"Guo Da Li (过大礼)" ??

<font color="119911">jhoo, how long have u started planning?
beside GDL, u still need to hv shutou date, MUA, PG timings, BS photoshoot..photoselection..then purchase of new clothes for the whole family..alot of other minor minor details..such as march in music, emcee, coordinator, drivers, sisters, brothers for AD</font>
 


Hi Kitty,

Dun look down on your figure or face..we are all ordinary ppl and my figure is also not that good lor, have been trying to discipline myself to slim down, but its so tough..too much work and have to do OT everyday that can only eat my dinner at 10pm. short somemore and worried gown may not fit me nicely and i have round face so it will be a headache when come to hairstyle..but I just go ahead to have PS so that there're a few photos to keep and show to our kids in future..just like now, our parents wedding photo will be flashed in our banquet..heh heh...but think will be grumble by them after the wed...hahaha..

of coz wedding is still btn the couple. As long as both of you have made a firm decision of what both of you want, then all of us will support too as it's the married life that we are all looking forward to be even better!

Hi Cheezz,
Me started since last yr Jul - purchase the tong shu and trying so hard to understand and choose the date, at the same time research on the hotel..our AD is 27 Jan 07..still quite a few months to go..anyway, just before i forget, can u share with me your experience on the timing of your AD? for eg, my hubby reach my house at 7am, so roughly what time will set off to his home after all the sabotage etc...and the timing end at my mum's home? we are staying very close to one another, less than 10 mins drive from his home to my home, and less than 15 mins from my mum home to our new home..at the same time, we will be going for our outdoor shoot on our AD with our jiemei, will be allocating one hr and tpt time will be 15-20mins since we are choosing somewhere nearby.

Shutou date will be the nite before, am i rite? think my mum duno such thing..my sis is married but her customary was held at Malaysia and all those things were arranged by her PIL so my mum is rather new to such thing..

MUA is confirmed by our BS, PG timing is confirmed too but may vary depending on the situation we will face that day..Huh? must choose new clothes for whole fam? what's the purpose? For the banquet?Music - hehe, done and just need sometime to design the cover page and will be getting my bro to do it as he's graphic designer..emcee - shortlisted and script will be done at later date..coordinator, jiemei, bros - shortlisted and will be informing them 3-4mths before the AD. Driver - my Hubby!...

Guess there're even more nitty gritty things yet to be identify by us..haha
 
hi jhoo, u mean d tong shu hv next yr dates???
im trying to get dates for next yr but d fengshui master told me tongshu for next yr will not be out till aug lor..
 
<font color="aa00aa">hi jhoo,
since u and hb stay so near, then he can set off at 6.30am..but ur MUA &amp; PG has to come at least 5am!! u got to topup extra for such early timings..how abt ur GDL cakes, tampui, toothbrush, toothpaste, wine..err..some other minor things like baihe, lianzhi..</font>
 
Hi Pingypooky,

The current tong shu last till 17 Feb 2007(if i rem correctly)..the dates after 17 feb will have to wait for the next tong shu..yar, its ard that month (jul/aug) tong shu will be out..if u go to Jan'07 thread, there are ppl getting couple refer to internet tong shu, maybe you want to try..but then the date at tong shu indicate good but internet say not good..think its up to the couple to decide which one they prefer and believe bah..

Cheezz, so early ar...duno my eyes can open anot..so one hr is not enuff for the MUA?i wanted to allocate one hr only..the rest of GDL item im still collating and then will show to my parent and PIL when our GDL date is cmf..just went to find out more about mattress at imm and it's so exp..almost $1.3K for divan set...XXXXxxxxx...but no choice..will go to mega mattress to look at other mattress before deciding to purchase from where..
 
hi jhoo, thanks for the info... i will go and check it out again...

