Getting divorce - Pls help.
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is annulment very troublesome? do i need to engage a lawyer? anyone able to provide a gauge of how much it costs?
it's never an easy decision, but i am sick of getting criticised when i ask for more of his care and concern.
he has little time for me, even on weekends. when i grumble about it, he reprimands me and tells me that what i am asking for (his time and even just a caring sms on a sunday) are very unreasonable demands.
after we got married, he only suggests visiting places near our area out of convenience. where other people celebrate special occasions, he says there is nothing to celebrate and we should just stay at home.
when we are outside, he glances at pretty girls who walk past. when i ask him if i look nice, he tells me yes, but then lists a long list of things for me to improve on.
we have been quarrelling frequently and i feel that there is no point carrying on. i feel that i will be happier as a single person. at least there is no one around to put me down or make me feel bad by criticising me.
the problem is he doesn't want to annul, as he is in denial. he thinks that there is nothing wrong with us and that i am stirring up things.
it's never an easy decision, but i am sick of getting criticised when i ask for more of his care and concern.
he has little time for me, even on weekends. when i grumble about it, he reprimands me and tells me that what i am asking for (his time and even just a caring sms on a sunday) are very unreasonable demands.
after we got married, he only suggests visiting places near our area out of convenience. where other people celebrate special occasions, he says there is nothing to celebrate and we should just stay at home.
when we are outside, he glances at pretty girls who walk past. when i ask him if i look nice, he tells me yes, but then lists a long list of things for me to improve on.
we have been quarrelling frequently and i feel that there is no point carrying on. i feel that i will be happier as a single person. at least there is no one around to put me down or make me feel bad by criticising me.
the problem is he doesn't want to annul, as he is in denial. he thinks that there is nothing wrong with us and that i am stirring up things.
yesno333
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Annulment is not troublesome la...except both parties must consent to it...u can still go ahead to file for annulment if one party dun agree..but must pray he/she dun contest it la....if he/she contest it during the 3 months window period one party file..it will be void...and the money spend on annulment is as good as gone with the wind....cost ranges...someone mention tat it can cost as low as 1.7k on this forum....
Anyway marriage is abt compromise...whether to continue with it...is still up to u...coz no one really knows what is happening except urself...
There are also ppl out there who just prefer to be single...so subjective all i can say...it all depends on the individual....some like marriage life some dun..simple as that...
U can still file for annulment....except pray each nite for 3 months he dun contest...other then tat...wait 4 years for divorce i guess....seriously...annulment is still best if ur hubby agrees to it...contest annulment is problematic all i can say....
If in doubt do ask ur lawyer...><"
Anyway marriage is abt compromise...whether to continue with it...is still up to u...coz no one really knows what is happening except urself...
There are also ppl out there who just prefer to be single...so subjective all i can say...it all depends on the individual....some like marriage life some dun..simple as that...
U can still file for annulment....except pray each nite for 3 months he dun contest...other then tat...wait 4 years for divorce i guess....seriously...annulment is still best if ur hubby agrees to it...contest annulment is problematic all i can say....
If in doubt do ask ur lawyer...><"
yesno333
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Biggy...annulment is to void the marriage...under the law once a marriage is annulled it will be treated as it never happens before....u r allows to put in single status instead of divorce when u fills up forms next time....
Adultery needs proof...and proof for adultery is DIFFICULT with a capital "D".....anyway i am not sure what u means by ur friend spouse accuse her of adultery...i assume in a fit of rage during arguement he accuses her of adultery for watever god knows reason....No accusations for consequences unless there is physical violences...since words can be over-turned...no proof nothing....
Adultery needs proof...and proof for adultery is DIFFICULT with a capital "D".....anyway i am not sure what u means by ur friend spouse accuse her of adultery...i assume in a fit of rage during arguement he accuses her of adultery for watever god knows reason....No accusations for consequences unless there is physical violences...since words can be over-turned...no proof nothing....
he doesn't want to annul. i forwarded him the contact of a marriage counsellor. he said he would go but only if i arrange everything.
basically, his whole focus is somewhere else. he wants me to handle everything related to our marriage. i don't mind that if he treats me kindly, but he doesn't.
what happened to your friend's marriage, biggy?
basically, his whole focus is somewhere else. he wants me to handle everything related to our marriage. i don't mind that if he treats me kindly, but he doesn't.
what happened to your friend's marriage, biggy?
yesno333
Member
Marriage definitely needs a lot of compromise....i am going to just say this....not everyone enjoys marriage life.....some does some don't....
For me if u want to be single...at least u need to be financially stable...in all aspects....unless u wants to be married again....
Anyway i am anti-marriage....but i still hopes that those who are already in marriage try their best to work things out....quit only when it is really not something u wants...><"
For me if u want to be single...at least u need to be financially stable...in all aspects....unless u wants to be married again....
Anyway i am anti-marriage....but i still hopes that those who are already in marriage try their best to work things out....quit only when it is really not something u wants...><"
Sigh, my friend doesnt love the spouse at all. They married because of getting a flat, but now heard that my friend found another person therefore feels that it's better to divorce then going on with the no love marriage. Now the headache part is how to get this done and how long will that be.
yesno333
Member
The best way for annulment is both parties agree to it....u ask any lawyer they will says the same thing....
Yup and assume the party u are filing against dun contest the verdict...there will be a 3 months window cooling period....
In the duration of this 3 months...if the other party contest against the annulment....G_G...
They dun need any special reasons...for eg...u file for annulment due to non-consummation....all the other party need to do...is contest and says that sex actually happens....then out goes the annulment....
Why i say non-consummation...coz it is the easiest reason to get ur annulment done...other reasons...u r better off waiting for 4 years to divorce....coz not so easy to prove...><"
Yup and assume the party u are filing against dun contest the verdict...there will be a 3 months window cooling period....
In the duration of this 3 months...if the other party contest against the annulment....G_G...
They dun need any special reasons...for eg...u file for annulment due to non-consummation....all the other party need to do...is contest and says that sex actually happens....then out goes the annulment....
Why i say non-consummation...coz it is the easiest reason to get ur annulment done...other reasons...u r better off waiting for 4 years to divorce....coz not so easy to prove...><"
yesno333
Member
Hmm...another way...file for separation n divorce...but plea is based on the doctor saying that this marriage is harmful for ur friend...ur friend need to go see private psychiatrist to get proof....if u r lucky u can get early divorce..if not another 3 years wait........Early divorce is not easy....ur friend better get annulment if she wants out of the marriage...
Dun forget for women youth is ur bargaining chip....so the longer u wait...ur friend new bf...might not have the patience...so GL on this....
Dun forget for women youth is ur bargaining chip....so the longer u wait...ur friend new bf...might not have the patience...so GL on this....
Hi lily and all out there
What is the difference between filing for divorce, separation and annulment? Do we need to get lawyer to get it done?
Lily
Same like you. My hubby wanted me to handle everything for the marriage...saying once the document is here he jst signed...but i have no idea hw to go about...can u advise me
What is the difference between filing for divorce, separation and annulment? Do we need to get lawyer to get it done?
Lily
Same like you. My hubby wanted me to handle everything for the marriage...saying once the document is here he jst signed...but i have no idea hw to go about...can u advise me