Agreed with qwerty.
We shld never try to persuade pple to divorce. What we can tell them is how they shld analyse the situation.
Why a woman wld forgive a man even after he made such mistake? Truth is, the love we have for our man and it's our nature to be forgiving. But it does take time to heal the wound and trust again.
If your fren is willing to give her husband a chance. It must have been something which she thinks is worth the effort.
I've been thru this before. I can fully understand why she can't stand the thot of be in the same car again. For me, I even hate the plc the gal stays and till now, I've never even step foot into that part of Singapore. But wound will be healed, only if the husband put in effort.
"Then hubby's d*** used by another woman, how come wife still continues to use his d***?"
How u know she dun mind? What we see here is a strong love a woman can give. What she wants now is juz concrete assurance from her hubby.
Zhiling,
Being her good fren, what u can do is listen to her. Do not give negative comments. Ask her what she wants. Give her time. Respect her decision. My best fren support me this way too. She gave me time to think. She respect it. And tell me since I decided to forgive, I must open my heart again, to trust again. It wun be easy for her but it will, eventually. After all, I survive thru this shit. And now, I'm happy I gave him a chance.
For others, if you think relationship is juz so fragile. To let go and juz let go. I think u've yet to find true love. Only when u're hurt this way, will u understand why this woman is behaving this way. But, I do not hope anyone to go thru such torment.