thanks again
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<font color="aa00aa">hi jhoo,
abt the MUA timing, thk u hv to confirm with your BS, depends on whether you want to be ready wen ur hb comes or u want him to wait..1hr definately not enuff...for make up &amp; hair.
btw, wen is ur anchuang? u no need to buy divan set so early..ur hse reno completed? buffet, wine caterer found?</font>
 
hihi... may i noe where sells many of those stuff we need use for on the day of customary wedding? like teapots, candles, etc? btw, what are the things we need ah? can someone pls advise? I dunno anything... Thanks!
 
ok, i will check with the BS again on the timing..

maybe I will get the divan first, then the mattress on later date (for GDL). i need the height so that i can get my dad to complete the bed side carpentry like the mirror and drawer (more for alignment purpose for getting the Divan/mattress)...I'm planning to get all furniture done this April when my dad's schedule is available..

Yah, my house is abt 85% complete..left the bed side carpentry, partition, dinning feature wall...Next sat, my curtain will be installed... other than that, i will still need to buy lighting and get my bro-in-law to install for me..(hehe, cheap cheap for my hs coz i have a few professionals at home doing highly discounted or free things for me)...at the last stage will be purchasing of fridge, washing machine and TV..and yeah!..a nice nice home awaiting for our big day...

For GDL, should be in late dec or early jan...yah, i have been collecting the pamphlet of different buffet caterers. Wine, no idea where to buy..any good suggestion of the place and brand of red wine? anyway, i have abt 25 tables and abt 10 tables are for relatives and think they seldom drink red wine, the most beer, so how many bottles do u think i should get?

Astrogirl, I rem there's a shop in Jurong West sell those customary items..and the girl there can advise us the items accordingly to our dialects...if u are interested, let me find out more about the shop coz my hubby's stayed ard that area when he was young...The girl was in TV before...
 
<font color="aa00aa">hi jhoo,
u can get those consignment wine, no need to worry abt anythg...buffet..u hv to try then u know wat u like lor </font>
 
Hi Astrogirl,
I didnt really follow the custom. I still met my HB within 24 hrs to our AD.
As my AD was 26-Dec-05, 25-Dec-05 was Xmas day, so we still meet and i done my pedi/medi whereas he also went with me to do his pedi... hee hee
 
Astrogirl,
As for getting the customary stuff, you might want to go to Chinatown market (Near to CK/ Chang Cheng Porridge), there are 2 shops which sell the stuff, you just need to tell the auntie your dialect and she will get the stuff ready for you.

For purchase of teapot, table lamps, the basin , needles &amp; threads and etc, will cost less than $100.00
 
hi cheezz,

during the tea ceremony, do u give angbao to your younger siblings and those cousins who are younger &amp; older than you?Some couples do give out angbao to them.. do the cousin serve tea to you too?
 
<font color="aa00aa">er..no..i didnt buy, the prices are very exp..btw, they aso provide delivery to singapore, u can go there and take a look,is just next to the JB customs..CitySquare.</font>
 
<font color="aa00aa"> hi jhoo,
we dun practice that for our dialect group..we dun give ang pow to the youngers</font>
 
My friends have bought their GDL stuff @ HUP KEE COMPANY (Beauty World Centre #01-15, Tel 6466 3626). The uncle (traditional man in his 60s) was very helpful and funny. He is very familiar with the customs.
 
Yeah, last sat when i brought my little nephew to beauty world centre to see doc, i saw a few shops selling GDL items...Now there're a few choice for me to buy GDL items liao, and also no worry which dialect for me and hubby since the staff there can help...phew!
 
HI Cheezz,

Nope, im waiting for Great S'pore sales and hope i can buy a much better jewel with my MIL's budget..hehehe
 
Hi Cheezz,

on the day of GDL &amp; an chuan, what do we need to do? eg my hubby come to my home with... and ....
 
