How to please my wife?

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thinkinghusband

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Hi all,
Can give any idea on how to let my wife feel loved?

Ladies can share in what way would you love your husband more? What do you want he to do most?

Guys, any tips on making your wife love you more?
 


Use body and verbal mode of showing your affection.
Simple basic intimacy.

Cuddle more. massage and sayang her to sleep. Stroke and smell her hair, hug and kiss her more. Be generous with your compliments. Tell her how attracted you are to her.

Gals like such stuffs. Surprise her with small gifts sometimes and drop by surprise lunch once a while. Be attentive and a good listener. Take time to listen and refrain from disrupting. Offer advises and solutions only if she wants to hear them. Get involve in her interests. Show keen interests in them. e.g. accompany her to shopping and giving good opinion when selecting and trying on the clothes.
 
basically, women want their men to get involved in their lives while men just need their women to trust and be supportive to them.

Generally, they need more assurance to feel loved.

But of cos, these are only generally speaking. u gotta understand your wife better to understand and connect better. Only then, will u truly know and anticipate her needs. This is something women really appreciate. i.e. for a guy to be able to understand and anticipate her needs.
 
MiLo, hmmm...you sound like a good husb! Well, if you are doing all the above-mentioned
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supergal,

its about understanding what motivates her to pamper me more in ways I want and need. Its simply win-win.

One thing applies for both gender. Don't demand and expect. The more we do that, the less we will receive. Avoid the vicious cycle. The smart way to demand is simply discovering & understanding what your partner wants. Motivation works much better. When she is in the giving mood, that's why I can align my needs with her.
 
Be attentive and a good listener. Take time to listen and refrain from disrupting. Offer advises and solutions only if she wants to hear them.

For me, this is the key factor. Know what to say at the right time.
And when i action on something for her, it comes from my heart. Sincerity is equally vital.

btw, Nice stuffs, milo bro....
 
yah... and the only way we can learn this is through mistakes. To the TS, fear not to make mistakes. Just reflect on them and feedback so that she knows the effort u r putting in to learn and improve. No one can really read minds, so effective communication is the only way we can learn and grow.
 
I love it if my husband can send me a sms saying "i love you" 1 time a day. A Kiss good bye when send me to work, a kiss when reach home. More of concerns and understand.


Tattoo on your chest. "PROPERTY OF _________(ur wife name). Hahahaha!!!
 
Joey,

if done daily, it can dangerously become a chore. People are such, we will take something for granted very easily. I always believe, when I do something, I make sure it counts for something to that person. Not in terms of rewards but rather that it really matters to the recipient. If it doesn't count for something, then don't do it. Resources are limited, we don't do things for nothing and spoil our own market. It only set the wrong expectation in the woman to take me for granted.

I have done enough stupid things in my past relationships. Its enough. We often complains that we are taken for granted, but did we contribute to that as well? Knowing the right balance to achieve the best results is an art. We pamper our partners not because they are handicap or incapable to take care of themselves. Often, we overdo till the extend it does seems that way.
 
A simple sms a day is just to remind or let both party feel loved tat minute.

Etc.. After a long meeting, saw a sms from your love 1 saying "i love you", do you better after reading?

I agreed that overdo will not turn out that sweet.
 
Joey... it depends. Can be so subjective one
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not if I'm busy the whole day and by the time I'm home, she is asking me why I didn't reply. Only then, did I realize the sms. In that case, nono. I don't appreciate needing to monitor my SMSes all of the time in case I miss another SMS.

Even if its a daily sms, its better to have more creativity. "i love u" everyday also can become monotaneous. I rather alternate with other things to talk about and trigger her interest. I constantly ask myself, would it be boring to receive the sms. If yes, then I would think of something else. Something notti or cheeky at times and romantic or downright mushy other times.
 
MiLo..you shared very good views IMO!

..its about understanding what motivates her to pamper me more in ways I want and need. Its simply win-win..-> i totally agree with you on this!

just like last x'mas, husb pampered me with an LV bag...and he got a touch-screen phone + a new sound system for his car in return! so it's really kind of a win-win situation for us! we both got what we want!
 
