Help/Advice Needed For Divorce!!!

helen_052783

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I'm married for more than 5yrs but I am already very tired to go on in this marriage. I really need help/advice to sourcing for divorce. Pls whoever out there is an expert or in this line of work or has expert advices pls help!!! I'm desperate and I do not have anyone to help me!!
 


First, you need to know the reason for the divorce and make sure that you can justify it. Next, go to a law firm and tell the lawyer about it. You also need to know if your ex-spouse would contest the divorce or not. If there are kids involved, it would be more complicated.
 
Thank you so much for getting back to me... Don have kids cos relationship/marriage is unstable tats how I feel n think cos of each other's behaviors.. Situation is whenever he gets real angry he can b violent n like using his strength to destroy things at home, don talk or think reasonably, keep saying to die, using vulgar words on me etc.. He is totally change to another person who don care bother anything n can b really dangerous to me n himself.. His anger characters attitudes r wat I cannot tolerate anymore. When he did s'thing wrong/not correct as he din think much he will still not take it in when I explain to him. Jus recently he help to clear stuffs at home to prepare for CNY n threw many things, as I got home I realized he threw away my stuffs w/o checking w me. Another most unacceptable reason he gave me was I don know wat I threw away.

The stuffs he threw away are my collectible carriers.. I spent many yrs effort to collect them. No matter wat items they r, it meant a lot to s'one although it may mean nothing/less value to u. So I talked to him expressing explaining my sadness my heart pain w/o yelling shouting or screaming which I did in d past n also jus cannot accept his reason he did not know wat he threw away n also w/o checking w me!! I really don know wat he was thinking! When u help pack s'one's stuffs n not sure of wat to do, have to check w tat person..

So he exploded w/o understanding realizing the value of d stuffs.. He did all tat I said above when he angry.. Now d collectible carriers is not of much issue but is his character attitude personality tat r a big matter. All these yrs when he gets angry he will jus explode n did all above..

I'm really v tired hopeless.. He did all these n today he jus told me to forget abt it. How in d world can I ever jus put it down.. All these yrs he reacted in tis behavior actions doesn't he realize n know tat it's hurting me??? How many more times must I go thru endure?? I'm v tired...
 
When we quarrel thr's no way to get proof evidence to justify.. I can only say divorce only under unreasonable unacceptable behavior.. Now we r tgt bcos we r used to each other.. Can't say we love each other anymore cos our love has diminished..

When he wrong I cannot say or pinpoint, when he hurt me so bad so sad w all these actions n vulgarity I feel sad I cannot cry cos it will only irritates him...

If I say to divorce all I said he will do n say all over again.. No way to talk sense or reasonably.. Only explosion fr him and go thru all these over again..
 
i fully agree with you. he is no longer can be loved or correct one to stay together. he is not doing his part as a team as couple.
 
When we quarrel thr's no way to get proof evidence to justify.. I can only say divorce only under unreasonable unacceptable behavior.. Now we r tgt bcos we r used to each other.. Can't say we love each other anymore cos our love has diminished..

When he wrong I cannot say or pinpoint, when he hurt me so bad so sad w all these actions n vulgarity I feel sad I cannot cry cos it will only irritates him...

If I say to divorce all I said he will do n say all over again.. No way to talk sense or reasonably.. Only explosion fr him and go thru all these over again..

Looks like unreasonable behaviour can be used as a reason. If you are really ready, go to a law firm to prepare the writ of divorce. Uncontested would be about 3.5k. For contested divorce, it can reach about 10k.
 
When we quarrel thr's no way to get proof evidence to justify.. I can only say divorce only under unreasonable unacceptable behavior.. Now we r tgt bcos we r used to each other.. Can't say we love each other anymore cos our love has diminished..

When he wrong I cannot say or pinpoint, when he hurt me so bad so sad w all these actions n vulgarity I feel sad I cannot cry cos it will only irritates him...

If I say to divorce all I said he will do n say all over again.. No way to talk sense or reasonably.. Only explosion fr him and go thru all these over again..

So sorry to hear that, dear girl...
I can totally understand because i'm facing a similar situation as you are.

He is so explosive most of the time! His horrible temper is something i cannot tolerate anymore.
His words are very hurtful too.
Trying to talk to him calmly about DIVORCE will only end up in more physical & verbal abuse.
I think any other woman would have left him a long time ago.

Are you also living with his family? His parents and siblings?
Do you have anywhere you can go? Your family house maybe?
 
Looks like unreasonable behaviour can be used as a reason. If you are really ready, go to a law firm to prepare the writ of divorce. Uncontested would be about 3.5k. For contested divorce, it can reach about 10k.

Do you mean to just march into the lawyer's office or court & request for divorce? Is there a simpler way?
How about if i were to do it on my part alone?
Because there's no way he would agree amicably without starting any fighting matches.

What if she has no place else to go?
Would that pose a major problem? Thanks for your help.
 
Do you mean to just march into the lawyer's office or court & request for divorce? Is there a simpler way?
How about if i were to do it on my part alone?
Because there's no way he would agree amicably without starting any fighting matches.

What if she has no place else to go?
Would that pose a major problem? Thanks for your help.
You need to make an appointment with the lawyer. You can do it alone but it would be a contested one since he did not agree amicably. You would need to find a place to stay first. Try visiting the family centre first and talk about your situation. Once you have a place to stay, there would not be any problem. HDB can also give you a rental unit to tide you over.

what would happen is that the lawyer would send a write of divorce to the defendant (your hubby) and he needs to make a decision to contest or don't contest the divorce. Are there kids involved? No kids would be easier. Your life is what you choose.
 
Any recommendations on lawyers? Facing the same problem, already spent 10k on divorce but the house is still not sold as the title deed is missing, wish to seek for a new lawyer for help. Any one have contact of lawyers that is good and quick in response?
 

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