Morning Ceremony

[rabber]

May I know what's the norm? What is expected?

We wanted groom to pick bride then go back to in-laws place and serve tea then come back to own place and serve tea.

But now mum change idea and say serve tea at mum's place first then go in-laws. She says save time.

OMG, really can't stand the changes and all these. Mum still sad I don't have to do anything, it's her who have to do everything so she rather it this way.

 

[rabber]

No, she was concerned about my relatives waiting around, not for me and my fiance.... the saving time is not for us since the drive is only 5 mins away. It's for them. We would need to have the tea ceremony for both ends anyway.

The thing is I think it's not nice to do this in case the other side may think why I have the tea ceremony with my parents first. I'll need to speak with my fiance.

what's the normal procedure though?

 

[lemonzil]

If i'm not wrong, traditionally speaking, groom fetches the bride then off to grooms place for tea ceremony then return home for tea ceremony.

but nowadays, people are more flexible. so some in laws actually don't mind. still, best to check with ur in laws. ultimately, they also want to be respected. especially if they are more particular about 'face'.

 

[rabber]

I also think so and I think my mum's request is weird. She said my relatives need to be there when groom picks me up but I thought its fine as long as my immediate family and jie meis are around.

Oh well... wedding frus.

 

[JasTab]

For tea ceremony, if younger cousins serve me & hubby tea, must we give 1 combined angbao to each cousin or 2 separate angbaos?

 

[Phoebenghx]

For tea ceremony, if younger cousins serve me & hubby tea, must we give 1 combined angbao to each cousin or 2 separate angbaos?

When I attended my cousin's tea ceremony, her hubby and her combined 1 angbao.