Honeymoon bills to be divided equally between the couple?

[pipipinky]

If the man is able to afford. Yet tells you to pay half the honeymoon bill. How to react? Not that I dont wish to pay but thought that if the man is able to afford. Why tells me to pay half?

How do couples pay for their honeymoon trip? Wedding packages also split equally among both?

 

[khanompang]

well, if he can afford, why can't the bride pay as well?

For me personally, I split everything 50-50 with my husband-to-be as I think its only fair for he works as hard as I do and if I can share the burden, why not? I feel happy paying as well (although I do grumble at times of the large output amount), because it gives me that independent feeling and let him knows that I am in control as well . My husband to be even reminds me at times that I owe him money (haha, when I forget to transfer the money to him).

Anyway, the last thing any couple should have is to quarrel over money matters because it's really pretty silly. If money can solve the problem, then its not a big problem actually! Then again, different couples have different perspective because every relationship is different and the way to work things out will be different Don't fret too much!

 

[Bnt]

well, if he can afford, why can't the bride pay as well?

For me personally, I split everything 50-50 with my husband-to-be as I think its only fair for he works as hard as I do and if I can share the burden, why not? I feel happy paying as well (although I do grumble at times of the large output amount), because it gives me that independent feeling and let him knows that I am in control as well . My husband to be even reminds me at times that I owe him money (haha, when I forget to transfer the money to him).

Anyway, the last thing any couple should have is to quarrel over money matters because it's really pretty silly. If money can solve the problem, then its not a big problem actually! Then again, different couples have different perspective because every relationship is different and the way to work things out will be different Don't fret too much!

Agree. I share 50-50 too with my HTB. Except for proposal ring. Ahahaha.. But other than that, we pay a fair share cuz we're both working.

 

[unhappy bride]

Waa.. this really tricky to answer, especially money issue. Put emotions aside first. There are many things, you might want to sit him down and ask him show some concern towards him, could it be the wedding bill stressing him out, or eating into his own saving? That pushes him to voice out to you? What is his definition of half? If there's shopping involved he also half with you?
It's our culture ever since our Mother era, guy pay for both return Air tix's, Accommodation, Food & Transport. Shopping usually woman pay for ourself, to be fair to your partner. Unless he mention he pay for your shopping, it's a bonus otherwise Now things have changed. If you both earn the same amount of salary now, chances could be also 50/50. IF both earn slightly different amount of salary, then usually is either the one who earn more pay eg. 70% & the lesser pay 30% of the bill. This is just my point of view, also don't have to agreed with me or probably don't listen too much opinion, that would only get yourself confused.. always remember, marriage is 2 person thing. Be sure to be resonable in order to iron things out smoothly to an agreement. End of the day.. Choices are still made by both of you.

 

[unhappy bride]

By the way, if he personally tells you he can afford the honeymood after all the overalls, Wedding photo album/ Banquet/ Dowry/ Engagement ring & all the other bills. YET need you to pay half for the honeymood, he could be probably teasing you or testing you. Go find out.

 

[klaz]

My htb is paying more for the wedding as he's earning more. But to be fair I volunteered to pay for smaller stuff like the engagement rings and photo/videographer even though he nv ask me to.

Agree to the above posts, don't let money be causing you two unhappiness.

maybe he should have put it across nicely and you probably can try to understand if he has any financial difficulties that you may not be aware of?

 

[xellos]

Typical local girls, husband alr paid so much on the wedding yet you cannot come out w half when he is not even demanding you to pay the whole cost. I pity your husband man marry the wrong woman. Do us a favour and just get yourself a oil business husband maybe?

 

[lemonzil]

my hubby and i dont split any expense. We just combine everything together and do our sums from there.
We dont normally have any issues like who's paying more - we are married = one body.

dont let money matters bring u down since he's going to be your lifetime partner.. it is one reason why many couples fight but learn to look at it from a different view.

 

[snowbell09]

I will always split half for our trips & holidays unless he volunteer to pay fully for Eg Air Tix or hotel stay then balance we split.

Modern women shouldn't rely on our men to pay for everything even if he can afford. We women can afford too!