

 

[So_much_for_happy_ending]

Maybe you should check out the fengshui of the house.

 

[harlelynn]

It takes many years to build up the relationship and get married. It take merely few days/months to just break up?? I hope your marriage isn't a game or just tearing up a piece of paper. I hope you won't give up on your marriage.

 

[sadman2009]

Question to ask:
1) Do you love her?
2) Does she love you?
If any of the answer is no, then on point to continue. Period.

 

[hitori]

Within a year still can annul not divorce, save u time. You got 9mths to work things out. Give it a try

 

[uglydude]

Annulment can work only if both parties agree...else G_G

 

[adelinahelpsyou]

Hi i am only married for 3 months and within 3 major quarrels, she actually said we should divorce, this time i think i am agreeable to it. However the problem is we have just gotten a sale of balance flat, paid for renovation and actually moved in, what are the implications, how do we go about getting a divorce? any advice and lawyers to recommend?

hi,
how things going on with your marriage life now?? did it get any better?

 

[drakengard]

Not sure but before marriage u 2 were staying separately?

 

[stephiey]

annulement can only happen when couples do not have a flat. in this case. they have to wait 5yrs to sell the flat before they can divorce.

 

[jonathantan]

Go for counselling. It helps

 

[Tan Xiao Ming]

Do you believe in fengshui? From what you wrote. Since move in to the new house then quarrel. Maybe the house fengshui is no good. Don't easily talk about divorce. They are ways to work it out together. Counselling is one of a good solution.

 

[verysadguy]

annulement can only happen when couples do not have a flat. in this case. they have to wait 5yrs to sell the flat before they can divorce.

Not true. Annulment can happen if both spouses agreed that the marriage is not consummate but take note that the flat has to be returned to HDB and can't be sold on the open market. That would mean you would be taking a loss as HDB only buys 90% of the valuation of the flat. Although my ex-wife and me can annul our marriage but we choose to divorce because we would be taking a great loss if we choose the annul road.

 

[verysadguy]

Go for counselling. It helps

useless. In the end, counsellor would say that it is up to both parties to repair the marriage. They can only advise from one side. If the marriage is beyond repair, no need to go counselling.

 

[verysadguy]

It takes many years to build up the relationship and get married. It take merely few days/months to just break up?? I hope your marriage isn't a game or just tearing up a piece of paper. I hope you won't give up on your marriage.

There has been more cases of couples married less than 1 year so it is not so true anymore that it takes many years to build up the relationship unless you watched too many TV shows which always show couples married after long and enduring journey. Not true in reality.