Just getting somewhere to vent this out...Since I cant talk to my hubby abt it... =(
Why can't in-laws accept the fact that after their children got married they are actually having one more Child at home and not another stranger?
Why cant they accept the fact that their family just grew bigger and not having a stranger in?
My MIL used to be so particular that I dont change the way how I address her after my ROM (before my AD that she make me postpone). While preparing AD keep complaining this and that, After AD she herself address my FIL as uncle to me.
Worst still, I have never felt a single moment that I was treated like a family to her, no matter what I do. For almost anything I'm always the one at fault, when my hubby and I brought lunch to work from home, my hubby left the containers and carrier in office, days later, she keep nagging on the missing container and carrier and insist that I'm the one who lost it, keep saying that it's the one that I used, and keep nagging at me for days, till I got so fed up and inisist my hubby to search for it again in office, just as I thought he locked it in his own cabinet and well forgotten about it, when we got home and she ask where was that found, (can tell she's waiting for me to say its me) I told her that it was my hubby who kept it in his own cabinet, she kept quiet with the disappointed face and just walk off. When her son fall ill for days to a week, she would sound as though I did not take good care of him. When I fall ill recently, she laughed at me saying I'm so weak! I'm freaking pissed off and wanted so much to talk back to her. To her, I'm just another outsider who stay in with them and simply have to give in to what ever they ask for.
She would even insist that I have to leave my car for their usage an hour before I leave for work when I not even informed beforehand, if I dont she would call and scream at me over the phone while I'm at work.
She will always come up with ad hoc expectation to be someone's driver that will crash my plans.
Sometimes I really so pissed that it really drag me going back there.
There are so many more other incidents that I seriously think that compared to the others, they are already considered very "good life" with their parents in law.
Why can't in-laws accept the fact that after their children got married they are actually having one more Child at home and not another stranger?
Why cant they accept the fact that their family just grew bigger and not having a stranger in?
My MIL used to be so particular that I dont change the way how I address her after my ROM (before my AD that she make me postpone). While preparing AD keep complaining this and that, After AD she herself address my FIL as uncle to me.
Worst still, I have never felt a single moment that I was treated like a family to her, no matter what I do. For almost anything I'm always the one at fault, when my hubby and I brought lunch to work from home, my hubby left the containers and carrier in office, days later, she keep nagging on the missing container and carrier and insist that I'm the one who lost it, keep saying that it's the one that I used, and keep nagging at me for days, till I got so fed up and inisist my hubby to search for it again in office, just as I thought he locked it in his own cabinet and well forgotten about it, when we got home and she ask where was that found, (can tell she's waiting for me to say its me) I told her that it was my hubby who kept it in his own cabinet, she kept quiet with the disappointed face and just walk off. When her son fall ill for days to a week, she would sound as though I did not take good care of him. When I fall ill recently, she laughed at me saying I'm so weak! I'm freaking pissed off and wanted so much to talk back to her. To her, I'm just another outsider who stay in with them and simply have to give in to what ever they ask for.
She would even insist that I have to leave my car for their usage an hour before I leave for work when I not even informed beforehand, if I dont she would call and scream at me over the phone while I'm at work.
She will always come up with ad hoc expectation to be someone's driver that will crash my plans.
Sometimes I really so pissed that it really drag me going back there.
There are so many more other incidents that I seriously think that compared to the others, they are already considered very "good life" with their parents in law.