<font color="aa00aa"> hi jhoo,

on the day of anchuang, we are no supppose to be there..as for GDL, we just need to stay at home and wait lor</font>
 
<font color="aa00aa">hi jhoo,
is your PIL not your parents (groom's parents), not only lay bedsht, got to place something at the 4 corner &amp; read some lines..like shutou ..btw, are u on yahoo messenger</font>
 
<font color="aa00aa"> hi jhoo,
add u into my msn.

hi tsukshi,
why do u want to skip ? frankly speaking i aso duno wat is the meaning..some say after anchuang, then can get one boy to jump on the bed to symbolise the couple will have a male heir</font>
 
Hi ladies

I am new and having a great headache for GDL? Anyone can let me know what to buy and what to do for GDL? going to break down soon.

dd
 
<font color="aa00aa">hi jhoo,
you nvr online leh...
hi dd,
relax lah~ go chinatown to check out the GDL stuff</font>
 
hi dd

there are a few places where u can seek advice
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i'm staying in the west and have been recommended by a bride on this site to go blk 506 and look for clara. Been to the shop and was told by clara to come back one month before my AD
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so don't worry too much!
 
helo cheezz..usually im online for a while at nite..ard 8+ and 10+, but u not ard too.haha...

Rainnqq, but we need to be there to purchase GDL item rite..so one month before GDL?
 
Hi Rainnqq and Yafang

My AD is in june 2006 and nothing is being done or arrange. Parents meeting up early next week, my FH wants to know what to get for GDL and AD. I have totally no idea of what to get or do.

Yafang, Thanks for offering your help. I really appreciate it. Do you have the list of things we must buy....or do? can you send to my email, [email protected]

I think i will look much older from now till AD...
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Hi dd

accordingly to clara, GDL normally done before one week before AD. Since your parents are meeting up, probably they already know what are the customs and basic stuffs required. If you want to do some research ahead, head down to the shop, let them know you and your FH's dialect group and the shop owner should be able to let you know the basic stuffs.

I remember seeing a post under this same thread (under archives) where a bride has actually listed out in detail the basic items. That should be a reference already if you guys are going basic and simple
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At times, if both side parents don't mind, no need to do too elaborate.. else really can be pretty troublesome. I intend to just do basic :P scared I do too much end up creating more mistakes haha
 
but will one week before then give relatives invite card, will it be too late?

i oso hope mine will not be too elaborate..rainnqq, when's ur AD?
 
Hi Ladies,
May I know where is the best and cheapest place to get GDL stuff? I heard Chinatown has some shops but which part of Chinatown? I went to Beauty World at Bukit Timah and most of the shops quoted me 100-200 bucks.
 
Hi Rainn

Thanks for your advise. Both my FH &amp; myself want it to be as simple as possible but I hope our parents will think the same.

When is yr AD?
 
greekgal, 100-20 includes what?

For the stuff my FH side need to give me, everything costs around S$60. For the stuff my parents need to give me, add up to around S$60 also.

Then still need to add $ for hard liquor, mandarin oranges, sweets, orange juice new bedsheet and comforter set, etc.

My GDL will be 2 weeks before AD. Parents already spread the word on the date, venue and time, so everyone already informed, just left the formal invitation. By right, the girl's side dun even need invitation cards. It is suppose to be by word of mouth when distributing wedding cakes.
 
<font color="aa00aa">hi ladies,
for GDL, the bride side will hv more things to buy then the groom such as teapot, table lamp pillow, comforter, tampui,etc</font>
 
JHoo, dd, my ad is 9 dec this yr. Both FH and I also opting for something simple and not elaborate. Both our parents also not demanding.. my parents only asking for more ping jin for them to hold another dinner back at my place.

Actually.. nowadays think most couple pay for their GDL stuffs themselves instead of the parents. EVeryone is more open minded nowadays
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Oh Jhoo..

the wedding invites would have been out long time ago. The gDL is more or less like a customary thing that we are just doing only... hmm at least that's what I think both me and my FH are doing :P hehe..
 

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