I know what my hubby likes:

- to give him space to do his own things e.g. watch TV, surf net etc
- to nag less at him re small things like turn of the light, TV softer volume, coach children re homework etc
- to share his enthausiasm re cars, sports, makan etc
- to "praise" him regularly about everything and anything
- physical aspects (taboo so dont mention here lah...)

What else do guys like or dislike your other half to do?
 
kinky,

- show some interest and at least make the effort to understand what is offside, handball and referee kayu.
- when a man is not well, he likes to be pampered like a kid in bed.

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But, to me, what is most important being really comfortable and confident in who we are as a couple. No need for comparisons or 'proof' my love everytime. Pampering becomes a chore when we have to constantly to reassure our partners. That's no fun. Pampering has to be spontaneous thing to be enjoyable.
 
There is a difference between nag and feedback. Giving strong feedback works as reminders and reflection. Nags speaks for itself... it serves to irritate.

Basically, feedback is rational and objective. Straight to the point. Nags are emotional outburses and constant ranting over the same thing. Its about exercising some EQ over how you communicate and feedback.
 
"- when a man is not well, he likes to be pampered like a kid in bed."

Oh dear Milo, sorry but i dun quite get wat u mean here? Pampered as in? I don't think it's mothering him ard?? Paiseh but i'm not married yet, abt to be...
 
To TS,

maybe u can try help out the housework on ur own not till when she complain like husband nvr help? Or remem those anniversaries, surprise her with some small small gifts, pay attention sincerely when she wanted to talk to u. And most of all, do as wat u promised to her. Dun promise things without thinking and nvr do it, that would make her feel disappointed. Btw milo did give a very gd advice. U should try it out..
 
btw, where to get nurse uniform har? Not those sex shops one. Those are sluty nurse. Not realistic and made from cheapo fabrics.

Green, u r right. Not mothering but nursing the guy.
 
Milo buy through friends who are in the health care industry? arbo can try Nyp think they have the nursing course there. should have available.

Hahahaha u'll are bringing it to the just lie down and spread to please :P
 
you all see lah...

milo even knows the different types of nurse uniform, ranging from sluttish to adorable to what else arh?

he even hiam the fabrics from the sex shop...
maybe, can tailor-make for your wife?

keke.....
 
if you want to please your guy in bed using the uniform-theme... please find out his preferred fanstasy first hor....

don't suka suka come out with some clown suit and be a real turn-off...

hahaha
 
vios, pls lor..who will b so dumb to dress up as a clown to turn off her husband? i would tink dress up like xena is quite cool....hahahahaha

milo, r u surfing tat website now? hahahahaha
 
from my sales experience, men like their woman in bunny suit and nurse hee :P

anyway, I have read up that after many many years together .... really must do some stuff to spice up marriage life. Not only with lingerie lah, but maybe a short trip ... be a real good listener and GENTLE. Be gentle with ladies ... they will love it
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errrrr.... xena the warrior princess??????

auntie you don't know meh.... don't have to dress up as a clown to be a clown..

hahahahahahahahhahahahahahahhahahaha.....
 
yogibear, not the the bunny-suit though... i can't get it.

for me, the racequeen-type is pretty hot... maybe, too much coming from my tv dosage of formula one...
 
ya.. im referring to the first type. Can't get that leh.

doing it with Bugs Bunny will be kept as a record for some guys... heh

but def not for me.
 
bugs bunnyy..haha...

eh vios, dont u tink tat is better than dressing up like a clown?? mayb some guys fantasize abt xena leh? but for sure no 1 fantasize abt a clown...hahaha
 
hahahahaha!! yogi actually managed to find a pic to satisfy hbh....

yes tats wat usually happens altho we try our best not to hijack....sorrie bout tat
 
sorry, I do not have interest to screw rodents. Bunnies are cute to play with but not sleep with.
 


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